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Nor did they tell us that there were passages or phases of life that needed different skills, or at the very least different perspectives.
So we’re sort of asked to bite off more than we can chew without really knowing what we’re about to eat.
That just doesn’t seem right now does it?
Be you 20, 30, 40, 50, 60, 70 or more… life is meant to be a joyful experience. As you age you are not meant to become more wounded. You are meant to become more wise.
You are not mean to live in pain and sorrow and yet I hear and see it all the time. The unhappiness in a voice. The sadness in a face.
The variety of suffering we create for ourselves as life progresses is unbelievable.
Just to survive and exist doesn’t cut it. You deserve better. A sense of purpose. To be engaged with life.
Yet so many have had the joy squeezed out of them and before this becomes you, maybe you should take a look at some exceptionally fabulous cliff notes to get you through every phase of life with joyfulness, to allow you to fly, to achieve your greatest self, to live your life on purpose and not merely survive.
Cliff Note 1 – Make your anger useful
We are not punished for our anger, we are punished by our anger. In other words, anger is its own karma. – Eknath Easwaran
Who hasn’t felt anger over some injustice, some hurt or frustration? It’s an emotion of high intensity, but so is love and joy.A heart filled with anger leaves little room for the passion of love and joy.Click To Tweet
So use it up quickly. Use it constructively for a definite purpose. Allow the anger to flow towards something useful and it becomes benevolent. Hold on to it and it becomes deadly and poisonous and chains your spirit to anxiety and stress.
This is something worth discovering at 20 not something you want on your bucket list when you get to 60.
This is something to get you through every phase of your life.
This is something that shows you that peace is not the absence of anger, but the presence of some greater purpose.
Cliff Note 2 – Tap into the power of awareness
The key to growth is the introduction of higher dimensions of consciousness into our awareness. – Lao Tzu
Awareness is the key to growth and change.
Without it we stand still.
With it we are able to change thought patterns that harm more than help.
And then we can change the concept we have of who we truly are.
Awareness might be a scary mountain to climb, but truth be told without it you don’t grow and you’ll be on the sad journey towards survival instead of passion.
As your awareness of your thoughts, feelings and beliefs grow, you make better and braver choices and see greater results.
Be relentless in your pursuit of awareness. Awareness is key to living the best life possible. It’s through the power of awareness that you connect the dots between your thoughts, your feelings and the experiences of your life.
So many wonderful things exist in your life right now, but without being conscious that they are there, you will never see them.
Imagine looking at life through a dimmer switch turned down low…you can only see so much. Turn it up and suddenly things appear on the horizon that you never knew were there. A brilliant landscape of opportunities and possibilities.
That’s the power of awareness…when turned up high, suddenly the most amazing things become visible.
I love this cliff note from Lao Tzu. I remind myself of it daily…because it’s easy to forget even those things that make my world a better place!
Cliff Note 3 – You are not your thoughts
The soul has no secret that the behavior does not reveal. – Lao Tzu
If we’re to get you through every phase of your life with ease, it’s important to remember that there are no secret thoughts, or beliefs or attitudes that aren’t revealed in your behavior.
Most of us think who we really are is a secret only we know about. But even our most secret thoughts show up in the actions we take.
Remember what Emerson said? “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.”
To get through every phase of your life it’s probably a good idea, early on in life, to get some distance between you and your thoughts or emotions.
You are not your thoughts. You don’t ever have to act on any thought you have, unless you choose to.
This is where # 2 comes in handy…your power of awareness.
Once your thoughts and actions become a conscious process you free yourself from the simple survival mode that you learn in your twenties, practice regularly in your thirties and forties and end up in your fifties being that person filled with wounds and sorrow.
If it sounds complicated, it really isn’t. Honestly, if I can do it (okay not all the time, but a lot of the time) then so can you.
Just choosing to think, “I am not my thoughts” (because you are so much more than that) creates a little space. And suddenly, in that little space, wham…you’ve become empowered in such a way that people think that you are some sort of super human.
But really you’re just being human in the highest and best way possible.
The idea isn’t to eliminate every negative thought you might have…who could do that? Definitely not me. It’s more about how you want to act despite any thoughts you might have.
Final thoughts to get you through every phase of your life
Getting through life might not always be easy. But having a couple of cliff notes to help get you through every phase of your life before those difficult phases sneak up on you is something you will be eternally grateful for. I promise. 🙂
Encourage one another.