How do you create calm and inner stillness in the midst of chaos and unpredictability?
It’s freaking tough to pretend as if nothing is happening when, worst case scenario, you’re living in an environment targeted by terrorists, or more regular scenarios you’re daily drive is clogged with traffic or you’re living where trouble and worries about the kids happen every single day.
Life’s chaos can be so disruptive that it can take away our peace at the moment and push us beyond our limits. This can make us project negative habits that we had no intention of projecting.
Have you ever noticed people responding to life in a crazy way when they feel they’ve had enough and can’t handle things anymore? It’s challenging to find calm in the midst of chaos.
So many suicides and the bad things happening around the world today is a result of uncontrollable chaos. And chances are you might be experiencing some life chaos right now.
The good news?
You can control chaos and generate calm and peace into your life in every moment.
“Right now I am trying to be in a place of calm, a place where I can chill out and then handle the chaos of life better. You don’t just get it overnight; you have to work at it. It’s a daily struggle.” – Jackee Harry.
It’s true… you just have to work at it! And working at it could be as simple as:
I know it sounds simple? And right now you’re probably tired of hearing experts talking to you about letting go.
But for me, letting go helped me to get rid of the small, negative voice that drives my mind wild and makes me worry about things that don’t really matter.
The voice that makes it really hard to stay calm in the midst of chaos, never mind let go!
A small amount of chaos not handled in the right way can lead to a big disaster that can ruin an entire city. So you want to handle the small amount of negativity churning in your mind before it expands and takes charge of your life, leading to personal disasters.
You can handle this chaos simply by becoming aware of it and just simply letting go.
In the midst of chaos, instead of giving in to frustration, choose to take charge of the situation, settle into a mode of acceptance, control what you can, and let go of what you can’t.
‘Don’t follow the chaos, don’t follow the noise, instead follow the stillness behind everything’. – Cephas Tope
Stay in the present moment
Another common teaching, right? But if it’s not carefully learned and understood, you could be missing out on a lot of the value that life has to offer.
Reflect on this for a moment:
You’re in a meeting expected to last for 30 minutes. Everything went well, important information was shared with everyone, but at the end of the meeting, you suddenly realize you haven’t absorbed anything.
You realize your mind has been busy thinking about so many other things that even though it looked like you were present, your mind wasn’t there at all.
Have you ever experienced this?
I’ll tell you now that it has happened to so many people countless times, including me.
It’s good to remind ourselves that being present in the moment is not only being present in the body alone but also being present in the spirit and soul; to pay attention and notice all that is happening in the present moment without being self-judgemental.
Always remind yourself to be present and simply trash any thoughts that are causing you to worry and not serving you well in the present moment.
As I mentioned earlier don’t focus on the chaos but rather focus on the positive things happening in the present moment.
Positive reflection means using the power of great things that have happened to override the negative ones.
Let your mind focus on this moment and the impact you could be making right now and not how you lived or what you’ve had.
When chaos happens, ask yourself, is it worth it, does it define you? Will things be that way forever? If your answer to these questions is No, which I believe you’ll find it is, simply breath and let it go.