Let me be blunt.
You have many goals and unlimited potential that you want to fulfill. You naturally want to be happy during your lifetime and do the things that bring you success.
The challenge is that the more potential you have, the more obstacles you’re likely to face and the more problems you’ll have to solve.
And if you ever want a chance in hell of sailing to the promised land and achieve all your goals, you need something more than good luck to power through your life’s journey. And that is courage!
But here is the painful truth – most people are afraid of many things, not that fear is a bad thing, in fact, often we need fear to get through life, prevent injury, and guard against financial mistakes.
You might ask, what’s the difference between a person who has courage and a coward?
Well. Let’s get into that.
The real difference is that courageous people discipline themselves to confront, eliminate, and act in spite of the fear, whilst a coward allows himself to be dominated and controlled by fear.
Someone once wrote that:
Most of the time, it’s not that what you are working on doesn’t work, or your goals are not great, it’s because you have failed to act like a hero toward your goals, you know, just like the hero did, you have refused to stick with it five minutes longer.
Become the one who uses fear in a positive way, and you’ll be amazed to discover you do have the courage to keep moving forward.
You just have to decide what you want and who you’re willing to be to get it.
The good news is, if you want to learn how to use fear in a positive way, build enough courage and confidence, transform your life, and achieve all your dreams, here are some ideas that will teach you exactly how to achieve that.
1.Ask Yourself These Questions Before Doing Anything
Chances are, you have a great idea that could quickly pave your way to success, but lately your thoughts have been holding you back from taking action on that idea.
You ponder questions like:
What if things don’t go well?
Will this be enough to allow me pay my bills or even better, make me rich?
What if I lose my money and have to declare bankruptcy?
Often the risk attached to our goals will hold us back; but here is the ugly truth, great goals come with great risk. And the decision to determine the extent of that risk is left to you.
But if you want to find the courage to get your task completed, no matter the rate of the risk attached to it, here’s the four questions you should be asking yourself before moving forward on anything you are afraid of.
What is the best thing that can happen if I do this?
What is the worst thing that can happen if I do this?
What is the best thing that can happen if I don’t do it?
What is the worst thing that can happen if I don’t do it?
Write down whatever task you’re trying to get done that is scaring you silly, then ask yourself the question listed above based on the task.
Write down your answer to each question, now you should know if the task is worth doing or not.
Ready to learn more? Let’s proceed.
2.Deal Positively With Your Fears
If you ever want to find enough courage to fulfill all of your potential, you’ll need to deal positively with your fears.
Without a doubt, the fear of rejection can hold you back.
Consider this. Because you’re afraid of rejection you abandon a task, especially if a task requires an open conversation where you feel that your voice won’t be heard, or you don’t have the confidence to speak out.
The fear of having a proposal rejected, or speaking to your audience or your customers is just one example. There might be other things you are quite afraid of, but this one is powerful enough to dominate your life and set you back.
Let today be the day, that you learn to deal positively with any sort of rejection. Expect something wonderful to come out of adversity.
Find ways to become more comfortable when speaking in front of a crowd.
Take a course that will teach you how to speak confidently, either with people or your customers.
Even though you might be rejected don’t stop trying. As you liberate yourself from fear you give yourself a greater chance of fulfilling your dreams. And you deserve this.
3.Develop These Two Types Of Courage
Now that you know how to deal with the most important fear you might encounter in life, you will now need to develop two types of courage to help you to obtain the motivation to achieve the goals you’ve set for yourself.
The first type of courage is the quality of vision. You must have the quality vision of where you want to guide your life and where you want to be at some point in the future.
The second type of courage is to fulfill the quality of vision by doing whatever is necessary to achieve your goals.
These are the two types of courage you need to be successful in life. You must build the momentum to launch, take some important action, and take a leap of faith in achieving your goals.
Ask successful people and they will tell you that they were always looking at the courage someone else had to achieve a goal even if there was no guarantee of success; indeed, with a high possibility of failure.
Start by identifying your three biggest fears in life right now, what are they?
Use the above ideas to answer every question that might be giving you a sleepless night. Start using these answers in every sphere of your life, and then take every possible positive action you can take.
Learn to develop a contagious patience and the ability to hang in there when you’re not seeing any positive result; like the hero, learn how to hang in five minutes longer.
If you want to transform your life, this is the way. Remember, “Denial is not a river in Egypt,” it is a negative force in our lives.