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You wake with a start.
Mouth dry. Heart pumping. Fingers of anxiety clutching your chest.
Something terrible happened. Your mind is filled with relentless negative thoughts that can’t be calmed.
You made a mistake!!!
At least that’s what used to happen to me in the past when I’d made some humongous mistake. I’d be totally mortified with negative thoughts running rampant through my mind.
But not this day. This day I made a mistake. A really big, horrible, needed to be fixed as soon as possible mistake. And yes, it took my breath away for a minute. I might even have cursed a little, but that was it.
I’d hit a rough patch. But if I’ve learned anything over the years about mistakes, it’s that there’s no point in dwelling on a missed opportunity or worry about what I wished I done. No point in beating myself up and making myself miserable. That just doesn’t work.
So if you’ve had a rough day, or week or month here’s a few important things to know when you’ve made a mistakes. Things that I hope will help you put them into perspective, move on and come out stronger than ever.
1.Even monkeys fall from trees
And they’re designed to climb. So if they fall, they pick themselves up, climb back onto the next branch and away they go.
So when you fall, or fail, and you will…pick yourself up, brush yourself off and keep moving forward. You’ll get another chance to get it right tomorrow. And no matter how many mistakes you’ve made or how slow your progress seems, you’re a lot farther ahead that those who aren’t trying. Or who gave up the first time they fell.
You’re designed to make mistakes. It’s how you learn. As a baby you learned to walk by falling down. If you hadn’t fallen down and picked yourself up you’d never walk. As adults it’s all about being willing to accept mistakes as part of our human growth experience.
2.Become a professional
There truly are only a handful of mistakes in our life that have disastrous and permanent consequences.
As for the rest, even if it takes you a while to learn something, you’re building strength and resilience and a come-back power that will stand you in good stead in the future.
I have learned all kinds of things from my many mistakes. The one thing I’ve never learned is to how to stop making them! So I learned to become a professional mistake fixer instead. Mistakes don’t define you. How you deal with them does.
3.Keep your eyes on the prize
It’s easy to get caught up in the why’s and wherefore’s of mistakes. Don’t fall for this. Try a little mental imagery to keep you out of the negative thoughts that want to take you down the rabbit hole of regret.
See yourself doing something different next time. See yourself with a different outcome, all the while feeling that you’re reducing the chances of making the same mistake. This mental rehearsal sends a message to your brain that will put you on the right path next time a similar situation arises. Keep your eyes on the prize. You can do it with a little practice.
4.Being wrong sometimes better than being right?
Never feel badly about making mistakes. We often learn more by being wrong than we do by being right.
Life is one giant experiment. And you have a right to your mistakes. As Andy Rooney said there’s a 50-50-90 rule: anytime you have a 50-50 chance of getting something right, there’s a 90% probability you’ll get it wrong. So smile at all the silly mistakes you’ve made that got you to where you are today. The facts are always changing and mistakes aren’t permanent. Success is closer than you think.
5.There is life after mistakes
Intellectually you know that whatever the mistake, the sun will rise tomorrow. You will have a new day and a fresh start.
I’ve had opportunities to make most of the mistakes possible and found ways to recover from them and so can you. Once you choose to see that there is life after a mistake you gain a confidence that you’ll never lose.
Life got a whole lot easier once I accepted that I was flawed. We all are. We’ve made mistakes. And will continue to make mistakes. We’ve just got to take a good long look at ourselves and choose an attitude that helps more than it hurts, my lovelies.
Now go and make some awesome mistakes, make fantastic mistakes, make huge and dazzling mistakes. Break the mold of mistake making and make the world a more fascinating place for you being in it.
Encourage one another.