[success]People are always blaming their circumstances for what they are. I don’t believe in circumstances. The people who get on in this world are the people who get up and look for the circumstances they want, and if they can’t find them, make them. ~ George Bernard Shaw[/success]

Sadly many never feel that they’ve experienced the success they dream of. And if that’s you, ask yourself if your measurement of success might be somewhat skewed?

Don’t measure success by the number of things you acquire. Get out of the ‘thing collecting’ trap and make today the day you recognize you are an originator. You have phenomenal potential to originate a life of your choosing and it’s not measured in the way you think.

Success isn’t what you’ve been led to believe

True success is so much more than what you’ve acquired. Don’t have your identity be vested in what you’ve got, make it about who you are and who you’re becoming. The key to authentic and lasting success is where we take full responsibility for our thoughts and actions and the results they produce.

Lasting success can only be experienced through the greater awareness gained by moving out of your comfort zone. You must continue to evolve and grow and find things that excite and enrich you.

Many people are afraid to go after what they want, so they reach for what they think they can get. Don’t be one of them. Any new success you experience won’t last when life is more of a stagnant pond than a running stream.

You become a ‘success achiever’ through big goals. Set a goal to achieve something that is so big, so invigorating that it excites you and scares you at the same time.

You must be self persuaded

Don’t ever ask yourself if you’re worthy of your desires, or the goals you want to accomplish. A better question would be is the goal worthy of you?

Not knowing how to achieve something is a wonderful place to start. Where will the money come from, the expertise that you don’t currently possess? It’ll come from wherever it is right now. All that’s asked of you is a little faith.

If you tell yourself anything often enough, you’ll come to believe it. Frequently telling yourself you have faith in yourself will eventually lead you to act as though it were true. Imagine what a benefit that would be.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. They most certainly won’t care about your life in the same way you do. Learn to be your own best friend and encourage yourself. Practice believing in you.

You have the same power that every successful person has

Even after you’ve accomplished the goal you probably won’t be able to say exactly how it was done. All manner of synchronistic events will have rushed to your aid. Begin to acknowledge the power of your mind and rely on it and you’ll build faith in your capacity to create the circumstances you want.

In the late 1970’s W. Clement Stone parlayed his absolute and utter belief in the power of his mind into a company worth billions. His starting point was one of poverty. No matter your starting point, never let yesterday’s regrets or tomorrows fears discourage you, nor your concern about how the goal will manifest prevent you from releasing your greatest self.

You and you alone define yourself

One thing lastingly successful people have is the confidence to embrace new opportunities. It never occurs to them that they can’t do something. Whilst not everyone will believe in you, don’t get so hung up on the beliefs of others, that you dim your awareness of the power of your mind. All that’s required of you is that you remain positive about your capabilities. This is where you develop character.

Don’t live down to the expectations of others, keep your eyes on the mountain top, it’s within reach if you keep on climbing.

You’re as important as everyone else

You might be great at keeping promises to others and would never think of breaking a promise you made to a child, but how often have you broken a promise to yourself?

Learn to appreciate yourself, to value, respect and love yourself enough to keep promises to you. If you don’t develop a sense of your own value and worth don’t expect others to see it.

Keeping promises to yourself means making choices based on what you believe, not on pleasing others by fitting in with their beliefs. So always behave in ways that harmonize with your deepest values.

Success, like happiness is self bestowed

Any dominating idea that you plant in your mind through repetition, when connected to a feeling will be realized.

The great news is that you’re in charge of what you think and how you feel, and all you need is a little training, a little practice in choosing to entertain only the thoughts that support you in experiencing lasting success.

Think of your world as your canvas and every experience a picture you’ve painted with your imagination.  Don’t conform to the beliefs or expectations of others. Too many believe their lives are set in place by conditions and circumstances. In other words by things that happen to them through outside forces.

Let your mind soar as it was designed to do and take whatever steps you need to create a lifestyle system for your lasting success.

What would you like to add?  I’d love to hear your ideas and experiences in the comments below.

I’m always thankful for you stopping by and reading and joining in the conversation with your comments. If you know someone who’d benefit from reading this I’d be thrilled if you shared it.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Hi Elle; Thanks for reminding us not only of what success is but that we already have everything we need to achieve it. I can remember when i finally decided to file for a domain name and start my website. I didn’t know anything about html java php etc. my brother did, so i had him build my first site. but he got a high paying job, and i had to learn all about building and maintaining a website or else. smile and as a blind person and a mac user before apple switched to the intel mac’s it wasn’t easy. but i did it. I learned. and each time we try something new and challenging we are making it easier for ourselves to take on the next big challenge. I have made the transition to word press, added a blog, and started recording videos. and now people are calling me an inspiration and saying i should think about adding a personal development or motivational blog. I would like to make more money from it, but I am happy with my work and feel that my financial success will eventually catch up with my personal and spiritual well being. Thanks again and take care, max

    • Elle

      Hi Max, another amazing comment my friend. You are a bright spark in my days. 🙂

  2. I love what you say about keeping promises to others and not to ourselves, Elle! This is so true of me. I’m working on changing that. Thank you for another encouraging post!

