The Best Way to Stop Making the Biggest Mistake You Often Make

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There’s lots of ways to sabotage yourself and kill your dreams and desires.

Of all the things than have a major impact on your future and the one that causes the most grief, procrastination is the deadliest.  And the day of reckoning always arrives.

The day always comes when we realize the consequences of neglect, broken promises and allowing time to slip through our fingers. Our self-confidence diminishes, our dreams become little more than distant memories and our hopes for an awesome future dim.

Not a pretty picture.

As a recovering perfectionist, procrastinator and many other bad habits I tried everything from white noise, to the Pomodora technique, and Productivity Owl.  But nothing really stuck.  Before too long my bad habit always came back.

 I needed a way to stop making the biggest mistake I often made. What to do?

Basically I gave up. 

I stopped worrying about being a procrastinator.  I stopped giving myself  ‘must do right now lists’. And I did what I should have done from the beginning.

I let go of doing and focused on being.

I did the same thing when I choose to stop watching the news or political shows on T.V. many years ago.

I imagined myself being someone other than the person who got dragged into negativity on a nightly basis. And today I can’t remember the last time I got caught up in the negative news cycle.

And so:

  1. I imagined myself being the person who had no need to escape doing the difficult things.
  2. I set an intention that I would ask myself if what I was about to do would help fulfill my dreams.
  3. I paid careful attention to what would feel better at the end of the day.
  4. And then I took a minute to feel what being this person would be like.

And it was good. And I smiled and exhaled deeply…letting everything else go.

It might help to discover what kind of a procrastinator you are.  Oh yes, we are a varied group.  I would tell you what I am, but you wouldn’t be impressed!

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. You can also find her on Healthy Natural Oils her new website for helping you get started with essential oils for more natural health, well-being happiness and success in your life!

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  • Hi Elle – great article – sometimes the answer I find is to simply work out what feels best to do next and do that. It wont be perfect and there may be some consequences down the road and some other things might not get done, but you can only live, love and laugh right now and that’s where the fun is:)

    • So true Mark…as a recovering perfectionist (ongoing) I love the idea of accepting things won’t be perfect. 🙂

  • Hello there, Elle –
    I was going to take the quiz but put it off for a bit.
    Alright, not really . . .
    It proclaimed I was a “Dreamer” !
    I like the sound of that but will have to try it on for size to see if it really fits.
    Thank you . . . .
    Write on, Elle !

    • Doesn’t surprise me that you’re a dreamer. You’re very poetic in your turn of phrase and I’m sure most really great poets were dreamers by nature. 🙂

  • Hi Elle, Thanks for sharing another relevant post. I find it very encouraging, we should really pay to attention to what would feel better at the end of the day. Great Read. 🙂

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