Reading time: 4 minutes
[success]If the problem can be solved why worry? If the problem cannot be solved worrying will do you no good. ~ Śāntidevas[/success]
How often have you let dumb things create stress and anxiety and steal your peace?
If you’re repeatedly in meltdown mode, you’re going to pay a price in your emotional and physical well being and it’s too high a price to pay!
You don’t have to live like this, and if you feel you are, it’s time to take back control with some handy tools to manage the every day stressors that life throws your way.
Here’s 8 ways to show the world that you’re strong and powerful, and amazing and unique, and you’ve got it handled.
1.Take emotional control
Life does get easier when you focus on the one thing you do have control over. Your emotions.
A simple way to begin to control the way you feel about something is to change the words you use, as you think about it.
A couple of weeks ago, hubby and I were driving merrily along heading towards a great date night, when we were stymied by one of those drivers who couldn’t make up their mind what lane they wanted to be in, so they chose to be in two lanes at once. Blocking everyone’s path.
‘Ok dearie’ said I, ‘it’s make your mind up time’.
‘Not what I was thinking at all’ hubby said, but it made him laugh.
Not too sure if it was the quaint British expression that appealed to my American husband or the idea of someone being a ‘dearie’ instead of a ‘bleeping idiot’. But his energy shifted.
And you can do that with everything. A change of a word can change your emotions and shift your energy. After all why let someone else be in control of how you’re feeling?
Try it…and let me know how it works out for you. 🙂
2.Be engaged in today and not the stress of yesterday
Don’t allow anyone to hold you in a prison of old beliefs.
Not everyone can see you are not your past. Not everyone will notice the changes you’ve made.
Let them go.
Remember, you’re not sitting there waiting for approval, you’ve decided to let go of yesterday because you’re far too busy with today…bringing your dreams to life.
Stop stressing about what others’ think about you and never give up on the person you’re becoming simply because someone in your world doesn’t approve.
3.Remember to have fun
Most of what you do all day is productive. It’s leading you somewhere. And it’s a good thing.
But forgetting to just play and have some fun will leave you feeling listless and demoralized. Doesn’t really help to eliminate daily stressors.
If you’ve been feeling ‘down’ lately add a little fun back into your life.
Anything that lifts your heart and spirits will do. You’ll be surprised to find you can be a lot more productive with a little goofing off every now and then.
4.Stop being too unconscious to appreciate life
For the sake of your sanity, it’s important to take a moment every day to step away from the repetition of daily life and savor the sweetness in each day.
Life is to be enjoyed, and to be fully lived you have to take time to notice the beauty that life has on offer.
Friendships are beautiful, love is beautiful.
Cherish and appreciate the magic in living by looking for the best, the good in everything.
Life gets easier when you are thankful and appreciative for it.
5.Never lose heart
If you fall back into old patterns of living that no longer bring you joy, be patient and compassionate with yourself.
Rome wasn’t built in a day and life altering new habits don’t arrive overnight.
One of the strange things about life, if you refuse to accept anything other than the best, you often get it. And once you become aware that old patterns clearly don’t work, you’re well on your way to change.
Before too long you’ll find yourself doing things differently, thinking differently, responding to life in a more positive way.
Meanwhile, don’t lose heart.
Celebrate yourself. You’re beginning to be the leader in your life.
How many times have you said I can’t be bothered, or I’ll get to it later.
I’ve struggled with this myself over the years. But in the end I usually remember my mum saying, ‘if you want to get it done, you’d better begin – so stop talking about it and get going.’
When you can’t get yourself started on something, remember you either do it or you don’t, but dithering on the sidelines is a waste of your creative energy.
Decision plus action equals magic. Expect something wonderful to come out of everything you do.
7.Learn to love the flaws
Celebrate every time you discover your flaws or recognize where you went wrong.
It isn’t until you notice your flaws and mistakes that you can see you have more room for growth.
There’s always someone who will find ways to criticize and judge…you don’t have to help them by clipping your own wings.
You are worthy of love and respect, but don’t expect to get it from others when you withhold it from yourself.
Once you learn to see your flaws and your errors in life as a sign of a life well lived you’ll begin to rejoice in them.
Regardless of who you are, or what’s happened in the past you’re sitting at the controls of a vast and powerful energy that needs you to direct it.
Are you creating your circumstances or settling for what comes along?
Are you letting the events and conditions of your life control you or are you controlling them?
You can sit there, with incredible power at your disposal, and just hope it takes you where you want to go, or you can step in and direct it towards a specific purpose…your amazing future.
With a little imagination and right thinking you can begin to take charge. There’s something very liberating in discovering it’s all up to you .
Currently, what’s your biggest struggle in making sure stress doesn’t get the best of you ?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below, you could be the one who makes a huge difference for someone in our community.
If you enjoyed this, do share the love via twitter, or facebook, or google plus and help raise the level of encouragement in the world.
And thank you for being in my life.
Encourage one another.