What are your habits of being in the world?

You know what I mean, what are the things you consistently think, the actions you usually take, the way you see yourself and others.

If you’ve never really thought about it…here’s your chance. 

We’re about to head into another year and if you have any of these 5 habits of being in the world it’s time to give them up. 

This way, you’ll be heading into a year with less stress and suffering and greater happiness…and let’s assume towards a brand new, beautiful destiny.

Let’s begin with:

1. Give up assuming the worst

So often we go to the worst case scenario in life – even at the cost of creating more anxiety and stress.  I used to be that person.  I thought if I assumed the worst, then when it happened I wouldn’t be surprised.

That, dear ones, is no way to live. If this is you, why not join me in giving up this habit of being and let’s decide together that if we’re going to assume something, why shouldn’t we assume the best instead of the worst. 

You are just one new assumption away from the life you truly want to live.

2. Give up wanting

I know this sounds weird, but believe me the problem with wanting something is it comes from an energy of lack.  And we all know we draw into our lives the thing that matches our energy. 

Be willing to begin by keeping the end in mind instead. 

Stop wanting that wonderful relationship, stop wanting to be more wealthy, stop wanting that new home or new car.  Just stop wanting.

Start resonating and vibrating with the energy of already being the one who has these things.  That energy will supply you with ideas, and insights and will propel you into new actions.

3. Give up arguing for limitations

Let’s all admit it right now.  We’ve all done this.

Oh my…how much we hurt ourselves with this one is beyond measure. 

The more we argue for what we can’t do, what we can’t have and what we can’t be, the more these limitations own us.

Remember, the world of our physical reality might have limits, but our inner world is boundless.  And it’s our inner world that’s the creative force in our life experience. 

Start believing you are infinitely greater than you think you are…your beliefs will eventually crystalize into facts.

4. Give up people pleasing

It’s time to stop the habit of trying to have everyone like you.  You’re not here for that. And it can never happen.

There comes a time when you have to stop chasing trying to be everything to everyone.  It’s exhausting.  Not to mention stressful and painful to your soul.

You can say ‘no’ and the world won’t come crashing down around you and the first time you try it, you’ll have a profound sense of liberty and relieve.  It was never your job all along.  Phew!

We can never change other people all we can do is change the way we deal with them and  once you begin to value and respect yourself you will find the right and perfect people will be drawn to you effortlessly.

5. Give up the need for control

This one is a no-brainer.  We have no control over what others think or do. We have no control over when a situation will arise.

Yet, we invest a lot of time and energy in trying to control the things over which we have absolutely no control. None. 

Why do we bother I wonder, sometimes we don’t even have control over our dog, let alone the people in our life.

All is not lost however.  Because we do have control over the most important element of life. And that is us.  You and me.

The true power to change events and experiences isn’t waiting for something to happen, or wanting things to be different it’s connecting to the power within in us.

And then go right ahead and use that power to deliberately manifest the best circumstances you can imagine.

Final Thoughts

You have one life.  Live your purpose.  Shine your light.

Tomorrow is more than a day away, tomorrow is being made in your here and now and since life develops from our habits, why not create new and better habits?

You are so worth it my darlings.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. All of these are good. I think the most important one for me to give up was people pleasing. I was the worst – or best. I tried to make everyone happy and in the end, made myself very unhappy. No more. My happiness is what matters now. While being respectful and kind, there is always a nice way to say “No.”

    • I get it Debbie…having been there myself. And a big hug and pat on the back to you for finding a better way of being in the world. 🙂

  2. Great suggestions here, Elle. I, like many people, have found that trying to control things that are out of my control doesn’t work very well. Life can sometimes be challenging, and it is easy to want to control the outcome. Being clear with what you can and cannot control is always good.

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