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[success]You are not your habits. You can replace old patterns of self-defeating behavior with new patterns, new habits of the effectiveness, happiness and trust-based relationships. ~ Stephen Covey[/success]

Have you ever been whacked alongside the head, or knocked off your feet by unexpected situations in your personal or business life?

Everything’s going to hell in a hand basket and your options suck.

Of course you have.  We all have.

Chances are, sooner or later we’re all likely to find ourselves stuck in the middle of intimidating challenges without any idea of how to get back on track.

Here’s some simple habits you might want to use to make a shift into forward gear.

1.Listen to the voice that helps

We all have that voice that says..’not now’, ‘it can wait’, ‘maybe later’.

This isn’t the voice of success. But it is a voice that grows steadily louder over time, especially when we’re around the wrong people, developing the wrong attitudes and continually making the easier choices.

Focus on the voice of achievement the one that says you can develop new attitudes. The one that says why not turn off the tv, get up off the couch, pick up a book, learn something new.

That’s the voice that helps and supports.

That’s the voice that gets you busy creating a vibration of success and achievement.

2.Muddling through doesn’t cut it

Remember you’re here for a purpose. It’s the power that gets you going and keeps you going. You were put on this earth to express your greatest self.

Your voice counts, your dreams matter, your purpose will lead the way. Stay open and aware, accept that something great is going on. Don’t spend your life picking up the pieces because you did too little too late.

There might be times when people or challenges try stop you or shut you up. Be bold enough to ignore them, and focus on what truly matters, living in alignment with your dreams and desires.

Unwavering concentration on a single purpose is the way to great achievements. This is the secret of super successful people.

3.Out with the old

Make peace. Especially make peace with yourself. With your past. With others. 

Then move on.

The past only has the power you give it.

Let go of any grudges and resentments. You’ll continue to re-live the past in some form or another if you never let it go. Life is good no matter what anyone else has done or said…don’t let them get to you.

Each and every morning you have a choice, poison your heart and soul with grievances or move on to the higher ground of joy and happiness.  

4.Become an alchemist

The most successful people on the planet aren’t without problems. What they don’t do is focus on their inadequacies, or put themselves down.

Don’t let problems overwhelm, use them as an opportunity to serve you. Begin looking for the opportunities in every challenge you have and don’t miss the messages each problem has for you.

Ask yourself, ‘what can I learn about me, what can I learn about my thinking, my beliefs, my choices? In the end what matters is that you don’t feel sorry for yourself, you don’t feel helpless. Remember your past victories, however small.

Become an alchemist, make everyday situations work in your favour, turn them into good fortune, into gold. 

5.You’re never out of your depth if you know how to swim

Personal relationships are vital to our well being. We all need love and companionship. And we can all be a true source of growth and support for each other.

But not every relationship is successful.

If the ingredients of trust, loyalty, respect, commitment and nurturing are missing you’re in the wrong place.  Sometimes when things don’t feel right and the ship is sinking it’s a good idea to jump overboard and swim to safety.

Choosing to be alone right now, doesn’t mean you’ve given up, it means you deserve real love and you’re not willing to settle.

You’re strong enough to handle life by yourself.

Stand strong in your truth and grace and don’t allow fear to hold you back.  Be willing to wait for the one who’ll fill your life with real love.

6.Be a champion of enthusiasm

When you’re filled with enthusiasm and excitement about what you’re doing you’ll discover obstacles and blocks are diminished and become tiny speed bumps.

Being focused on your passion, letting purpose be your driving force nourishes your spirit. Don’t live a watered down version of yourself, live your life in such a way that at the end of the day you can say, hand on heart, that was a life well lived.

Tap in to your inner excellence and determine to be true to your best and highest self.

Be too involved in your own wonderful life to pay attention to the critics, or the haters.

When you involve yourself with those who see your greatness when you can’t, who shine a light for you when you’ve lost your way, you’re protecting your enthusiasm.

It’s precious.  It’s your most powerful ally on the way towards achieving your dreams.

7.Get out the anti-freeze

Don’t freeze up when things go wrong. Get pumped up. 

With the right attitude you’re capable of making great decisions, those that propel you towards the life you want. 

Be inspired to take action.

If you’re trying to work out how to do something, its not inspired. If you get caught up in ‘having’ to make something happen, it’s not inspired.

If you have an idea to do something entirely different, it’s probably inspired action. When the actions you take come easily, it’s likely they’re inspired actions.

Be willing to make mistakes. Make ginormous mistakes, make new mistakes, just don’t stop, just don’t freeze and you’ll discover how amazing you are.

