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5 Simple Things You Can Do When You Feel Rejected

Updated Version When you feel rejected, it can be a painful experience. In fact it’s considered one of the most painful experiences we encounter as human beings. Research shows that experiencing social rejection fires up the same neural pathways as physical pain. Who knew? Well probably those of us who are extremely sensitive to rejection. And for those who are extremely sensitive in can also feel like a signal that they’re not good enough. We don’t talk about the fear of being rejected very much because it can be as painful an experience as feeling abandoned. And very likely comes from the same place, usually connected to the initial relationships we had with our caretakers. I know this was true for me…by the time I was five I had acquired the feeling of being abandoned. Maybe because for the first four years of my life my father was away in…

Self Care

5 Ways to Conquer Toxic Guilt And Get On With Your Life

By Elle Sommer

We’ve all experienced those sinking feelings in the pit of our stomach when we feel we’ve done something wrong. We haven’t kept our word, we let someone down, we did something that we believe to be awful and we are left feeling terrible. It doesn’t seem to matter much that what we did could easily have been forgiven or forgotten by those involved, except us. Some guilt is good for us as a society, because it tends to modulate the actions we take and too little guilt not so good for our societies because we end up with a society totally lacking in motivation for control. On the other hand, too much guilt can be pretty bad for us as individuals, especially when we feel guilt for things no longer in our control, or are about what others would consider to be minor lapses in judgment. And before we can…

Self Care

How You Can Use Mindfulness For Greater Well-Being, Health And Fulfillment

By Elle Sommer

We all know the word. Mindfulness. You probably have some image in your mind as you read those words as to what mindfulness is. Maybe you think of it as someone who is meditating mindfully as they sit legs crossed, hands on their knees with an expression of serenity on their face. That’s what I used to think. But I’ve discovered mindfulness is not only a spiritual practice, I found it a vital part of living a full and happy life. The type of mindfulness I’m talking about here, isn’t the kind that leads to self-realization. There are those who write on this topic more eloquently and with greater depth and understanding than I ever could. Mindfulness definitely has its roots in Eastern spiritual traditions though it’s been transformed into a more secular practice in the West and this is where I want to go with Mindfulness right now. The…

Self Care

5 Important Tips About Anxiety to Help Yourself Or Others

By Elle Sommer

I had my first anxiety attack in my late teens. Although I didn’t know at the time what it was. I was sitting on one of those red double decker buses in London, thinking of goodness knows what, when my head began to shake. It was weird. A sort of little head shake from side to side. To make matters worse my heart was pounding in my chest like a sledgehammer. And as suddenly as it started, it stopped and I forgot all about it, until the next time. The next time came fairly soon after the double decker bus incident. I was interviewing for something…not too sure today what it was because all of this was a long time ago. Everything was going well. I had been offered a cup of tea whilst we spoke and then it happened. I was putting the cup up to my lips to…

Personal Development

3 Ways To Get More Stillness In Your Life (Without Meditation)

By Rochi Zalani

What does it mean to get more stillness in your life? Think about this. How many times do you find yourself getting stuck in your own head? You keep jumping from one task to another, too busy to pause. When you do get a moment of lull, you seek distraction to avoid difficult thoughts & feelings. Technology and social media only make things worse. It seems like a vicious spiral. Is there even a way out? The answer I’ve found is in seeking stillness. Allowing a moment to ourselves to do nothing, to pause, to reflect, and to just be – this is what helps us find inner peace. The process of being still is beautiful and daunting at the same time. But with practice, patience, and dedication, you will reap its benefits when the rest of us have become screen zombies. Now I know what you’re thinking. I ain’t…