You know how much I love lists.  I’m just a sucker for a list on how to be happy, how to live an enlightened life, how to set up my new computer…yes I have one, courtesy of my darling one…woohoo.

My birthday present from my Darling One and between you and I and the gatepost it’s fast becoming my new best friend, competing, just a little, for my affections.

Let’s just keep that between ourselves because who knows, if we let the cat out of the bag I might never get such a great b’day present again.

There are some wonderful people who write really, really great, meaningful lists and I want to share one with you, just in case you missed it, and just in case you’re a list lover too.

At the start of the new millennium, the Dalai Lama apparently issued eighteen rules for living.  You might agree, or not, with some or all of them, but one thing we can all probably agree on, he’s a beautiful soul.

Dalai Lama eighteen rules for living

1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

2. When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

3. Follow the 3 Rs:   

     Respect for self.

     Respect for others.

     Responsibility for all your actions. 

4. Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

5. Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

6. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

7. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

8. Spend some time alone every day.

9. Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

10. Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

11. Live an honourable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

12. A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life.

13. In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation.  Don’t bring up the past.

14. Share your knowledge.  It’s a way to achieve immortality.

15. Be gentle with the earth.

16. Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

17. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

18. Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle.




Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Hi Elle,

    Congrats on the new computer. That is always fun. Love your list. No. 8. Spend some time alone every day and No. 15. Be gentle with the earth spoke to me. It’s a great way to learn to love yourself and good reminder to take care of our lovely planet. Take care.

    • Elle

      Number 8 on this list seems to be a winner Cathy. It would seem we’re all occupying the same state of consciousness. 🙂

  2. Elle…

    As you may have guessed already, I love lists. So many jewels here. ‘Be gentle with the earth’ touched my soul before even I had a chance to think about it. 🙂 Fran

    • Elle

      Me too Fran…it resonated deeply with me…and yes I know you love lists and the list you wrote that I’ve featured in this post is absolutely fabulous. 🙂

  3. Elle,
    Yes I love lists as well! And you start out with a real winner!
    1. Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

    • Elle

      Oh Tess, it doesn’t surprise me that this would resonate with you, you are probably the greatest risk taker and achievement maker, I know. I love your bold fearlessness. 🙂

  4. Lists are my best friend. 😀 Congratulations on your new computer. And what a fabulous list – thanks so much for sharing! Just love it! Hugs to you!

    • Elle

      Vidya, you have the sweetest soul my friend. Hugs right back at you. 🙂

  5. Elle,
    These rules are well worth sharing. The Dalai Lama is so wise. I cannot decide which of the rules speaks to me more so, I’m going with this one: Be gentle to the Earth.
    Thank you dear Elle for this wonderful post.

  6. Hi Elle:

    I like your blog. Your about page made me chuckle with the lingo references. Scotland is still on my list of places to go. I have a strong affinity for the country but I have never been there, just England several times.

    #5 is probably my favorite on your post. I am a fan of the rule breakers 🙂

    – Wendy

    • Elle

      Hello Wendy and welcome to the conversation…so you’re a rule breaker hmmm, I like you straight away. 🙂

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