There was a time when I couldn’t decide what I wanted.  Mostly because I was afraid that I would be stuck with it.  As though whatever I chose would stay with me for ever and ever, set in stone. And what if I changed my mind?  And I’d worry that by the time it got here, I might not want it.   Now that’s pitiful!

Some of the major, and very serious life decisions were easy.  One doughnut or two I handled really well…two of course..  Ice cream or chocolate cake?  No probs…I’ll have them both.

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Lewis Carrol must have had me in mind when he wrote this…how the heck did he know me so well?

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where–” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“–so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”

* Cheshire Puss *

And therein lies the rub.  We’ll all definitely end up somewhere if we just keep going, but is it a somewhere we want to go?

My belief was that once something became ‘a fact’ I was stuck with it.  Facts were after all immovable objects, or at least really, really hard to change.  Sayings abounded ~ it’s always been like this, it’ll never change.  This is just the way things are.  Facts are stubborn things.  This is just how life is.  You’ve made your bed, now you have to lie in it.   Wow, what if I made my bed of rocks and stones and prickly things that stuck in my btm?

All this made choosing what I wanted pretty tricky.  And then…and then…I heard someone say..the fact’s are always changing…they’re fluid.  And I saw it was true.  Nothing ever stayed the same.  Everything changed with amazing regularity.  How could I have missed this?

Everything changed for me too.  I started to look beyond the sea of ‘facts’, that surrounded me.  I stopped letting ‘facts’  dictate my life.  Not that  I didn’t need to manage current experiences, but I stopped allowing them to distract me from what I really wanted.  What the truth about me was.  Ah what a blessed relief.

What truth would you see, if you stopped allowing the facts to distract you.

Would you find that amazing, wonderful, almost magical being that lives in you?

Would you find out how incredibly worthy and infinite you are?

What would you change, if you knew the current facts in your life couldn’t hold you back?  Where would you go, who would you be?

Choose whatever you fancy, and end up somewhere you actually want to be.

Encourage each other.

Love Elle.






Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Wonderful piece. Step aside Facts and allow for the fluidity of life. We create our own beliefs that oftentimes translate into ‘facts’ of life that hold us back.
    Hogwash!! Re-believe new ideas that will enable us to move onward in a positive and creative way that will speak to our dreams.

  2. Hi Elle,
    It comes down to ‘choice’. Choose the direction and follow. Many of the ‘facts’ we have inherited don’t apply in today’s world. Be adventurous, get excited and set out on your adventure.
    be good to yourself

  3. Elle, very well said. “Spot on!”
    We always have choices and are never bound
    by precedent – unless we believe we are!

    • Elle

      Thanks Rev Dore. Always good to get a thumbs up from you:-)

  4. Joseph Appaloosa

    An excellent reminder that we actually do play the role of ultimate decider for our outcomes . . . for our experiences . . . for out our life. And your article asks the most important – “where do we want to be”? Ignore the present facts and claim where you want to be !
    Write on, Elle !

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