The direction of a man’s thought is always the decisive factor in his personality. His whole outer life will be determined by the inward inclination of his mind. ~ Erich Sauer
In the name of sweet heaven, what’s wrong with me?
That was the question I was asking myself over and over.
What was I wrestling with?
The very title of this post. Help…I can’t stop my negative thoughts. Those persistent negative thoughts that do no good and when you think you have a handle on them and are breathing a sigh of relief…wham…they rear their ugly little heads again.
I needed help.
Ever had this happen to you?
It’s sucky. And here I thought I was beyond this. Lesson learned.
I immerse myself in spiritual and emotional expansion daily. I know what to do with this…yet here I was.
I soul searched and decided a little more research and a little more practice was in order. I needed to shake things up a bit.
The old way of managing my thinking wasn’t working quite so well.
If you ever struggle with this, hopefully my experience can lead you out of that dark and doomy place we call negative thinking into a more cheerful, joy filled space.
My Darling One reminded me of some old techniques I used to talk about, and I was grateful. Very grateful. I needed some redirection.
Maybe you rerun bad experiences around in your mind, listening to negative conversations in your head, all the while feeling worse and worse.
Or perhaps it’s a habit of thinking about yourself, I’m such a failure, I’m never going to meet ‘the one’, I’m too fat, I just can’t make enough, I’m an idiot…or whatever your negative thoughts are.
This is really the time we want to have our thoughts move along a different track. Sometimes it’s easily done. And I managed this for a while.
Each time my mind went back to the negativity I instantly went to an affirmation I’d decided upon. Nothing to do with the thought. Something that had no relevance to it in fact. I chose to affirm how much I loved our holiday home in Italy.
We don’t actually have a holiday home in Italy, yet, but I liked the idea…so I was killing two birds with one stone. Speaking into being something I wanted that would drown out the negative reruns. Woohoo.
For reasons unknown to me, it didn’t last long. It wasn’t all bad. I did get in some affirmations about something that felt good. But the negative reruns kept showing up. Not as frequently as before…but that wasn’t it. I wanted them replaced. I wanted those endless loops of negative thinking stopped and out of my head.
I haven’t used this NLP technique much…not really knowing much about it. But nothing ventured nothing gained, and I needed help. A lot of it.
I created a version that suited me and joined it together with another technique just to add a lot of power. And for all the NLP fans, I know this isn’t exactly what’s recommended…it just felt right for me.
Generally our thoughts come in the shape of pictures, or feelings, or words or all three. I’m an all three type of person, so I needed to focus on that.
I noticed how I felt when thinking along that negative loop versus how I wanted to feel, so I created an image that reflected my more joyful feeling.
For example if your negative thought was that you just weren’t as successful as you wanted to be. You might set up an image in your mind’s eye of what success looked and felt like.
Maybe you’d become a best selling author, or an amazing artist, or you’d started a very successful business…what would you feel? Victorious? Relieved? Ecstatic? Thrilled? Would you see friends congratulating you? Would you be getting a pat on the back, or a hug?
Make the image and feelings as real as possible. You can even make the images incredible…turning yourself into a superhero or another Oprah or Wayne Dyer, if that works for you.
For me, I needed it to be something down to earth, something that felt real to me. What can I tell you I’m the earthy Taurean type.
What I was going to do was redirect the energy of the negative thought and feeling and switch it with the positive one. Pavlov’s dog has nothing on me kiddos. I know which side my bread is buttered, or that I’ll get treats when I listen to the bell.
The next time my mind returned to the negative reruns I connected my new image to the old one. I pictured the new image in the corner of the negative image, smaller, but there. Then I felt the happier feeling and changed the images, making the small, feel good image, bigger and the negative, sucky feeling one small.
I did it, with a swishing sound…hence the swishing technique name…although I don’t really think I needed this, and then I and switched them about again and again.
I was conditioning my mind, training it to move along the new tracks I was putting in place for my thoughts to follow. I definitely didn’t need those old ruts any more.
After a few swishes, I sent the old negative image off into oblivion.
Good news. It worked pretty well. Mission accomplished. Should that same old negative rerun pop up…which is rare now…my mind automatically switches paths and moves along the new tracks of thought, the happier new thoughts and feelings.
You can do this with just about anything. Test it for yourself and see.
I’d love to hear from you.
Have you ever struggled with being unable to stop those persistent negative thoughts? What did you do?
I’d love to hear your story in the comments below. As always, the more specific you can be the better. Why? Because your experience may be the cosmic aha someone in our community needed to hear today.
Thank you, as always for reading, and contributing your brilliance to the conversation.
You are amazing.
Encourage one another.