Sometimes when it seems like everything is going wrong you need to take a moment to remember…no one lives a life without trouble or hardship. Even happy, successful people have challenges.

Don’t be too hard on yourself when things fall apart, challenges aren’t designed to stop your progress. Your life has purpose and meaning and you’re designed for success and happiness so when things go wrong, don’t go with them.

Take a deep breath and remind yourself everything will be okay. Maybe not this minute or the next, or even today, but soon.

The challenges you face aren’t meant to hurt you, they’re intended to help you grow into the person you’d like to become.  You have a unique role to play in our world and if you want your life to be a fantastic story, it’s up to you to create a new, more wonderful page every day.

Life is waiting for you to get out of your own way and it’s too precious to let slip by. Follow these…5 Easy-to-steal Habits of Happy Successful People…and go out there and be your best, do your best, and experience your best.

1. Be the boss

Nobody can do our thinking for us.   You’re the boss of your attitude. Complaining about the things you have no control over like traffic jams or the weather never leads anywhere you want to go. That’s the attitude happy successful people carry with them.

Sometimes the only thing you have control over is your attitude. You get to decide how you want to frame events.

Stuck in traffic, or weather preventing your outdoor picnic? Great, now you get a chance to turn on your zen. Focus on things you love, affirm how wonderful life is and how blessed you are. Invest time in mentally enjoying your heart’s desires.

There’s a lot riding on your attitude…you’re designing your life and building your happiness with each thought and feeling.

Don’t be the one who looks back on life years from now and says “what a great life I had, if only I’d realized it sooner”!

Steal the habit of new attitudes.

2. Give up the habit of pretending

Stop trying so hard to make others like you. Life doesn’t work that way. You aren’t designed to fit the mold that someone else has made for you; you’re not here to be a bit player in someone else’s movie.

5 Easy-to-Steal Habits of Happy Successful People

Consider this…once you stop trying so hard to be something you’re not, once you choose to show up as the real you, to take off the mask you hide behind, the right people and experiences will be drawn to you easily.

Being yourself in a world that tries on a daily basis to turn you into someone else is an amazing personal achievement. True contentment lies not in trying to keep others happy, but by allowing yourself to shine and sharing who you are and what you do.

You deserve a happy, successful, exciting and full life, get out there and make it so.

Your best self has been waiting all your life. Don’t keep it waiting any longer.

Steal the habit of having nothing to prove.

3. Turn the tables

Instead of dwelling on the things you got wrong, or the things you think are wrong with you, try a different approach. Resolve to accept yourself just as you are, where you are. Now that’s one habit of happy successful people you could easily do. Today.

It’s time to love yourself, respect yourself, admire yourself, forgive yourself, accept yourself, nurture yourself…today’s the day.

Remember that spring follows winter, and if today was a day of defeat, or of setbacks, it will be followed by growth, new possibilities and great comebacks.

Now is the time to plant the seeds of tomorrow’s success and it begins with living in alignment with love.

Steal the habit of acknowledging yourself.

4. Follow the habit of making things happen easily

If you often end up doing anything other than that one thing that keeps you on track towards your heart’s desire, the ‘what-if’ plan will rescue those dreams from the rubbish dump.  

The ‘what-if’ system is about making decisions in advance about when and how you’ll take certain actions that will lead to your desires becoming reality, it’s a simple technique that can make things easy on you.

If you’re ready to double your chances of success, try this:  

If (or When) _________________________ then ___________________

For instance:

Taking care of your health… If it’s a week day I’ll walk before breakfast.

Or…If I have the choice between an apple and a bar of chocolate I’ll choose the apple. 

Taking care of business…If it’s 3pm I’ll return the calls I missed earlier.

Or…If it’s Wednesday I’ll invest time in unfinished projects.

It’s a great de-stressor too. You can choose the responses you’d prefer to have to keep your blood pressure under control!

If my inbox is overun with emails, I’ll stay relaxed.

Or if a project deadline is approaching fast, I’ll stay cool and calm.

These are small easy-to-steal-habits and techniques that make life easier.

5. Spiritually Speaking – Practice the silence habit

You need to turn away from the outer world of noise and outer stresses. You need time to simply be.

Warren Buffett insists on a lot of time being spent almost every day sitting and thinking. It’s not a common practice, but it lets you get in touch with the truth about what’s happening in your life. You need time away from the distractions of life, however seductive they might be.

Find a quiet place and push the off button and shut it all out. Free yourself, nourish your spirit; it needs moments of quiet reflection to be refreshed and renewed.

