friends-with-benefits[success]The most beautiful discovery true friends make is that they can grow separately without growing apart. ~ Elizabeth Foley[/success]

Not everyone knows how amazing they are.

Not everyone can see their brilliance.

Tell your friends how awesome they are

I have friends who just don’t see how beautiful they are, how brightly they shine, how kind and generous of spirit they are or even what amazing parents, grandparents or friends they are.

It astonishes me.

These are the people who always go that extra mile, the first to call if you’re sick to see how they can help, who empathize with how you feel, who aren’t looking to benefit themselves in every decision they make, who fill our hearts with love just because we’ ve been around them. And they always leave us better off than they found us.

And they don’t have a clue.  They judge themselves by all the criteria that don’t matter two hoots and they think they come up sadly lacking.  They don’t get that they’re true friends with benefits.

Do you know anyone like that?  Maybe it’s you?

A simple message of belief for you

My message today is simple.  We all hold our very own destiny in our hands and minds while the Divine hold’s it’s breath.  It’s time.  Time to see yourself with the eye of God, time to awaken to the beauty that you are.  Time to believe in more, believe in you.

Across the the centuries  our poets, mystics and spiritual leaders speak to us of our ability to  be made new by the renewing of our mind. The secret to a happy, healthy, prosperous life hides in plain sight.  The desires of our heart await.

Are you ready to remove the barriers that keep you in the same state of mind year after year?  Unable to see the wonderful being that you are, your concept of yourself keeping you locked in the same experiences over and over again. Unable to see the magnificent benefits you bring to everyone?

It has been said many times, in many ways, that man is the final arbiter of his experiences.   We are the builders and makers of our life.  No-one can prevent you from leading the life of your dreams, the life you were always intended to live.

Final thoughts

To all our friends, who bring so many benefits, it was never about what you did, or what you had, it’s always been about who you are.  And we wish for you to dream your life, then live your dream.  See yourself as we see you: be filled with the joy and gratitude, vibrant health, love and abundance that you give to us.  They are yours for the asking.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle.





Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Elle, When I read the title I was surprised-keep in mind that I have 2 young adult daughters and that title takes on a whole now meaning in their world! Should have known that you were throwing us a lovely curve ball! Great post, yes we are always at choice, always the masters of our life journey and it was never put better than in “Friends With Benefits”.

    • Elle

      Thanks for joining the conversation Dore` – ‘masters of our journey’ nice turn of phrase. 🙂

  2. ah, Elle. Forever providing the right message at the right time. 🙂 thanks for all you do.

    • Elle

      So happy to hear that Katrina…it’s good to be right on time. 🙂

    • Elle

      You are very welcome Alexis B and thank you for joining us.

  3. Joseph Appaloosa

    The last paragraph of your article raises a question for me. If we experience these friends as love+light+joy+abundance bringers, will our belief as them being so lead them to experiencing the same belief – that they are those beings that bring all that with them ? Thank you.
    Write on, Elle !

    • Elle

      Aah, good question Joseph. The great thing about consciousness is that whatever we place in our imagination and hold there, whether it be about us or others, becomes part of our life experience…so seeing something good for another is also great for us. In order for them to be able to experience their own love+light+joy+abundance they must be able to accept it as true. Persist, persist, persist. 🙂

  4. I have a great friend who tells me often what you have said here. I haven’t seen or talked to her in a while due to her schedule with work and ailing parents. When I read this, it was like Andrea was here telling me that I take myself for granted and that she hoped I would one day see myself the way the world sees me. Not trying to toot my own horn … just very thankful that you stepped into her shoes for a bit and me to hear her.

    • Elle

      Sometimes Debi, we need to hear things from different perspectives before we have that ‘aha’ moment. I’m so glad you got to hear what a wonderful, shiny presence you are. 🙂

  5. Allan Schulte

    Dear Elle,

    The “Spirit” of your column is so fresh, so intimate… that I always enlightened after reading it. Thanks and blessings, Allan

    • Elle

      Thank you kind sir, for your kind words.

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