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Have you ever noticed how everyone else is pretty blooming marvellous at what they do?
If you’re a songwriter or a poet, there’s that other person who writes oh so much better than you? Same could be said if you’re a blogger of course. Or what about that entrepreneur. Wow, they entrepreneur so much better than you don’t they? No corrections needed on my English thank you.
Be you a butcher, baker or candlestick maker I bet you know someone who does it soooo much greater, bigger, grander, and yes…better.
But I’m going to let you into a little known secret.
They probably think the very same thing about you. That’s right…you.
It’s the easiest thing in the world for us to fall the trap of seeing everyone else zipping through life on their own little creative zip liners, eons ahead of us. Flashing by as they fulfill their every dream with ease and grace, leaving us standing in their dust.
It’s oh so easy to idealize people we don’t know.
They just ‘seem’ to be so dazzling. Their work ‘seems’ to be more unique. What the heck they ‘seem’ to have it all.
The truth is, we’re not all zipping along in brilliant flashes of creativity at all.
In fact we’re all pretty much in the same, sometimes leaky boat. No zipping involved.
We’re all putting on our trousers one leg at a time, and okay, we might every now and then have a super duper idea whilst we’re at it. But generally speaking we’re all muddling through, losing our car keys, burning dinner, writing rubbish and having to start over.
The key to it all is what we choose to believe. And notice I said choose here. The beliefs we hold aren’t set in stone…but they have an iron grip on our psyche and our soul.
I recently watched two friends talking about their different spiritual beliefs and whilst it was a real insight into how tightly we hold onto whatever belief we’ve chosen to accept as true for us, it was also sad to see them both desperate to have their belief validated by being ‘right’.
Hey guys…they’re just beliefs…they have no power in and of themselves…only what we give to them. Life and all it’s ups and downs happens to us because we believe what we believe. Whatever that is.
We have interesting beliefs don’t we?
I’m not very good at that.
Right you are.
I don’t know how to do this.
Right you are.
I’m not as good as the next person.
Right you are.
I’m not very confident.
Right you are.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not knocking beliefs. We all have them. We can’t be without them. We need them to be able to interpret what’s happening in our life. What’s valuable to us in life. But what really matters is that we choose the beliefs that work for us, and not against us.
If putting others on a pedestal and seeing them as doing everything so much better than you is a huge motivator for you…go for it. More power to your elbow. . But if it’s yet another discouraging thought…it’s time to turn it around.
There’s a huge difference between being motivated by another’s success and judging ourselves and finding ourselves wanting compared to someone else. Let’s go for discernment as opposed to judgement. Let’s go for choosing a belief that serves us well. That doesn’t diminish who we are.
We all have our gifts and talents that are uniquely ours…we just need to unwrap them, acknowledge them and use them.
We all have our own light that needs to shine into the world. We need just a sliver of belief in our abilities for that creative inner power to begin to work it’s magic.
We’re not at the mercy of any outside force, or old experiences, unless we believe we are.
Your future is being created by the beliefs you hold now.
And the thing that speaks most loudly to the belief in your success, is being willing to say ‘yes, please‘. And ‘thanks very much‘. This puts you in a position to receive.
So let’s take some action. And no, for all those who think I’m talking about doing something. I’m not. As always it’s the inner action that makes all the difference. It’s the inner action which stirs our subconscious, our creative power, into accepting a new belief and then bringing it into being.
Make an Assessment
Is this belief serving me well? Do I want to keep it or have I outgrown it and am I ready and willing to feel confidence flowing through me?
Make a Commitment
To see the confident, talented you. Probably the one that others see regularly, but for some reason you haven’t accepted or acknowledged it. A commitment is a promise and we’re going to require some focus to begin to see ourselves as we want to be. Commit to your success.
And just for these who absolutely have to be ‘doing’ something.
Got doubts? Write them down and challenge them. Don’t just accept them as true for you.
Create An Image
Of you as a totally confident being. You’ve chosen to be more, not less. In nature things grow as large as they can. No limitations. It’s time for us to recognize our true nature…that of spiritual, growth seeking, beings. It doesn’t serve anyone for us to play small. Your successes help us all.
Create a strong mental image of achieving your goal, finishing your project, experiencing success in any venture you choose.
Picture your happy, smiling confident face and feel confidence oozing out of every pore before you tackle your next project, be it as humble as making a phone call or as magnificent as that next piece of art you produce.
Got feedback? I’d love to hear in the comments where you’ve lacked confidence and what changes you decided to make. Your experiences may help someone else in our global community.
Encourage one another.