Your beliefs are the foundation upon which your life is built.

They are the imprinted images of the thoughts and emotions in your mind. And because you and the beliefs you hold create your world experiences that’s the place to go to transform them.

Despite the fact that sometimes it feels as though life loves to throws obstacles or road blocks your way you still have every opportunity to update your Belief Manager, and create a new reality.

And I’ll be with you every step of the way. Don’t worry I brought snacks!

What if I told you that you could make one decision that would totally transform the way your life has worked so far?  Would you want to take this step? Are you ready to step out of disaster mode into master mode?

Let’s get right to it.

Keeping the main thing the main thing

How are you feeling right now? You probably haven’t given it much thought, since for the most part we go through our waking day taking little notice of our thoughts and feelings. 

And as for paying attention to your beliefs, for most of us that’s the last thing on our mind as we wend our sometimes weary way through the life that has been formed by those invisible, unconscious thoughts and feelings that are our beliefs.

You might have been bothered by the traffic today, or maybe someone upset you, or you were troubled by a challenge you had.  

Truth be told, it wasn’t any of those things that caused your upset but your beliefs about them.

Your beliefs, elusive as they may seem are incredibly powerful and play the part of the director of the story which is your life. That’s the thing to bear in mind.

The one decision you can make that will transform your life experiences

Use one of your greatest gifts. The power to change the pattern of your beliefs, no matter how long those beliefs have been running your life.

It wasn’t until I was forced to look at some of the beliefs I held that I could at least see clearly why I’d had a number of difficult relationships or why my feelings of self-worth really sucked in some areas. 

As I became aware of these beliefs I stumbled my way into the discovery that I had the power to change them.  My life experiences changed dramatically. 

I met a wonderful man, who is the light of my life, my confidence increased and many more of the ideas that I had, which had seemed pie in the sky came to fruition.

From The Belief Principle: 7 Principles That Will Transform Your Life by Steven Aitchison

If  you manage to change your beliefs, you can change the way you see  the world, and if you change the way you see the world, you can have  a much better quality of life, be more action oriented, have more  energy, and attract more of the things and people you want in life

Beliefs are sneaky

Don’t be fooled, beliefs are sneaky little devils. Most of the time we aren’t even aware of what we believe.

I remember a year or so after my husband passed away I’d taken myself off to Florida to walk on quiet sunlit beaches away from all the well-meaning, kind and loving people back home, who all knew, more precisely than I did, what I should do with the rest of my life.

One of those early morning walks brought a sudden realization via a few thoughts I was having.  I became aware that  I didn’t believe what I was thinking.  It wasn’t even my belief. It was a belief I’d accepted and adopted from my late husband. And it felt depressing.

What an eye opener that was. I took over responsibility for that particular belief and replaced it with a belief that was more uplifting and transformative.


Here’s Steven: The Belief Principle

Think of your thoughts at any given  point as a bright spotlight. When you shine that spotlight on positive  thoughts, the negative thoughts are left in the dark. It’s only when we  put a spotlight on the “depressing” thoughts that periods of  depression come to us. If we focus on these “depressing” thoughts for  a prolonged period of time, we begin to get used to them always  being in the spotlight. So we have to shift our focus. Can it really be  that easy? Yes, it can.

Taking responsibility

Far too many think that taking responsibility is the same as blame.  Nope. Not in the slightest. Blame is holding the past against yourself. Punishing yourself for mistakes or setbacks made with a younger mind only leads down the path to regret.

Carrying old limiting beliefs, when there is so much brilliance inside you  will keep you trapped in a state that isn’t good enough for you.  Do. Not. Do. This. To. Yourself.

Here’s Steven: The Belief Principle

What happens when you take responsibility?  The first thing that will happen is that you will feel empowered,  possibly for the first time in your life.  Where before there were no choices, there suddenly opens up a  world of possibilities and choices.  If you hate the job you’re in just now, you may feel “I hate this job, I  am stuck here, I have no choice but to do this crappy job to pay the  bills, and I’m never going to get a better job.” By taking responsibility,  you are enabling your ability to respond and saying, “My choices led  me to this job, and it will be my choices that lead to a better job.”  Can you see how the first thought closes your mind down to  possibilities and the second thought opens your mind to possibilities?

Installing new beliefs

The future you would like to see. The person you would like to be. The things you want to have, are all knocking at your door.

Sounds silly, right?  If all these wonderful opportunities are knocking at your door, why wouldn’t you answer?

Problem is no matter how much you want something or someone to be different, if you don’t believe it’s possible for you, it can never happen.

Opening the door and saying yes is the easiest thing in the world. All that’s required is you accept or adopt a different belief.

And if this is difficult for you, as I know it can be. You can make room for change by taking some quiet moments in your day in order to gain some deliberate control over your thoughts and feelings.

Yes you may have battles to fight, difficulties to contend with and challenges to overcome, but a break is necessary for us all.

Here’s Steven: The Belief Principle

If you are finding it difficult to install a particular belief, place your  hand over your heart area and mentally repeat the mantra for that  belief: I am the light, I am the energy, I am the love, I am the  universe, (your new belief here). Do this whenever you can, when  you have spare thinking time, when you are in the queue at the  supermarket, when you are driving and stuck in traffic, or when you are waiting on someone. The beauty is that this mantra can be  repeated anytime and anywhere, and it doesn’t take long at all.

Final thoughts

When you begin to see who you really are you will be able to put the past behind you and  become more confident. This isn’t easy to do so long as you criticize or dislike yourself.  Self-acceptance at the deepest level is necessary if you are to move beyond old beliefs that are poisoning your destiny.

You can outface the old perspectives you’ve had about yourself. You are too precious to be stuck with someone you don’t value and respect.

Is there something that might be holding you back? Actually there is.  Here’s Steven’s short video on that very topic.

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Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Dear Elle,

    Our thoughts are so powerful, aren’t they? I really resonate with the idea of making the main thing, the main thing! And I agree, we need to take some time each day to become more deliberate about our thoughts. We’ll certainly feel empowered and experience a big shift if we do this.

  2. Our thoughts can either help us or hurt us – as you’ve described here. When we use pour minds to help us, life becomes so much better, easier, happier. .. and it does all stem from your relationship with yourself and self-acceptance. I have experienced this in my own life. Thank you for the reminder.

    • Hi Debbie – me too – experienced life being easier when I’m in that higher vibrational space. Now I just need to stay there, lol. 🙂

  3. I really appreciate what you and Steven have said in this article. And what I found foremost in my mind was how you covered Blame vs Responsibility. Oh my stars, that one is so important for so many folks, particularly in today’s energetic atmosphere.
    Responsibility is very expanding and empowering.
    Blame is restrictive and constricting.
    Responsibility is freedom.
    Blame is limitation.
    By claiming responsibility, we claim new positive light-filled growth beliefs.
    By taking or placing blame, we put ourselves or others in negative dark energy dungeons.
    I know which one I’ll be choosing.
    Thank you both for sparking this new awareness/belief for me !

    • Hi G – What a wonderful perspective on life. Thanks for sharing it. The idea of dark energy dungeons is really evocative, I would love to steal it from you! 🙂

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