Filled with an unexpected and unusual organizational frenzy, I cleaned up my e-mails on Saturday..and promptly lost every blooming one. I didn’t exactly delete them, they seemed to disappear into the ether somewhere. Not the great result I was looking for.
They were probably occupying the same space with all the odd socks that have mysteriously disappeared over the years. Don’t you hate it when that happens?
I panicked…it’s my go-to mode when the inexplicable happens. I knew I had important unanswered e-mails sitting somewhere and I wanted them back. Like now. And eventually I fell back on tried and true methods to be revealed later…
I was reminded of this today when I met with a friend who was frantically trying to gain access to a site that held a vital e-mail list. She was sooooo ticked off, steam coming out of her ears and a progressive annoyance becoming more and more obvious as she attempted various and no doubt brilliant manoeuvres guaranteed to fix the problem. She was upset.
Fifteen minutes into my friend’s awesome manoeuvring nothing had changed. Still no list. Still no ability to log in to her site. Sheer and utter frustration. This was definitely not the easy path to great results.
No force necessary
We think that by forcing issues, making things happen, wanting it all to be different, fighting against what’s wrong we can make it all right. Right? But all it does is magnify the very thing we want to be different.
Thank goodness there’s another way, otherwise I’d still be up the creek without a paddle, in other words without my e-mails.
And yes, they returned to me from the depths of the internet black hole. And no, I have no clue about the how of it. I just know the why.
I used my imagination to see everything being back the way I wanted it. And in this space we’re led to a new and different action which brings the results we want.
We don’t have to force things to get what we want, all we have to do is occupy the consciousness of already having it. Okay, okay, I know it’s easier said than done. Especially when we’re in the middle of a melt-down over a relationship, or health challenge or something a little more significant than a missing e-mail or two.
The space of power
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom. ~ Viktor Frankl
And it’s here, in this space, that the power to change our world exists. By taking a breath, a step back, we give ourselves time to change our focus, taking it off what we don’t want and placing it firmly and squarely on what we do want…a much easier path to great results.
Regardless of whether something is trivial or of vital importance to us, keeping our attention on what we don’t want, what we’re upset about, is never going to give us what we do want.
Stop the reinforcement
Most of what we feel is ‘wrong’ in our lives gets reinforced by our very thoughts about it. Every situation that you find yourself in that seems problematic, or upsetting, or hurtful is made manifestly worse by consistently returning to it.
And that’s the thing about imagination it works for us and ‘agin us. It can preserve and keep the situation you really don’t want – because our thoughts and feelings dwell in this world of imagination. And then again, imagination can transform and change the situation until we’re all yelling woohoo, I did it.
Don’t say ‘yes’ to anything if you want it to be ‘a big no way’.
Don’t get caught in the negativity trap
The ideas that impel us into action are those that dominate the consciousness, and the actions we might take from the state of mind of upset, or worry, or hurt, or annoyance are going to be different than the actions we would take if we were relaxed and comfortable, safe in the knowledge that our imagined outcome was assured.
Results are always a perfect reflection of our consciousness.
In every assumption we make, the means for its realization exists. Imagination and assumptions influence our behavior, by inspiring in us the movements, the actions, and the words which carry us forward towards the fulfillment of our desires.
If you’re not convinced yet, try taking a step back from the next challenge that has you in a tizz and take time to imagine the outcome you want to experience. And see what happens. See if you have a new idea or two from which to act. What have you got to lose? Oh yes, all those upset, negative feelings that bring so much joy and great results.
Encourage one another.
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