Hoping For The Best Yet Expecting The Worst?

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What happens when you know for a absolute certainty that you’re going to be late?

You know this because you only left the house five minutes before you’re due to arrive and you’ve got a twenty minute drive ahead of you.

Aargh.  You were busy doing nothing. What the heck was going on?  Just faffing around with all kinds of things that make no matter to anyone, and recently it was me who was the faffer.

What does matter is what you say to yourself, it matters what your thoughts are…are you likely to be singing, hey ho, I’m really late, tra la la?

Err, probably not.  I know that’s not what’s on my mind.

The more likely thought is, boy I’m so late, I’m done for…my goose is cooked!

And what about when things are challenging or there’s so much to get done. Do you find yourself saying, wow this is so hard, I’ll never get this done…I really can’t do this ~ or are you saying its easy, how great that I did it.  Phew, that feels good.

This used to be me.

I was reminded of the old me the other day.  My friend was telling me,  “Well, I hope for the best but expect the worst and that way I’m not disappointed when it doesn’t work out the way I want”.  I remember thinking those exact same words before I knew better.

My standard response today is a direct quote from my mum “if you don’t know what’s going to happen…which you don’t…why wouldn’t you spend time thinking of what you want rather than what you don’t want?”.

Usually greeted by blank looks from me?  What?

How about this scenario.  You’re in the hospital, diagnosed with a serious illness, would you  think “Oh well, that’s it then, I might as well assume the worst, so that I’m not disappointed when I kick the bucket”?

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No.  You wouldn’t. You would assume that you will beat the illness, so would everyone else around you.

Because we fight for life.  If it’s a question of life or death, we fight and we believe we can overcome anything.  We are prepared to deny all kinds of facts and statistics.  And that’s the key.

Take a minute and try to notice your inner state of mind.

To what thoughts are you consenting? With what feelings are you identified? You must always take care where you are within yourself.  If your reactions are  not in harmony with your ideal, it’s a sure sign you’re separated from it…thinking of it.

Are you expecting the worst?  Believe me when I tell you, that’s exactly what you’ll get.  Every state of consciousness is mirrored back to us in our world.

How interested are you in living your ideal life?

How much do you care about flowing effortlessly through your day?  Be as passionate for your desire as though it’s your life. Be as focused on the best results, the greatest experiences, the happiest day as though it’s your life.  Because it actually is.

As I said to my friend, “How do you like them apples?”  She liked them, it felt much better than hoping for the best yet expecting the worst.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

xoxo

 

ElleSommer
Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. You can also find her on Healthy Natural Oils her new website for helping you get started with essential oils for more natural health, well-being happiness and success in your life!

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15 Comments

  • Wow, love this!! And love the bucket picture.
    The ‘expect the worse’ people are such downers. Can’t hang with them.
    My first day back to reading blogs – I lvoe that yours is my first uplifting and happy one! Thanks again for putting a smile on my face.

  • Hi Elle,

    How funny, I was just sorting toys (to stay, to go, to donate) in a red bucket EXACTLY like that one.

    While I am not always in the “imagine the best POSSIBLE scenario” state, I do aim to focus on that just a bit better than my best case scenario that my little mind thinks is believable. Every once in a while when I manage a better state than that, I reach higher 🙂

  • Love this post! I am almost always expecting the best. And I’m very rarely disappointed. And if life doesn’t give me what I thought I wanted, then I’m glad I didn’t spend too much time thinking about it ahead of time.

    PS Love your example of expecting the worst at the hospital. Sadly, I think there are really people who do that though.

  • Elle,
    My favorite apples are Fuji also.

    Great post.
    I love this statement which sums it all up for me:

    Are you expecting the worst? Believe me when I tell you, that’s exactly what you’ll get. Every state of consciousness is mirrored back to us in our world.

    I’d rather expect the best and be disappointed that expect the worst any day!
    xoxo,
    Angela

  • Elle,

    Your posts make me smile and think ‘oh yeh, she is hitting the nail on the head with this one’.

    All of what you said is a good reminder on how what we think is exactly what we’ll get. Until 10 years ago,I thought I was a ‘realist/optimist’. HAH…how untrue. My inner self was pessimistic. With a lot of hard work and discipline I’ve made some significant changes BUT the hard work continues everyday. Reading your post is an affirmation and mantra for this new day. With gratitude…Fran

  • G-R-E-A-T REMINDER that what u FOCUS on G-R-O-W-S and E-N-E-R-G-I-Z-E-S………so might as well GIVE POSITIVE ENERGY n CONCENTRATE on what u WANT rather than what u don’t….one negative thought n it’s like a ripple effect….it leads to another n to another n then there is no stop to it INSTEAD why not CHANGE YOUR THOUGHT N THEREBY CHANGE YOUR EMOTIONS…..THANKS FOR THE POSITIVE POST………””””””’

  • I have often uttered those exact words. Odd how happy I have been to sabotage myself and felt justified when “the worst” is what I received!

  • Hi, A very motivating post. I loved this ” Be as passionate for your desire as though it’s your life. Be as focused on the best results, the greatest experiences, the happiest day as though it’s your life. Because it actually is.” Yes ! I couldn’t agree with you more. Thanks for sharing. Really Great!

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