Have you noticed that some people seem to have it all together?
It looks as though they took all the right paths, won the gold prize and every decision they make is leading them to some future great destiny.
But somehow, this isn’t happening for you.
Don’t feel bad about it. There is something you can do other than continuing to live a tentative, hesitant life.
If you don’t like the results you’re getting, if you simply don’t feel good enough and everything’s going wrong, remember every morning, when you wake up, you get another chance to make things right.
You deserve to live a life where worry isn’t your constant companion. A life where even if some people are critical and less than kind it’s not going to bother you because you understand that you, and only you, control the way you feel.
When you’re not feeling good enough, if your energy has tanked and things aren’t working out, you’re not alone. Fear and insecurity plague even the most successful among us. If you’re ready to set yourself free from things that hamper you and stop you from reaching your true potential bear these things in mind:
1.Perfectionism causes paralysis
Life can be messy and complicated and scary and whilst others might seem to be free of the doubts and fears and worries that you have…they’re really not.
Whether they’re entrepreneurs, writers, musicians or anything else, they have the same doubts and insecurities as you.
When you’re feeling not good enough, the best thing you can do is learn to relax and treat yourself like a human being put on this planet to thrive and enjoy living.
Bear in mind, success is seen on the outside, but created on the inside. Never undervalue who you are and the power to succeed that lives within.
Don’t allow yourself to get stuck in ‘perfection paralysis’. No one is looking for perfection they’re looking for value. And the best value you can offer is you. Authentically wonderful, messy, scared, imperfectly perfect you.
2.You’re a natural
When you look at yourself can you see a natural? Someone who accomplishes goals easily?
From the day you were born you began to accomplish goals. You learned to sit up, to walk, to talk and do all kinds of things that became an unconscious part of your daily life.
Except the way you see yourself. Stop looking at all the problems in life or the difficulties you face. Stop wondering if you’re good enough, if you have enough to offer.
Help yourself by putting your mental energy to better use.
Remember your past accomplishments, the successes and events that brought joy and happiness into your life. You’ll begin to notice more and more opportunities surrounding you.
Pay more attention to the positive circumstances in life and do what many successful people do…keep a win list. Record your accomplishments, big and small and read them often.
3.Release yourself from the prison of not feeling good enough
No-one can fix your life. No-one can take away your pain and heartache. No-one can improve anything in your life. Only you.
Only you can choose to change what needs to be changed. Only you can decide to do and be the very best you possible. Only you can choose to think positively and move towards your best life. Only you can choose to say’ I’m going to stop telling myself the same old stories that keep me locked in the same old prison’.
Don’t let yourself be persuaded that you’re not good enough and you don’t have what it takes. Ignore the chattering of those who would hold you back. You can develop the will and determinedly focus on your objective until you reach your goal.
You have an awesome power that will get you through every challenge that life throws your way. The power to choose.
4.Make good use of tiny choices
Your destiny doesn’t lie in the stars. It’s not out there. It’s in you. Don’t wait for it to arrive, you’re in charge of your future.
Your destiny lies in your willingness to persist, in every little choice you make, in every step you take.
Remember it’s not what you do every now and then that makes the difference, it’s what you do every day. One tiny choice today might not make a big difference to your tomorrow, but one tiny choice every day for a year can change your life.
If you were to choose an apple over a chocolate bar every day for a year…you’d see the difference. If you were to choose one little act of organization over procrastination every day for a year…you’d see the difference.
No matter what happens each day, no matter how far away your success seems, never stop expecting, never stop believing that you will make it.
5.Superman isn’t real
The most successful among us aren’t super heroes, donning their capes and dashing off to their next successful mission. They’re human beings like you and me with misgivings and doubts and frailties. And failures. Many, many failures.
Don’t let your misgivings transform you into something less than you are. Don’t let your fear of failure get in the way of your passion for life.
You might not be able to do the same things as someone else, because you’re gifted in a unique, special way. You have a deep reservoir of talents and abilities and your job is to discover your own special light and manifest your potential, not be a pale imitation of others.
Never let insecurity run your life. Extend as much love, kindness and care to you as you would to others else. You, as much as anyone deserve to live a life of happiness and fulfillment.
The world be a sadder place if the only birds that sang were the ones with the loudest voice.
We forget we live in two worlds simultaneously, the inner world of thoughts and feelings and the outer physical world, so we invest the outer world with an authority it does not have.
Stop paying attention to what’s happened in the past. Your present circumstances have absolutely no power other than that which you give them.
Remember, ‘Every battle is won before it’s ever fought.’ Feeling you’re not good enough doesn’t mean it’s true. Don’t short change yourself with thoughts about who you’re not. A strong, positive mental attitude can create miracles.
Your life is about breaking out of your limited ideas and developing your gifts and talents to live YOUR greatest life. You can reignite your fire and joy for living any time you decide to do so, because every time you don’t feel good enough, you give your power and passion away.
Reclaim it and you’ll discover you’re more than just good enough. You’re awesome.
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Encourage one another.
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