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Your birthright is worthiness. And you can enhance your life to experience a better future. So why do we get in our own way and make life more difficult than it needs to be? This is a question I’ve asked myself many times on my own journey. I know I’ve often been unkind to myself, been critical, not feeling good enough, or telling myself I just don’t have what it takes. And if this sounds familiar, here’s the truth: we have all been hypnotized to one degree or another by society’s expectations beginning at a young age. Break free I can’t speak for you, but I know I blindly followed society’s conventions to the letter. Those societal norms and expectations influenced me from a young age. Often making my life incredibly difficult and leaving me struggling to believe in my own worthiness. But life is so much more than that.…

What can you do to make life more meaningful and successful? Perhaps the answer lies in making a few changes. I used to rely on willpower to experience my goals and dreams, but more often than not, it didn’t work out well for me. Leaving me feeling frustrated and disappointed. Achieving success and a sense of fulfilment requires more than just willpower alone. When the results we experience fail to match the energy we have expended on our goals, it can be disheartening. If this sounds familiar, consider asking yourself specific questions to help you gain clarity and focus on manifesting a more meaningful and successful life. What works and what doesn’t work to make my life more meaningful and successful? We often invest time in doing the same thing that hasn’t worked in the past, yet think that repeating it is a good idea! Or worse, the fact we’re…

Updated Version There’s a strong possibility that there’s something in your life you would like to change and toxic distractions get in the way of that. We all would like to have everything we want in life. Preferably this very minute. Right? Sadly, life doesn’t work that way. Life never offers us what we want, because it can’t. It can only offer us who we are. Which means everything that’s happening within us is what requires our attention most. We have to be careful of the words we whisper to ourselves, the assumptions we make about us and others and the attitude we bring to every situation we encounter. In other words we have to move away from the outer physical world which relentlessly streams information to us and spend more time consciously being aware of what’s going on within. The first one is easily done. Turn everything off. Turn off…

Updated Version When you feel rejected, it can be a painful experience. In fact it’s considered one of the most painful experiences we encounter as human beings. Research shows that experiencing social rejection fires up the same neural pathways as physical pain. Who knew? Well probably those of us who are extremely sensitive to rejection. And for those who are extremely sensitive in can also feel like a signal that they’re not good enough. We don’t talk about the fear of being rejected very much because it can be as painful an experience as feeling abandoned. And very likely comes from the same place, usually connected to the initial relationships we had with our caretakers. I know this was true for me…by the time I was five I had acquired the feeling of being abandoned. Maybe because for the first four years of my life my father was away in…

Updated March 9th, 2021 What to do when you’re bored Is there a cure for boredom? Because let’s face it, feeling bored can happen to the best of us. Interruption might work well sometimes in relationships: read a The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, but Doesn’t, What Shouldn’t Make You Happy, but Does – but it doesn’t work so well when you’re bored with a task that needs doing. There’s no two ways about it, don’t take a break: it doesn’t work. I’ve tried it – more than once – on the assumption that taking a break would do me the world of good. Especially when I’m bored with all the online stuff I’m involved in, or when I’m fed up with cleaning in the house, but believe me it makes the experience worse when you get back to it. The trick! Stick with it until it gets done.…

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