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You try to stay upbeat…but those negative thoughts and feelings you have always lead down the same path, the one that ends in misery. And before long you begin to let every situation get the best of you and, worse, you often end up feeling unlovable, or unworthy.
It’s easy to internalize negative experiences as a reflection on you, especially when it seems as though you have little or no control over those toxic emotions.
You keep reading about negative thoughts and toxic emotions making you sick and you know there’s truth to it, and you keep asking yourself, “Why do I think and feel like this?”
Maybe once in a while you reach for positive thoughts and relax for a while, but it doesn’t seem to take long before that powerful, and sometimes vicious negative voice in your head is once again in control. Bringing with it all it’s toxic emotional friends.
You might wonder what makes you different from all those positive, happy people that you see online, you know the ones whose lives are full of shiny light-filled days as they tra-la-la their way through Facebook and twitter, while posting their happy images to Instagram?
The truth is you’re not different dear hearts.
They’re not without a negative thought or two that lead to negative emotions. They’re just not sharing them with you!
So if you feel like you’re stumbling through life, never really getting to the bottom of how to manage your negative thoughts, never knowing what will work for you and what won’t, here’s some insanely simple ways you can begin to dump some of those toxic emotions.
And if you’re asking yourself how can I be so sure that they work…it’s because I’ve practiced them all at some point in my life. Because I’ve probably felt all the negative emotions you have. Envy…yes I’ve felt that. Anger…that too. Frustration…oh yes. And probably all the others you could name.
So first things first
1. You are not your thoughts
It’s so easy to get caught up in the thoughts we have and the feelings they engender that we can hardly separate ‘US’ from the thoughts we have.
Your negative thoughts and feelings bother you because you think you are your thoughts. You have become entirely identified as your thoughts. Yet they’re simply an accumulation of experiences, beliefs and ideas that lead you to feel a certain way about life.
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Your future isn’t decided by current results but by current thinking and feelings. So try making your thoughts a little more fun and your feelings will follow and so will your life!
2. Don’t resist
Can we all agree that we’re going to have some negative thoughts about things? And the reason we label them ‘negative’ is basically because they don’t help us feel good. Which is a great thing. And before you think I’ve lost my marbles…the great thing about it is that they’re indicators of what’s going on.
Without the indicator yelling at us via our feelings how could we know that some changes need to be made? You can’t change what you’re not aware of.
So instead of wanting to squish your negative, toxic emotions, use your awareness of them to empower you to make whatever changes you need to make to lead a happier life.
Be aware that becoming aware can stink…because then it’s up to us! But it can also be a fun part of the adventure of life. And life always wants us to express ourselves ever higher and greater.
Assume control over your own being, and everything feels better. It’s the one thing we have total control over in life and I don’t know about you, but I will confess I like to have a bit of control, somewhere, sometimes.
The truth is thoughts are just thoughts, and it all depends on which side of the fence you come down on. What’s negative for you might sound and feel positive to someone else, depending on how they frame the situation. And that’s okay.
Whatever thought improves your life, you call positive…but it’s still just a thought.
If you were to make your thought process conscious, I bet you’d create joyful thoughts. Thoughts that bring positive, uplifting emotions. Why wouldn’t you…they put a smile on your face.
There’s no way around it, honestly. The quality of your life does not depend on how easy or challenging it is; it depends on how you look at it.
4. Find more ways to have fun
As Groucho Marx once said “If you’re not having fun, you’re doing it wrong.” When you are joyful, when you are having fun the sun shines brighter in your life, you’ve noticed that. Right?
Maybe you’re having fun already, but you don’t even notice it, so entangled are you in those toxic emotions.
Take a moment and write down what you might enjoy doing for fun. It’s a great exercise.
It could be as simple as making dinner with your partner, or meeting up with friends. Perhaps you like an adrenaline rush and go for things that bring thrills and excitement. Maybe quietly reading, or going to movies, or baking cakes is more up your alley. That used to be one of my fun things years ago. With the added benefit I would get to eat them…another fun thing!
Whatever fun means to you…it’s an important tool in dumping those toxic emotions. Letting your hair down or relaxing gives you a chance to let go of all that negativity. Phew…it feels so good and it’s a great means for healing.
So go and add a little fun into life today. Enjoy life just because it’s happening!
Become more aware of what’s going on inside you. Don’t resist the toxic emotions, you’ll give them more power. Instead, surround yourself with what you want in life, and fill your mind with positive thoughts and images.
Remember your energy frequency, which is simply the vibration, or the pattern of your thoughts, feelings, attitudes, and actions, is what creates your reality.
You are no different from the rest of humanity, your inner thoughts and feelings are always trying to find expression in your outer world. Either we run our thoughts and feelings or they run us.
You really can do this. Never ever lose faith in yourself.
Encourage one another