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There’s an old saying, to have a good friend you must be a good friend. And I’ve tried, honestly I have, but my friendship isn’t being reciprocated.
It feels just like those little kids who fall out with one another and they fold their arms and turn their back and declare I‘m not your friend.
I’m not talking about people, I’m talking about time. Time has declared it’s not my friend and I need to do something to change this, because if you were to ask me, how’s that working for you…it isn’t.[success] Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Louis Pasteur, Michelangelo, Mother Teresa, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. ~ H. Jackson Brown Jr.[/success]
With that said, I’m pretty ashamed of my relationship with time because there certainly never seems to be enough of it in my life. I’m experiencing time scarcity syndrome, and it’s not good.
So here I am wasting time focusing on wasting time, and that’s not good either. But, I will ask, whatever happened to the eight hours I’m supposed to have left after my eight hours sleep and eight hours sort of working? Where the heck did that eight hours go? Come out, come out wherever you are.
Maybe I’m operating in a kind of clockwork fashion with a hidden inner hand pointing the way towards whatever task is next on some secret list. ‘Cos believe me I have no clue why I’m dashing from one thing that’s calling my name, crying out to be done, to the next.
Whatever the answer, it’s clearly time I changed my relationship to time because even though there are those that tell us that time is an illusion, and they’re possibly right, nevertheless, in this physical realm that we occupy, we need to manage it.
If time is to become my friend I need to see it as such. I need to stop making productivity the main goal in determining if I’ve used my time well. Getting some things done is a necessity and a good thing, but it needn’t be the be all and end all of how I measure my day. In fact it’s time that I cared as much about having free time to…well just be, and not be thinking of what needs to be accomplished next.
Somehow I got caught up in the multi-tasking, must be doing something trap. I consistently set myself up for failure because my concept of time is sort of unfriendly and I have a challenge with allocating time for tasks. And I do this despite the fact that deep down I know there’s always enough time to get done what I really and truly want to do. We always have all the time there is, it’s us who put constraints on it, who simply don’t use it well.
Mother Teresa said it so well when she wrote:
“In the West we have a tendency to be profit-oriented, where everything is measured according to the results and we get caught up in being more and more active to generate results. In the East — especially in India — I find that people are more content to just be, to just sit around under a banyan tree for half a day chatting to each other. We Westerners would probably call that wasting time. But there is value to it. Being with someone, listening without a clock and without anticipation of results, teaches us about love. The success of love is in the loving — it is not in the result of loving. ”
Our life reflects back to us just who we are and I’m not liking the picture, which begs the question do I have enough time for life?
Well, as individuals we operate and live in time, but our true self is in eternity. We have unnumbered levels of awareness available to us at all times, so within me is the level where I have all the time in the world to live life to the fullest. Sad to say, I’m currently resting in a level of awareness where time has not been my friend. And it needs to change.
But time can’t help me change, there’s no transforming power in time. I can’t change my relationship with time, through time. Time can’t make me a wiser or a better person, nor will working harder or longer.
What will make a difference, and is truly the only work we’re called upon to do, is the work on ourselves. So in order for my relationship with time to change I need to alter the level of awareness within which I’m operating. It’s only as I move up, or sadly sometimes down, the level of my being, that changes in my life can happen.
And despite my distinct current lack of friendship with time, in the end I know it must be pretty forgiving because I still have an entire tomorrow to do things differently, and then another and another. At least that’s my assumption, all in all, not such a bad deal.
In the comments below let us know, do you have time challenges or is your relationship with time a little better than mine? As you can tell, it doesn’t have to be that great to be better. So share your secrets….please.
Encourage one another.