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Hands up everyone who’s ever had a relationship fall apart? Yep…that’s all of us. We’ve all had relationship problems and for some the answer is moving on or moving out. And often we go on to have the same unhappy endings over and over. Why is that? We can begin by understanding just as you’re not perfect, nor am I, nor is life…nor are there perfect relationships. Fairy tales with princesses being swept off their feet by dashing knights on white horses are just that…fairy tales. That doesn’t mean that life doesn’t hold incredible joy when we engage deeply in loving relationships. Relationships that nurture, and support, that are filled with love and hands held during difficult times are more than possible for us all. So how do we get there from here? How do we rediscover love when all seems lost? 1. Start with your inner life The journey to…

Relationships. We need them. Research tells us that intimate relationships are necessary for our health and well being and we know that the early days of any relationship is awesome, but what comes after that first ‘honeymoon’ stage? If we paid too much attention to our current cultural beliefs about love we’d believe that it’s a bed of roses, a fairytale of handsome princes and princesses, dashing off into the sunset. 1.Forget perfect We know that life isn’t perfect but we’ve been fed the expectation that love should be. And we fall for it. We want someone to come along and make us happy, meet our every need, or fulfill our every daydream of love. And some of us find ourselves struggling with jealousy. In short we expect our relationships to give us everything we ought to be giving ourselves. 2.Real Love… with a capital L, can be challenging. And worthwhile.…

We must look for ways to be an active force in our own lives. We must take charge of our own destinies, design a life of substance and truly begin to live our dreams ~ Les Brown We don’t need anyone to validate our existence in this world…that’s our job.  But the joint sharing of life together can be the most blazingly brilliant, joy filled and nurturing experience…ever. The challenge for us all is that our beliefs and perspectives on relationships become the results we have.  And as we all know by now, not every relationship belief we hold is that great.  Everyone’s had ups and downs in relationships, be they of significant others, family or friends, and if we’ve interpreted these as being the ‘norm’ for a relationship…then so it is. We pretty much know by now that we can never have in our outer world what we don’t…

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