let go of regrets

And regret will never bring back one missed chance or one ‘if only.’ Don’t wait until you’re overwhelmingly desperate to start making changes…stop looking back, stop doing the wrong things now and create space for the things that will make you happy.

Here’s 6 things you might live to regret if you don’t stop doing them now.

1. Make sure you’re not making more excuses than progress

One thing that will always get between you and your desires are the stories you tell yourself as to why you can’t do it, have it, be it.

Nothing is hopeless until you say it is. Experiences are just situations. Defining an event as hopeless is discouraging and will leave you feeling dispirited.  Don’t do this to yourself. Ever.  Don’t turn excuses into reasons.

Allow your successes to arrive in installments, if that’s what it takes. A little here and a little there eventually turns into the whole enchilada.

If you really want something, stick with it, be persistent; you are more powerful than you know. Tap into that power today and use your energy to grow out of the past and into your future.

2. Stop wasting time and energy

When you started your morning did you think of things that needed to be done, but you hadn’t got around to? If so, then you’re wasting more of your time and your energy on something that won’t produce the results you want.

You’re adding unnecessary stress to your life.  Just think for a minute of how many things you feel even the tiniest amount of responsibility to begin, finish, or just plain do something about.

Try this instead:  each day choose one thing that’s taking up valuable real estate in your mind, it can be anything you like, and take a minute to write down your desired outcome. Whatever allows you to see the project as being done.

Even though nothing changes instantly in the physical world, you’ll have improved the state of your inner world, freeing your energy to remain focused in the now.

Learning to do this on a regular basis helps you plug a time and energy leak, and give yourself greater feelings of productivity and success. Success energy is a powerful force that banishes regret.

3. Don’t let doubts steal your spirit and undermine your desires

We can’t avoid disappointment, discouragement, or failure if we’re to live our lives to the fullest. Having a dream to follow might mean some anguish or challenges as you bring it to life, but instead of expecting the worst, why not assume great joy, fulfillment, enlightenment and tremendous growth.

Be fearless.  Be brave. Don’t lose out in the game of life by wasting the miracle in every day, by not using the talents bestowed upon you.

Constantly raising doubts in your mind as to your ability to do what you want eventually turns into a habit of thought and when you begin to habitually listen to your doubts you’re limiting your tomorrows.

4. Convert awareness into action

One of the biggest lies in the universe is that there’s not enough to go around. The truth is that there’s more than enough happiness, love, creativity, money, harmony, everything…for everyone.

Remind yourself you can always have more than you’ve had because you can always become greater than you are. Let this inspiration stir your soul.

If you’re struggling with this idea then help someone else live their dreams and you’ll be creating more bridges to cross and fewer walls for yourself to climb.

Don’t just allow life to happen to you, get out there and lead life in the direction you choose.

Believe there’s enough good to go around. Accept that positivity is a magnet for your opportunities. Realize how powerful your thoughts are in the building and making of your world, and you’ll find that’s the fuel that propels you into positive action charting a path away from regrets, towards all the good the universe has on offer.

5. Be willing to feel discomfort

Some people can never let go. Even when they should.  Holding on tightly to relationships that hurt more than help, repeating old, well worn worries, consistently listening to familiar voices of negativity poisons your spirit.

Don’t wait until the pain is unbearable, let go now. Be willing to sit with the discomfort of change and turn towards what you can appreciate in life and what appreciates you.

If you knew what a dream wrecker comfort was, you’d let go of it in a heartbeat.

Never choose comfort over growth, before too long comfort takes over and becomes your master.

To fulfill your dreams sometimes means having the strength to let go, to move on, to willingly step into the unfamiliar and the unknown. Allow the vision of your future to push you towards the greater possibilities that await you.

Don’t ever sacrifice growth for safety and the familiar.

6. Over Complicating things

Life is actually very simple.  As you sow you reap. As within so without. We are the complicators in our life.  Your personal philosophy, your attitudes, your beliefs are the causes and effects of your experiences.

As you expand your current awareness of life, you’ll begin to see the law of identical harvest at work. Sow seeds of gloom, despair, lack and limitation and you’ll reap the results.  Say to yourself, I choose to focus on thoughts of joy and plenty and all those thoughts will add up, bringing a fulfilling harvest.

Keep things simple by guarding your self-talk.

And if things haven’t worked out, don’t beat yourself up. Your mind is a powerful tool for good but when used against you it turns into a dangerous weapon.

You were never intended to have a life of regret.  Keep it simple. One step towards your dream today is a step away from regret tomorrow.

I’m always inspired by other people’s unique journey through life. I’d love to hear in the comments below the steps you’re willing to take to minimize regrets and maximize the rewards in life.

