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Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. ~ Albert Schweitzer
Sometimes when it seems like everything is going wrong you need to take a moment to remember…no one lives a life without trouble or hardship. Even happy, successful people have challenges.
Don’t be too hard on yourself when things fall apart, challenges aren’t designed to stop your progress. Your life has purpose and meaning and you’re designed for success and happiness so when things go wrong, don’t go with them.
Take a deep breath and remind yourself everything will be okay. Maybe not this minute or the next, or even today, but soon.
The challenges you face aren’t meant to hurt you, they’re intended to help you grow into the person you’d like to become. You have a unique role to play in our world and if you want your life to be a fantastic story, it’s up to you to create a new, more wonderful page every day.
Life is waiting for you to get out of your own way and it’s too precious to let slip by. Follow these easy-to-steal habits and go out there and be your best, do your best, and experience your best.
1. Be the boss
Nobody can do our thinking for us. You’re the boss of your attitude. Complaining about the things you have no control over like traffic jams or the weather never leads anywhere you want to go.
Sometimes the only thing you have control over is your attitude. You get to decide how you want to frame events.
Stuck in traffic, or weather preventing your outdoor picnic? Great, now you get a chance to turn on your zen. Focus on things you love, affirm how wonderful life is and how blessed you are. Invest time in mentally enjoying your heart’s desires.
There’s a lot riding on your attitude…you’re designing your life and building your happiness with each thought and feeling.
Don’t be the one who looks back on life years from now and says “what a great life I had, if only I’d realized it sooner”!
Steal the habit of new attitudes.
2. Give up the habit of pretending
Stop trying so hard to make others like you. Life doesn’t work that way. You aren’t designed to fit the mold that someone else has made for you; you’re not here to be a bit player in someone else’s movie.
Consider this…once you stop trying so hard to be something you’re not, once you choose to show up as the real you, to take off the mask you hide behind, the right people and experiences will be drawn to you easily.
Being yourself in a world that tries on a daily basis to turn you into someone else is an amazing personal achievement. True contentment lies not in trying to keep others happy, but by allowing yourself to shine and sharing who you are and what you do.
You deserve a happy, successful, exciting and full life, get out there and make it so.
Your best self has been waiting all your life. Don’t keep it waiting any longer.
Steal the habit of having nothing to prove.
3. Turn the tables
Instead of dwelling on the things you got wrong, or the things you think are wrong with you, try a different approach. Resolve to accept yourself just as you are, where you are.
It’s time to love yourself, respect yourself, admire yourself, forgive yourself, accept yourself, nurture yourself…today’s the day.
Remember that spring follows winter, and if today was a day of defeat, or of setbacks, it will be followed by growth, new possibilities and great comebacks.
Now is the time to plant the seeds of tomorrow’s success and it begins with living in alignment with love.
Steal the habit of acknowledging yourself.
4. Follow the habit of making things happen easily
If you often end up doing anything other than that one thing that keeps you on track towards your heart’s desire, the ‘what-if’ plan will rescue those dreams from the rubbish dump.
The ‘what-if’ system is about making decisions in advance about when and how you’ll take certain actions that will lead to your desires becoming reality, it’s a simple technique that can make things easy on you.
If you’re ready to double your chances of success, try this:
If (or When) _________________________ then ___________________
Taking care of your health… If it’s a week day I’ll walk before breakfast.
Or…If I have the choice between an apple and a bar of chocolate I’ll choose the apple.
Taking care of business…If it’s 3pm I’ll return the calls I missed earlier.
Or…If it’s Wednesday I’ll invest time in unfinished projects.
It’s a great de-stressor too. You can choose the responses you’d prefer to have to keep your blood pressure under control!
If my inbox is overun with emails, I’ll stay relaxed.
Or if a project deadline is approaching fast, I’ll stay cool and calm.
Steal techniques that make life easier.
5. Spiritually Speaking – Practice the silence habit
You need to turn away from the outer world of noise and outer stresses. You need time to simply be.
Warren Buffett insists on a lot of time being spent almost every day sitting and thinking. It’s not a common practice, but it lets you get in touch with the truth about what’s happening in your life. You need time away from the distractions of life, however seductive they might be.
Find a quiet place and push the off button and shut it all out. Free yourself, nourish your spirit; it needs moments of quiet reflection to be refreshed and renewed.
Too many are afraid of silence and solitude, but it’s the place where you hear the truth and find the solutions.
Don’t be fearful. Brilliant ideas are found on long walks. Peace and tranquility live in sunrises and sunsets. Breathtaking enlightenment springs from those solitary moments.
Silence is an endless stream of spiritual and emotional nourishment. You deserve it. You need it to be your happiest, most successful self.
Steal the habit of solitude.
Question for you: Do you have any easy-to-copy habits you’d like to share that might make a difference to the rest of us? Please share in the comments below…it’s always wonderful and inspiring to know what works for you.
Encourage one another.