7 Things You Need to Do to Live The Way You Want

It’s easy to be torn between the desire to follow your dreams or stay on the safest path. 

But here’s the thing. The safest path isn’t always the best path.

We want to keep our attention on what matters, to listen to the call of our hearts and let the rest go, and we intend to do it, but it isn’t always easy.

With some small goals and taking little steps towards doing more than just dreaming of living the way you want, you can purposefully and deliberately move in the direction of a rich and meaningful life.

1. Don’t be afraid of mystery

Letting yourself be pulled by the call of your heart, the important things in life don’t always feel like the safest path. Uneasiness and doubt often shroud the way. And fear has a loud voice.

Can I do it?      Am I good enough?      How will it work out?      What if I fail?

You can’t see the path ahead because you haven’t begun the journey. But you can see what’s right in front of you now.

Take little steps; you can make the whole journey by just looking at what’s in front of you in this moment. And however hard it seems right now, the more you persist the greater your chance of success.

2. Let go of all or nothing thinking

Right or wrong. Good or bad. Strong or weak.  Black and white thinking will always hold you back.

Before too long you become a slave to the ‘have tos’ and ‘shoulds’ and you miss out on the ‘maybe’s’ and ‘what if’s’. And that’s the place where opportunities, possibilities and helpful people are.

All or nothing exists only in your mind. It robs you of your joy. It stops you from seeing that you’re not either/or. You’re not either strong or weak, good or bad and relationships aren’t great or awful.

Stop choosing to do nothing just because you can only do a little.  Do what you can.  It’s often those little acts that make a world of difference in living the life you want.

 3. Stop negative labelling

Just because you procrastinated once, well okay, maybe two or three times, don’t say to yourself I’m a procrastinator. If you messed something up don’t say I’m stupid. If someone left you, don’t say I’m unlovable.

Don’t be so willing to put yourself in a box. You’re not a one dimensional being. You’re greater than that.

How would your life benefit by letting go of past unsupportive labels?

Tell yourself I am creative, I am amazing, I am successful, I am joyful, I am loved. Sometimes being willing to change the labels you’ve given yourself is all you need to open yourself to the next phase of your journey, to see yourself and your world with new eyes.

4. Who cares what others think

It doesn’t much matter what others think, unless you allow it to. What does matter is what you think of yourself. The way you speak to yourself and think about yourself. Make it positive. Make it good.

The unhappiest people on the planet are those who care far too much about what other people think.

Never hand your life over to ‘others’.  They don’t have to live with the consequences.  The greatest miracle of your life will be that you were in charge of how to live it.

5. Make the world more beautiful 

Be generous with your compliments today.

Shine a light for someone who’s stumbling in the dark.

Shower encouragement on everyone you come across. And spend time with those who encourage and motivate you.

Don’t be one who happily shares all that’s wrong in the world but rarely speaks words of positivity and praise. Make the world a more beautiful place because you’re in it.

6. You have all you need to live the way you want

If you want to live the life you truly want you have to take control.

Clear the clutter of negativity, reduce the time wasting activities that bring you no contentment. Refuse to limit or repress your ideas, they are the seeds of your future.

If you expect it to be an easy ride you’ll set yourself up for constant disappointment. There are days when everything seems hard but remember that even during the roughest patches the rewards for your dedication and persistence are great.

Free yourself from the fears and worries that keep you stuck.

Do your best, give your all.

Dream.    Plan.    Do.

And you’ll discover you’ve been given all the gifts and talents you need to create and live the life you truly want.

7. Don’t expect someday to arrive

Don’t put your life on hold because someday your ship will come in, someday when you have more time, someday when the money arrives. This is a surefire path to a life of regrets.

Your hopes for a better life rest in your willingness to be open to all the opportunities in the now moment. Now is the only creative moment there is. Life goes by faster than you think, make now your defining moment and begin to move towards your dreams.

You’ll never live the life you want by continually arguing for your limitations.

The world is offering up to you in this moment all the miracles and opportunities you could wish for. How hard is it for you to say yes?

Spiritually speaking

Imagine standing in front of the ocean holding a container. Is it an old cracked cup, a vase, a bucket, or have you plugged in a pipe that gushes water continuously towards you? Whatever it is you’re not going to be able to run that ocean dry.

The ocean of life won’t be run dry either.  And your consciousness is the container. Open it up to accept and allow as much abundance of  joy, wisdom, prosperity and love you can hold.

Determine to eliminate feelings of unworthiness or that you are undeserving of the abundance on offer. Poverty thinking never created a prosperous life.

Enlarge your container, develop your consciousness, allow your greatness to shine.

You deserve to have your dreams come true, you deserve to feel alive and vibrant, you deserve to live the life you want. All that’s needed is your active participation.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle