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The main reason life isn’t blissful is because life just isn’t happening the way you want it to.
And that makes you unhappy.
And when you’re unhappy, there is no bliss. To live blissfully means you are heading towards a magnified joyful, fulfilling life. You are the captain of your life and not a passenger.
It is the most priceless of all riches.
Take a minute and ask yourself, “What do I really want?”
And I’ll bet you find you want what everyone wants. To live a joyful, peaceful life in terms of relationships, money, and health.
“A person will find true happiness when he or she follow his or her own bliss,” said Joseph Campbell.
And as you follow your bliss the universe will open doors that you didn’t even know were there.
But first here’s 9 things to let go of to help you live blissfully and support you to become aware of the doors that lead towards the blissful life that beckons you.
Let go of:
1. A pessimistic attitude
It can make you sick.
Scientific studies show that those that score highest on pessimism charts were more than twice as likely as anyone else to get sick. And, if you’re already sick, being a pessimist make everything worse.
Think of it like this.
If you think it’s going to rain, it usually does. So why not start to be grateful that behind that rain lies a rainbow.
Practice looking on the bright side a little more and maybe, just maybe, you can start to live a longer, healthier, more blissful life.
2. Resistance to change
Embrace change. It’s when things begin to change that our negative thinking can take hold.
The main reason we resist is because we’re afraid of the unknown.
The ‘What if’s’ come into play.
What if things don’t work out the way I want?
What if I don’t have what it takes to succeed at this new experience? Be it career or love.
This resistance will kill your bliss before it even gets a chance to knock on your door.
And one simple way out of this resistant mind-set is to expect change to be good.
Expect the end result to be fantastic and remind yourself change is really a neutral experience.
It’s just our perspective that makes it into some giant event to freak out about.
3. UnWillingness to tolerate uncomfortable feelings
Life can be unpredictable. And that doesn’t always feel so great. So what do we tend to do? Of course, we stick to what we know. 🙂
We stick to those comfort zones where growth isn’t possible.
And yet, it’s those uncomfortable feelings that bring your biggest opportunity to experience a way to live blissfully.
Learn to be comfortable with feeling uncomfortable.
And recognize that feeling uncomfortable is a gift that enables you to expand your spiritual muscles, because you discover how easy it is to take control of your moods.
You discover that you can choose your mood every day, regardless of experiences, just like you choose what outfit to wear.
Don’t ever hesitate to give yourself the chance for spiritual growth.
4. Leaving things undone
Nothing is so stressful and emotionally exhausting as the eternal presence of unstarted or unfinished tasks.
Do you put off things that you know would make your life easier, or happier or bring you closer to your dreams? I know I’ve done it and sometimes do it still.
And before too long I’m awash in a sea of silent recriminations because I know I’m sabotaging my desires and happiness.
Try and remember that feeling of lightness and relief once you buckle down and get those tasks done.
And use this feeling as a means to beat off the procrastination urge, the next time it hits.
5. Expecting to find happiness outside of yourself.
In life it’s up to us to create our own sunshine and not wait for some bright soul to show up and give it to us. We can’t beg, borrow or steal another’s happiness, we have to make our own.
So every day find something that lifts your spirit.
Immerse yourself in something positive each morning and evening. Meditate, talk to encouraging people. Give something to others.
It’s amazing how once your focus is on great things, great experiences happen for you.
Marcus Aurelius once said, “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
And I’ve found that to be a universal truth in my life.
6. Assuming other people are better than you.
They’re not. They’ve struggled. They have fears and doubts and worries. Everything that goes along with daily living you can bet they’ve experienced. Who ever they are.
Sometimes in this distracting world we live in, it’s easy to lose sight of the fact that the people you assume are better than you, think someone else is better than them.
Don’t be fooled by outer experiences.
Things aren’t always as they seem and maybe it’s time to start seeing everyone, including you as human beings going through the same life challenges. Each of us perfectly imperfect.
7. Using past experiences as a deterrent
Stop letting past experiences in life be a basis for deciding whether something is possible or not today, right now. The fact that something has happened before, or not happened for you before is no predictor of what will happen now. Unless you make it so.
Just remember we can’t live in two worlds at the same time. One of them has to go, past or present.
I’d recommend you junking the past…it’s gone. It brought you to where you are today, which is good because you are on a path to your future.
And remember life doesn’t demand that you be perfect, it simply expects you to show up here and now, not lugging around the baggage of the past.
Old habits often show up when you’ve committed to change. Don’t let them get in your way.
8. Ignoring problems.
You cannot change what you refuse to acknowledge. And it’s super easy to run away from something you definitely don’t want to deal with.
The challenge is, the problem will rise up to confront us somewhere else in life. Which means we can’t ignore problems for ever.
The very things we need to face are the very things that make us stronger.
Problems won’t simply go away, they won’t dissolve into the past, they are carried forward into your future, bigger and stronger than ever.
And ignoring them is simply a way to check out of showing up for life, because sometimes it feels so scary.
Next time you feel the urge to ignore a problem because it might be painful to deal with, remember this: You are beautiful: you are wonderful: you are magical: you are capable of incredible things.
Now go and live a fulfilling, blissful life.
9. Being Master of the Universe
When it seems as though you have to control everything, remember that’s not your job. Which is a good thing, because you’re not equipped to do it.
It’s way above your pay grade.
This doesn’t mean you don’t have some control over your life because you do. You have control over your mind. No one can think thoughts for you.
You can control your reactions to people and situations. You can choose a response instead of a knee jerk reaction.
You have control over your imagination. No one can image your ideal life as well as you can.
And these abilities are all you need to make sure you end up in the place that is ideal for you.
Just don’t try and control how it happens…you’re merely getting in the way of the real Master of the Universe.
Accepting that you no longer have to control every little thing in life allows you to accept the guidance of something greater than yourself and feel connected to incredible abundance and power.
Letting go of habits that don’t serve you makes it an awful lot easier to get out there, and have life happen the way you want it to.
You can do this.
You have everything you need within to live joyfully. Tap into it now. Today.
Encourage one another.