Too many are afraid of silence and solitude, but it’s the place where you hear the truth and find the solutions.

Don’t be fearful of taking a time out. Brilliant ideas are found on long walks. Peace and tranquility live in sunrises and sunsets.  Breathtaking enlightenment springs from those solitary moments.

Silence is an endless stream of spiritual and emotional nourishment. You deserve it. You need it to be your happiest, most successful self.

Steal the habit of solitude.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. I especially connect with the “silence habit,” Elle. I find silence so nourishing just as you say, a place where I can get to know my own mind and emotions, and a fountain of creativity too. I love that you emphasize a spiritual element in your article and I appreciate how you are always encouraging us.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Sandra, today I understand the phrase ‘silence is golden’ I used to think it meant that as a child I needed to keep quiet! But today it’s all about the gold and riches that are accessible in that solitude/silence. And for me, none of it works without the spiritual element. I always appreciate your thoughts dear one. 🙂

  2. This is all excellent advice Elle. I’m still working on giving up the habit of pretending. And I have a lot of (happy!) solitude in my life, but sometimes I need to make sure there’s silence as well. Have a lovely week x

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Ellen, how lovely to ‘see’ you. You are such a beautiful soul I can’t imagine you not letting yourself be amazingly you. Funny how most of us have things we think we have to hide; after all we might be ‘judged’ and found wanting.:-) My advice, having been on this planet somewhat longer than you, follow your dreams be amused by life and live each day to the fullest and you won’t go far wrong.

  3. Joseph Appaloosa

    You’ve delivered us another excellent article, Elle !
    I remember my father telling me about a friend of his who worked for a large multi-national in their research and development department. My father would speak enviously of how his friend could sit for hours, staring out the window, and not even his boss would dare disturb him in case he was on the brink of the next great idea. And the funny thing is, I don’t remember my dad taking the time to emulate his friend by just sitting in the silence.
    You are so right. The silence can be pure luxury . . .
    Plus i love your concept of “turn on your zen” . I am stealing it and will put it into practice today ! Thank you ! ! !
    Write on, Elle !

    • ElleSommer

      Interesting story about your Dad’s friend Joseph. I love that added twist, expecting to get great ideas when we sit in the silence. You can ‘steal’ turn on your zen, and I’m stealing that one! 🙂

  4. I love all your suggestions, Elle. This line is certainly telling: “Warren Buffett insists on a lot of time being spent almost every day sitting and thinking.” Less computer time and more quiet thinking time is something to keep in mind. I do often find ideas bubble to the surface when I’m walking my dog with no distractions. Great tips here – thank you!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Cathy. It’s funny how so many people say they get their best ideas when walking the dog! Or taking a shower or any activity that involves being alone and quiet. And getting away from the computer is a necessary part of being silent for me too. It’s such a huge distraction. Maybe I need to get a dog! 🙂

  5. I’m one of those who was afraid of silence and solitude but I’ve learned so much after spending a year home currently . Many ideas and dreams spoke louder than before when I was more busy. Now I’m learning to see silence as a way to cope and discover what my spirit and soul is telling me. Thanks for this great post as always!

    • ElleSommer

      How lovely Edith that you’ve discovered the treasure in silence. Our inner voice of creativity and inspiration is often a quiet one and we can’t always hear it over the din of the outside world. That’s a wonderful awareness. 🙂

  6. Hi, another awesome article. This line is perfect for me “True contentment lies not in trying to keep others happy, but by allowing yourself to shine and sharing who you are and what you do”, being aware that we are all unique in our own ways is the most beautiful thing we can do for our oneself. Thanks for always sharing a very informative post!

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Sherill…I’m so happy you enjoyed the post…would love to hear from you about anything you’d like me to focus on in the future? 🙂

  7. The thing you mentioned about solitude is so correct. I always wondered how come I find so peaceful in silence, I had no clue there was science and theory involved in it. Thank you so much for this piece of advice. I just cannot stop hoping from one article to the other. So much positivity. xoxoxox

    • Hi Deepti…it’s funny how something we do naturally seems to have a scientific reason for it. I think doing the things that are right for us, providing no harm comes to another, is the way to joyful living. I wish you much happiness in your peaceful silence. 🙂

  8. Beautiful post Elle, Silence is golden indeed. Thanks

  9. This is what i needed the most right now, to adapt new habits that will boost up my energy levels and give me my self confidence back, i am sure i am going to adapt these habits, thanks a lot for these amazing article. Kudos to this article.

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