[success]For the past 33 years, I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today? And whenever the answer has been ‘no’ for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something. ~ Steve Jobs[/success]
One of my best friends, who happens to be an astrologer tells me, as a Taurus, I pretty much like things to stay the same. He also tells me I’m not a typical Taurean in many ways. Maybe so, but he might have a point about change. I’ve had to learn the hard way that there’s no benefit to staying in bed, hiding under the covers, because change was imminent.
And before you ask…I can neither confirm nor deny I actually ever did this.
It’s not really worth trying to hide from change. It’s sort of inevitable.
We live in a world that’s constantly changing, everything is always in a state of becoming and we need to find peace in change since fighting it doesn’t make a lot of sense. We all know the outcome of pushing against the things we don’t want.
Circumstances and conditions are going to change whether we like it or not. Relationships are going to change whether we like it or not. We’re going to change whether we like it or not. So trying to play it safe by staying in bed, or staying in the sucky relationship, or the dismal job can’t work for long. And we should be singing the hallellujah chorus at the top of our lungs that this is so, because without change we’d be supporting our inevitable stagnation.
Choice or crisis
Change might be inevitable, but this doesn’t mean it has to run us over like a steamroller. We can listen to destiny’s call and be brave and step out of our comfort zone straight into the arms of change and say yes…even hell yes.
We can be at choice as we listen to our inner voice and answer the call before the choice to change becomes a crisis. Not that crises are all bad. We’ve all heard the tales of those who came out of a horrible crisis in life only to enter an amazing, fabulous, exciting and wonderful period.
Wait a minute…I’ve experienced that my own self.
But when crises pass overhead…they don’t feel that great and not very peaceful either. Much easier to simply embrace change and enjoy the process.
Think of life as an ever changing kalaidescope, shifting, swirling, dynamic; a universal dance of colour and movement that we all get to participate in, either dragging and screaming and hanging on to the bedclothes, or gracefully and harmoniously as we enjoy the dance through our awakened senses.
Live in the present
We’ve heard those words before I know. But do they always sink in?
Life is made up of moments. Moments of magic, of mystery of greatness and if we would but open ourselves up to see this we might find there’s joy in this moment, or happiness, or a truth or insight.
If we practice seeking the good in each moment, we’ll see how amazing life truly is. We’ll be more awake to the wonders that are on offer.
I don’t really practice buddhism, but I’ve always liked the concept of the beginners mind or the child’s mind. Which speaks to me of seeing things as they are. Looking at life with curious eyes. Looking at life with enthusiasm without judgement or our prejudices rising to the surface.
The child’s mind looks at life and says why not, the expert looking at the very same life says, it can’t be done.
In each moment we can ask ourselves what am I going to create today. Will I make the day count? Will I be a participant or onlooker in the creation of my day. Will I nurture the things that matter? Will I enthusiastically embrace this moment?
Instead of hiding under the bed awaiting the next crisis to befall us, we can step up and step out in faith that we are everything we need be, to live the most glorious life we can imagine. We can choose to initiate changes in our world and be proactive or we can sit on the sidelines and allow change to impose itself on us. Or worse, sit and stagnate.
Do I trust my instincts?
Do I make my decisions based on fear, or on love?
Am I willing to change?
Where am I most stuck in my life?
Do I believe my creative imagination has the solution to any problems or obstacles I might come across?
Am I a negative person, focused more on what could go wrong than what could go right?
Do I continue to carry grudges or resentments?
Can I let go of what I worry about the most?
Do I have limiting or negative beliefs about myself, my success, my financial affairs, my relationships with others?
What one thing could I do right now to initiate change? Any one thing, big or small.
Am I willing to see myself as a remarkable, amazing, extraordinary, dazzling, awesome, fabulous, inspiring, impressive, woman or man?
Moving beyond those same old ways
Let’s be real. Being a Taurean or a Gemini or whatever the heck we are doesn’t make any difference to Life with a capital L. I’ll be the first one to tell you how much I value stability and comfort, especially comfort. But certainty doesn’t actually belong in our life, I’m not even sure it exists in nature at all. So worrying about tomorrow makes no sense at all.
We should be creating a new mindset where change is our friend, where we not only accept it, but embrace it as a vital and healthy part of our life. A mindset where we can find peace in change.
Without change we couldn’t fulfill our next and greatest desire, or experience our next best romance. Without change our creativity would be for naught. Without change I’d never have been able to heal the incredibly painful trigeminal neuralgia I used to suffer from.
Life without change would bore the pants off most of us, heck I’d never have adopted new beliefs over the years, or learned new skills and nor would you. Without change, we, non of us, would be where we are today…we’d still be stuck fast in yesterday…and even if yesterday was great at the time…it would probably be old and stale by now.
Viewing change as a positive force for good in our life can make all the difference between adopting new strategies for life or slowly decaying where we sit. How could we have new beliefs without accepting change or experience those wondrous and exciting adventures that await us, without being willing to say yes to change.
In the comments below we’d love to hear how you managed to find peace in change, or what prevents you from embracing change?
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