Thank you for reading and joining in the conversation and if you think this might be helpful to your friends, please share.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle 


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Brilliant Elle, I rest no one and thought I promised myself today i would just work on one thing and I allowed distraction to creep up and in. Easy to do easy not to do. Yes following the KISS principle keeps overwhelm at bay. Now i am going back to my plan for today, thanks for the reminders 🙂

    • Elle

      Good to be aware Suzie…we can’t make the changes without awareness. It really is key and yet given very little credit. I know how persistent you are in directing your life, so I’m certain that you’re heading for an consistently better experiences each day. Isn’t life grand? 🙂

  2. Inspired by the wealth of experience that you share here Elle. I advocate choosing growth over comfort too. It heralds the beginning of new adventures! When we resist our life lessons, the lessons become more painful. Temporary discomfort really leads to greater joy and freedom. Here’s to growth!

    • Elle

      Yay Martine, I’ll drink to that! Well since it’s only 6.30 am maybe it’ll be a cuppa. But I’m with you on being willing to experience a little discomfort. Change is always going to feel different…maybe we should just call it that, if we’re giving things labels…it’s just something different. 🙂

  3. Elle, inspiring post, as usual!
    I must confess that the one that resonated with me, and served as a wonderful reminder was this: “Don’t let doubts steal your spirit and undermine your desires”
    Years and years of conditioning has historically presented a challenge in this area, but every day I am using my confidence to enhance my spirit and strengthen my desires! Thank you for the reminder, message, and inspiration. Much appreciated. 🙂

    • Elle

      Hi Victor…doubts are insidious little things if we let them get a hold, I know. But I’m so happy to hear that you’r confidence is more the master over your life today. That’s huge in anyone’s life. Big props to you Victor. 🙂

  4. I especially agree with your last two points as they are the ones that are usually the hardest to do. I am often guilty of the wasting tiome and energy factor, something I really need to address if I am to avoid future disappointment. Good post, great advice.

    • Elle

      Hi Johnny, quite honestly we’re all members of that club to some degree or another. Just being aware of our tendencies does allow us to keep making a better choice in the moment. And when the better choice moments add up to more than the others, we’re probably living a pretty good life. 🙂

  5. Brilliant and inspiring post, Elle! I think doubts have plagued my life long enough. I am learning to act on faith and the possibility that things will work out. And what’s funny is that in doing this, I find that things usually do work out!

    • Elle

      Hi Jessica, isn’t it the truth that we’re plagued by doubts. They keep us living such small lives and I think it’s absolutely smashing that when acting in faith you find how often things work out. Great stuff. 🙂

  6. I’ve seen it so often… People just don’t leave bad situations sometimes because of fear of the unknown. Even if you are in a bad place it gets to a point where it’s almost ‘normal’ and the, ‘what if it’s worse over there’ thoughts come on board. The opposite of “The grass is greener”.
    Life is to short. Maybe leaping into your passion is to harsh but why not stick a little toe in and inch your way up 😉

    • Elle

      ‘Normal’ can surely be just terrible Melissa. And what you say about life being short is so true…I haven’t quite made up my mind whether leaping isn’t better that toe dipping. My jury is still out on that one…depending on how I feel at the time. 🙂

      • I totally hear you Elle! I have days where I ‘leap’ and days where I feel like just need a little time to get used to the waters. I used to always be scared to make any changes so this is very good for me. I’ve totally reinvented myself over the last 8 years and it has been an amazing ride. I can’t believe what I am capable of now. What can be born out of pain is absolutely beautiful! My hope is that more people have the courage to ‘try’…

  7. Hi Elle,
    I totally agree with your point about not letting doubts steal your spirit and undermining your desires.
    Any feeling or thought of incapacity that comes in as a habitual pattern repeatedly,we need to reverse it immediately.
    We need to make sure to remind ourself that you are committed to renewal of mind,renewal of response.”It’s not how far you fall but how high you bounce that counts”.

    • Elle

      Hi Mona, nice to see you. Ooh how I like the renewal of the mind phrase. It’s one of those phrases that we hear a lot, and sometimes need to invest a few minutes contemplating what it actually means to us. 🙂 I think it’d go a long way to supporting our stepping out in faith. 🙂

  8. Great suggestions here, Elle! It important to pay attention to what we spend time doing, so that we are not spinning our wheels and then as you say, regret it at the end. Change is a challenge, but it can make a bit difference in our lives when we push ourselves in a better direction.

    • Elle

      Thanks for your wise words Cathy. A little push can sometimes create the most amazing things in life. I’m all for it, just keep it gentle! 🙂

  9. Doubts, they can be the worse things to us. I can’t do this, I won’t be able to do this right, they are going to think me foolish for even trying since I will fail. And then I try, and succeed, and then how foolish I feel for having doubted myself, again.

  10. Every time I get discouraged about a project or situation, I think about your words, Elle, and visualize myself succeeding… It really helps, and I’ve grown more confident in myself as a result! Thank you, Elle!

    • Elle

      You my DIY Queen not confident. Why you can probably build six things before I’ve even had breakfast! 🙂

  11. This struck me in particular, Elle! “Try this instead: each day choose one thing that’s taking up valuable real estate in your mind, it can be anything you like, and take a minute to write down your desired outcome. Whatever allows you to see the project as being done.”

    • ElleSommer

      Thanks, as always for your support sweet lady. That’s one of my regular practices when I have lots of things going on in my head! 🙂

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