[success]Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough. Give your best anyway.
For you see, in the end, it is between you and God. It was never between you and them anyway. ~ Mother Teresa[/success]

We all want to be appreciated, valued, and respected. Not one of us would say…criticize me, be mean, how about rejecting me, or even manipulating me…I’d like some of that today!

In simple terms we all want to feel loved.  Not necessarily romantically, although, nothing’s better, but for now the bottom line is we just want to feel cared for, in every relationship.

One way you won’t go wrong

Whatever we want, then this is what we must give to others.  This is what we must think of, for others as well as ourselves. Because everything…and that really is everything…in our consciousness will become events and experiences.

Every day I experience proof that my cosmic ordering is working, even if not always to my benefit, or credit.  But seeing the evidence that it’s always in play, even when I get stuff I don’t want, is somehow reassuring.

When I find myself experiencing in the outer world all those things I’ve thought about in the inner world, all those mental ‘debates’ I’ve had…well okay maybe they were pretty close to arguments, strangely enough it enhances my faith in the system.

Everything within spills out into the world

It begins with our inner conversations, our inner self-talk, then it spills out into our outer world.

Maybe someone hurts our feelings, and then we react, we feel the need to defend, sometimes attacking back.

Yet our hurt feelings stem from within, from our consciousness.  What might hurt you, could be water off a duck’s back to me, and vice versa.   We all operate from our own individual states of consciousness.

So it’s to our consciousness we must turn if we want to have different relationships…if we want to have a different anything.

Be on guard

Become vigilant against attacking thoughts. Filtering out these less than noble intentions can remove much of the problem at the source. Simply the intent not to be attacking can be a major help.

The essence of this approach is  kindness—respect and care for the feelings and inner well-being of ourselves and others. This is the Golden Rule that is to be found at the heart of the world’s spiritual traditions.

Final thoughts

Our relationships can be a path to spiritual awakening. They can be our greatest teachers. They give us the opportunity to practice not only kindness, but also compassion, forgiveness, and respect—qualities that are sorely needed in our world.

The more that we raise the quality of our relationships at home, work and in life generally, the more that we oil the wheels of life, and then everything else we have to do becomes easier and more enjoyable.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle.



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Elle,

    My b-day was the 20th and this post was a beautiful gift!

    I especially loved this insight! “Our relationships can be a path to spiritual awakening. They can be our greatest teachers. They give us the opportunity to practice not only kindness, but also compassion, forgiveness, and respect…”

    I found your beautiful site through my buddy Melody at Deliberate Receiving. I can’t wait to read more of your stuff!

    • Elle

      Welcome Steve and a happy belated b’day. I’m grateful for your encouraging words. Thank you. 🙂

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