    • Elle

      Hi Corinne, you know what they say, we write what we need to remember ourselves. So I totally get what you say here. 😀

  3. So true, I am so good at letting myself down by not being true to me- so easy to do for others. I am working on improving my being with having a schedule that puts me first and i am being challenged LOL

    • Elle

      Hi Suzie, what a great idea a put you first schedule. You’ll no doubt soon turn it into a habit. It’s that thing about moving out of our comfort zone isn’t it? 🙂

      • Yes Elle, great idea, not finding easy right now. I really do have to do my stuff first each day and time zones make that challenging for me- yes moving out of the comfort zone and LETTING GO!!!!

  4. I just love this post Elle!
    I think one of your main points, that everyone has the same power as everyone else, is so key! I was watching a movie about Steve Jobs. He said that once he realized this point, he was better able to do what he wanted to do.
    Thanks for all these reminders!!

    • Elle

      It seems to be so true Betsy that we need to become aware ourselves that we have the power that everyone else has, and it might take a while before we begin to act as though that were true, but like all things practice and persistence are key. Look what Steve accomplished. 🙂

  5. I LOVED your post!!! I always do but this one really resonated with me. We have so much more potential than we could ever know. By focusing on the outcome and detaching from any expectations I had some amazing dreams happen this last year. By letting go, instead of holding onto the ‘how’ it was all going to happen, everything fell into place much faster. In fact when I started pushing forcefully everything slowed down. When I eased and let it all flow with trust it rushed forward. Simply amazing!

    Thanks for inspiring so many people with your words! I feel so blessed to have met you sweet lady!

    • Elle

      So glad you enjoyed it Melissa and how wonderful to hear of your successes in letting go of the how of something. It opens us up to all sorts of things that we might otherwise be holding at arms length because they didn’t fit with our ‘how’. 🙂

  6. Dear Elle –
    Our society is so possession oriented that most individuals – even if they don’t admit it- do feel that their success is based on what ‘they have’. I’ve always felt that if I had my piano, cello, garden, and books that would be enough. As I get older, I have few possessions – it’s a relief to live a simpler life. I love your phrase ‘You are the originator of your life’. That’s a keeper!

    • Elle

      Hi Fran, it seems that we’re all conditioned to believe things work in a certain way, but once we free ourselves from those restrictions we open our hearts and our life to amazing experiences. And some of them, as you have done, are letting go of all the ‘things’ that counted for so much. 🙂

  7. “Not knowing how to achieve something is a wonderful place to start”
    I feel the uncertainty of not knowing where to start all the time. I like the idea of turning it into something positive.

    • Elle

      I’m with you on that one Poppy, just ask Vanita!!! I too have to practice what I preach. 🙂

  8. The old saying, he who has the most toys wins, comes to mind when I read this. And I always change that to, he who lives the most of life, wins. Your post takes it to another level.

    • Elle

      Now there’s a keeper Linda. He who lives the most of life wins. I love that. 🙂

  9. What a powerful post, Elle! I am, or I was, guilty of this for the longest time. Dimming my ambitions to what I assumed others expected of me? Comparing my success to others and thinking I could never really measure up? That was me. I am learning to believe in myself, now, at 31. It’s been a long road to get here, but I am happy I’ve made it.

  10. Elle

    Kudos to you Jessica. There are many who never reach the point where they believe in themselves, so at 31 you’re doing great. You’re out there teaching and supporting the rest of us. It’s wonderful work.

  11. Wonderful as always, Elle! I know I say this every time I comment but your words are helping guide me on my journey to realizing my goals and I really appreciate you!

    • Elle

      I’m so glad that I’m encouraging you on your journey Cher…I’m such a believer in encouraging one another because we all have something to share. 🙂

  12. Great inspiration here Elle to reach for the stars and to find your own brand of success. I love this line – “You have the same power that every successful person has.” That is a keeper and a wonderful reminder that we have our own unique gifts to share! Take care!

    • Elle

      From your lips to everyone’s ears Cathy. If we could all but see the brilliance in us and others we’d change the world. 🙂

  13. I think I would add that you need to learn how to be unaffected by BOTH the ups and downs of the journey towards your goals. You need to learn how to feed your motivation daily, and not only depend on the small successes and results that you get along the way. Never be complacent.

    And of course, probably the most important of all – Always be growing, always be learning, always be striving to be better at your craft. I have not seen any “successful” person who just stops at some point.

    • Elle

      Great points Jeremy, I’m so with you on immersing ourself in things the motivate and inspire. 🙂

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