8.Spiritually speaking

Don’t fight against problems; take your attention away from them and the thousands of reasons you can’t accomplish or achieve what you want.

Instead, concentrate your mind entirely upon the thing you want. The strength of your spirit directly affects every area of life.

The keys to accomplishing your vision for life, overcome intimidating challenges or simply keep your spirits uplifted, are desire, imagination and a firmly fixed attention on the feeling that your dream is already fulfilled.

You can transform or transcend your current reality.

What would happen if you accepted yourself as a being with powers of intervention? What would happen if you changed your attitude, changed your consciousness?  You WOULD change your life.

Have you ever frozen, had a hard time letting of grudges or spent too many hours faffing?  (There are times when I’m guilty of this one!).

Whether in business or life…

Have you managed to let go of old habits and adopted new ones that became a huge blessing?

I want to know your story. Please share in the comments below.

And, if you enjoyed the read please share on your favourite social networks or with friends who might be able to use some encouragement

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. This is such a powerful statement, Elle: “Remember you’re here for a purpose.” If we can keep remembering and aligning with our purpose, it’s so much easier to stay on track and move around the hurdles that life presents.

    I’ve been working for awhile on changing my response to fear. My biggest success came when I realized that I’m not my fear, it’s just a very deeply ingrained habit. Just as Stephen Covey suggests.

    • ElleSommer

      That’s fantastic Sandra. Do you have this ‘knowing’ at a deep enough level to be able to keep fear out of the picture in your life? Or do you sometimes feel fearful in response to a situation that arises, even briefly? I think we all have much to learn from you here. 🙂

  2. Lovely post Elle. I found that changing my environment, physically, emotionally, relationship-wise has helped me get ‘unstuck’ or defrosted in the past. Sometimes as small as going to a cafe when I’m blocked on a project and need a different environment works wonders. But I most definitely need to listen to my ‘voice that helps’ rather than my naughty inner critic too!

    Thanks for sharing these 🙂

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Ellen and thanks for your sage advice. It’s always great to have different perspectives. I often find if I take myself for a walk it makes a difference to my mindset, but I like the idea of going to a cafe and sitting and pondering. That’s right up my alley! 🙂

  3. Be an Alchemist! I love this. Life does have a lot of ups and downs and that change in perspective is so powerful.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Samantha, lovely to meet you and hope to hear more of your insights into life in the future. 🙂

  4. I let go of outside distractions and am now focusing my life inward and upward. That was huge for me because I was addicted to things like social media, public opinion, etc. and now i am living my life the way it was meant to that includes building relationships (in person), reading more, being more spiritually conscious and nourishing my mind, body and health.

    • ElleSommer

      Wow Erynn, that is fabulous! Inner direction versus outer distraction will take you far. What’s your biggest challenge on keeping on track? 🙂

      • The biggest challenge has been truly distracting my mind from negative things that bring me down. Nonetheless, i am pushing forward and when I find myself getting anxious I will pray or read an inspirational book which helps me a lot 🙂

        • ElleSommer

          Great ideas for intervening in the negativity that harms more than it hurts. Thanks for sharing Erynn, I’m sure someone was helped by reading your strategies. 🙂

  5. Nicki Lee

    It’s too easy for me to get caught up in the negative: the shame of making mistakes or dealing with problems out of my control. I let that handcuff me way too often. I am going to change my mindset and use your advice to try focusing on what I want instead of what has gone wrong! Thanks, Elle 🙂

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Nicki…good for you…it’s pretty much an ongoing process I think…and it’s easy to fall back into old habits. When that happens, you’ll discover that it takes less and less time to step back into your new mindset. Awareness is such a powerful tool and catching yourself when you slip back deserves a big pat on the back. Don’t forget to acknowledge yourself. It’s important! And you deserve it. 🙂

  6. Hi Elle,
    Been some time since I visited your lovely blog & your internet hermitage.Or any blog for that matter.I have been dipping into myself for some time now.But a peep into your blog is a breath of crisp ,fresh mountain air…..lung full!
    Love your insights.
    Especially about not fretting too much about our problems.We do that often.I think thats because we make too much space in our mindscape for our problems ,than their solutions.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Mona, how lovely to ‘see’ you again. Would love to hear of any insights and wisdom that came about as a result of your ‘dipping’. 🙂

  7. Great Read! I guess changing my attitude towards negative thoughts helped me a lot, not so good habits of always getting affected by negative comment, I realized that I should care less what others think of me, which made me a better person, made me happier than ever. Thanks for sharing a very inspiring post.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Lynne, what great thoughts! All so true and how wonderful your choices are leading you to be happier than ever. Kudos to you. 🙂

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