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Are You “Too Sensitive” or Just Deeply Aware? The Truth Behind Rejection Sensitivity

Have you ever walked away from a conversation and replayed the entire thing for hours? Reading between pauses. Rewinding the moment they hesitated before answering. Wondering if you said too much, or if they pulled away. Yeah. Me too. And for years, I thought there was something wrong with me because of it. “You Overthink Everything.” I’ve heard that more times than I can count. “Why do you take things so personally?” “Stop being paranoid.” “Not everything’s about you.” When you care deeply about someone – a friend, partner, co-worker – your emotional radar is always on. And it’s not because you want drama or for attention. It’s because your nervous system has learned that connection = safety. And the idea of disconnection? Feels exactly like danger. Before I understood this, I thought I was unlovable. Too needy. Too emotional. But it turns out, there’s actually a name for this…

Health & Wellness

Journaling for Mental Wellness: A Beginner’s Guide

By Lorri Faye

Journaling for mental wellness is a powerful practice that can have a hugely positive impact on your overall well-being. If you haven’t tried it yet, stick with me. It might just be the key you’ve been looking for! If you’ve been feeling like it’s so much harder to prioritise mental wellness these days, you’re not alone. The number of things screaming for my attention seems to grow by the week and I wouldn’t mind betting that many people reading this will be experiencing the same thing. Before you know it, what started out as feeling “a bit busy” begins to feel like trying to juggle six flaming torches while unicycling blindfolded along a tightrope stretched over a shark tank! Even so, it can still feel pretty self-centred to be thinking about self-care and our own mental wellness when there are so many “more important” things demanding our attention. But is…

Self Care

How to Overcome People Pleasing Tendencies and Experience Greater Peace of Mind

By Elle Sommer

Most of us are people pleasers to some degree or another. It’s part of being human. But it can steal our peace of mind when it’s taken to levels that aren’t healthy. Jim Rohn once said, “Learn how to say no, Don’t let your mouth overload your back.” Yet this was the world I lived in for more years than I can remember. I couldn’t say no. My mouth overloaded my back. How did I learn this inability to say no? I don’t know. But wherever it came from, it was there. And today I understand it to be an emotional need that I couldn’t quite pinpoint. Though if insisted upon, I would probably pick the need to be liked. Anyway, if you, too, go out of your way to be helpful and ‘kind’ and consistently say yes, even when you’re overloaded, it sounds like you may have some people…

Self Care

5 Things You Need to Start Doing To Have The Best And Happiest Relationships

By Elle Sommer

Tony Robbins says: The quality of your life is the quality of your relationships. And I can say hand on heart that I have found this to be an eternal truth in my life. With the added disclaimer that relationships are not always straightforward, though. Are they? And there’s nothing so painful as when relationships turn out badly. Let’s begin right at the beginning: You don’t get what you want; you get who you are So who are you in terms of relationships? Are you someone who has been hurt, wounded, or abused in some way? Do you have a perspective on relationships that are less than optimistic, perhaps downright pessimistic? And now you have no trust in healthy, happy relationships. If this is you, then this is what you’ll get. And this state of mind will never draw a lasting, loving relationship. Even if you desire to experience a…

Self Care

How to Get Over Feeling Miserable And Start Enjoying Life Again

By Elle Sommer

Updated September 2022 We all want to know how to stop feeling miserable on those days that start with us feeling totally down, blah, a little blue, or cranky and dejected. If you’re a part of humanity, chances are high that you have felt or are feeling miserable. Who hasn’t had days that start with feeling down, blah, blue, or cranky and dejected? Sometimes without even knowing why. But whatever the reason, it doesn’t bode well for the day ahead, and knowing it isn’t the path to enjoying life makes it feel worse. But before you jump back into bed and hide under the covers, take heart. There is something good in all that misery you’re feeling. You’re aware of it. And even though it might not seem like it, this is a good thing. Without awareness, nothing can change. Of course, awareness doesn’t mean that what you’re dealing with…