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You seem to be doing everything right and still not getting the results you should.
No matter who you are, how successful you are or aren’t, or how happy you are, life always has something more to offer. You live in an incredibly limitless, abundant and extremely co-operative universe.
And maybe, just maybe you’re playing the wrong game.
Maybe you’re trying to cram way too much into your days, instead of simply getting the most out of each moment.
Maybe you’re in a state of consistent overwhelm because of all the choices there are available, all the things you could do.
And maybe it’s time to take stock of what’s not working and decide to do something different.
To experience more of the limitless abundance available you’ll need to change your mindset.
To do this, make a commitment to eliminate some of the self-sabotaging mistakes you could be making and see how you can play a different game.
Looking for a free ride without being willing to pay the price
Your better future isn’t free. There’s a price you need to pay. The price we all have to pay. It isn’t the right education, or more money to be invested or knowing and schmoozing the right people.
All you need is YOU and what you can bring to the table in discipline, consistency and a passionate desire for a better future.
It might not be the easiest thing in the world, but this is what makes you into the person you need to be in order to live the life you want to live.
Didn’t keep the faith
Don’t be so hard on yourself – when things go wrong or didn’t turn out quite the way you planned try to remember it’s all working out…just not yet. Sometimes we stub our toe on a rock that turns out to be a diamond.
Take a deep breath and know it’s not over until you say it is.
You might be starting out with wobbly confidence and you might have to continue despite the doubts and feelings of discouragement, but know this… having faith that you CAN accomplish, that you can enjoy greater happiness and success becomes the foundation on which your future is built.
Lacking in persistence
We all get disheartened. Try and remember during your darker times that discouragement or disappointment are only stepping stones to your success.
Follow the way of the river which cuts through rock by persistence and stay determined to bring your dreams to fruition because you were willing to stumble from failure to failure without losing your passion for your desire.
Pay-offs follow persistence.
Over-thinking and over-analyzing everything
Over-thinking often leads to doing nothing.
You find yourself standing still, looking every which way, like a deer in the headlights, but never getting into action.
And for all us likely procrastinators, over thinking can turn into procrastination in a blink of an eye. We over-think the positive until it turns into a negative and it results in us sabotaging the good things we’ve got going.
Vow to not do this to yourself. I’ve learned to simply choose one small step, and stay focused on getting it done. This has become a habit that now serves me well.
Not identifying and focusing on what you really want in life
Because life is so incredibly limitless and filled with abundance, there’s lots of things to experience. But if you focus on more than one major purpose you scatter your energies.
You harness all your powers when you keep your attention on one thing. Think of the sun’s rays, capable of starting a fire when intensely focussed through a magnifying glass on one area.
And in life if you want to hit a target you have to aim for it.
When you learn to focus on one goal at a time instead of jumping from goal to goal you’ll discover the saying ‘you can do anything you set your mind to’ becomes your reality.
Worrying too much whether people like you
Life shouldn’t be about pleasing everybody. You matter too. Be someone who is able to think well of themselves.
Those who like themselves are positive confident, and attractive to others.
When you don’t think you deserve the best that life has to offer, which goes hand in hand with not liking yourself, you tend to sabotage yourself in ways you can’t even see.
Remember how others see you is less important than how you see yourself. The way you see yourself is the way you live your life, its the building block of every choice you make, and every experience that comes your way.
Never making the time to do something for others
Whilst life isn’t about pleasing everyone else at your expense, equally you can’t be truly happy if you care only about yourself at the expense of someone else.
The evidence is in. Researchers say those who help others tend to live longer and more satisfying lives. It promotes well being, people are attracted to you and…from my own personal experience..it can transform grief into joy.
You might not be able to change what anyone else does, or what’s happened to you, but you can add to the joys and blessings of life, yours and others, by holding out a welcoming hand of loving support.
Remember if someone asks for help and you can give it, say yes. And having said yes, don’t then forget all about it. Step up to the plate and lend a hand.
You won’t go far wrong if you practice the words of William Ward:
“Do more than belong: participate. Do more than care: help. Do more than believe: practice. Do more than be fair: be kind. Do more than forgive: forget. Do more than dream: work.”
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. Have you made any of these mistakes? Or is something else sabotaging your success?
Encourage one another.
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