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Does it sometimes feel as though you’re surrounded by self-serving, self-centred idiots? Only interested in themselves and their experiences in life? And definitely not listening to what matters to you or anyone else?
You’re not being paranoid.
It seems that studies at the University of Michigan show there’s been a steep decline in empathy.
We don’t have to look far to see that it’s right in front of us every day online and in the media. And it’s hurting. It’s toxic and leads to cruelty and indifference to the pain and hurts of others.
We don’t want to be part of this. It never leads to a happier life experience. And we hurt ourselves in the process.
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1. Diminishing problems
When we focus on ourselves alone our problems loom larger, and our world gets smaller. But when we become more inclusive of others our world expands, our own difficulties drift to the periphery of our mind and feel less threatening, and more distant.
We’re all in this life together, sharing the same planet, with the same hopes, fears and dreams.
And the more time you spend in learning to understand the people around you, the more successful and happier you’ll be.
2. Expanding boundaries
If you could experience people around you as yourself, you wouldn’t need to be taught to love, to care, to be empathetic. Because caring for yourself is ingrained within the very nature of your existence. Empathy is your natural state.
This inclusiveness definitely has to touch humanity if many of the world’s challenges are to be healed.
And on a smaller scale it solves many of our own challenges.
If you’d like to improve relationships, to understand what your customers, or clients, need and want, or even to understand why others see you the way they do, practice the art of imaginatively putting yourself in someone else’s shoes. This is the art of empathy.
This ability to stand in another’s shoes facilitates more happiness and wellbeing in your own life.
I’m willing to bet you’d be happy with this as an outcome. It’s a win/win.
(To learn how to become more expansive click here.)
3. Expanding empathy
When someone you love, is sad or hurt in any way you feel empathy for them. You want to support them. To be there for them. That’s what you want to broaden.
No matter what’s happened in the past, extending those feelings of compassion and empathy towards those who who aren’t close to you, even to the most challenging people you meet will make it easier to deal with them.
A complete turnaround may not happen instantly, but don’t let that deter you from knowing that it will someday.
Understanding the motivations and fears of the most negative people in your circle and becoming generally more inclusive of others expands you and your world, leading you to become a better leader, and a better person.
It might seem like an uphill struggle today, but it will develop the strength you need for tomorrow. Learn from it. Don’t give up.
(To discover how to be less negative click here.)
4. The formula for self-empathy
You will never grow to your fullest potential unless you plant seeds of joy, love, fulfillment, hope and success. Nature can only return to you what you plant. Both within you and in the life of those around you.
You’re probably your biggest critic and in need of a hearty dose of self-empathy.
Remember your true value is rooted in who you are, not in who you’re not. So stop harping on about your shortcomings and follow this simple formula to find that place inside of you where nothing seems impossible.
Believe in yourself.
Direct empathy inwards and stop fighting against yourself. Challenges only live as long as you are conscious of them and you as much as anyone deserve the comfort that empathy brings.
Take your attention away from the multitude of reasons why you cannot achieve your ideal life experience, why you can’t create the success and good fortune you desire, and concentrate your attention entirely upon seeing yourself as the one you’d love to be.
Let your dreams be louder and greater than your inner critic.
Remember you have the ability to see others for how awesome they are, and as you act on this ability, don’t forget to show yourself the same courtesy.
If you need a little help in really defining empathy…this video by Brene Brown will do the trick. Plus it’s cute.
Encourage one another.