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[success]One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular. ~ Tony Robbins[/success]

Life might be pretty good, it might be okay, or it might be mediocre. Whatever your life looks like right now, there’s  good chance that there are aspects you wish could be different.

Remembering the only life you are destined to live is the life you decide to live, what are you going to do with the time given to you? If you’re ready for a life altering, game changing experience in 2015 here’s five easy tips to help you get there.

1. Decide on the main issues in life

First things really must come first. And the first step to getting what you want out of life is to decide what that is.

 What really matters to you? What’s important?

Do you have daily habits that you can see are leading you to the being you want to be?

Remember, doing the same things gets you the same things.

Deciding nothing gets you nothing.

Make changes today. Small changes can make a big difference because when YOU change, everything changes.

When you change, when your perspective changes, when you decide to see the joy in your day, your health will change, relationships will change, your finances will change and your ability to cope with challenges will change.

We don’t have to struggle with change when we realize that ‘all we can do is change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove ourselves from the unacceptable’.

You’re always free to make a different decision, to choose another path, and sometimes the happiest moments come when you decide to stop worrying about what you can’t change and realize you don’t have to change anything but yourself.

2. Find joy in everything you do

We all have the ability to live an epic life. Before you get started on your day make the decision that today will be the greatest day you’ve had, so far. And as the day passes take the time to find the good in each event. And before you fall asleep at night look for all the reasons that the day brought you joy.

There’s an abundance of misery available in every life, but there’s also an abundance of joy. Don’t waste your time telling yourself you’ll be happy and joyful when something new happens. You won’t. All you end up with is more of the same.

Happiness doesn’t come from your experiences, it comes from you and how you view your world. And that’s always a choice.

Take the time to find joy in this day and the next, and years from now you’ll be glad you did, because you’ll discover down the road, your life was filled with so many things that brought gladness, that you lost count. That’s an epic place to be.

3. Seek opportunities

And when you find one try it.

If it doesn’t work, try another one.

When doors close, even when they slam shut, life is full of new possibilities. Opportunities might even show up in what seems like defeat. The truth is, you can never, ever run out of opportunities to try.

You can better your health, your finances, your relationships once you stop letting situations intimidate you. Get out there and do something incredible, just because you can.

And don’t worry if the opportunities you see look pretty small. Remember that small opportunities often evolve into great enterprises.

4. Find a teacher

Look back at the last 5 years of your life, do you like what you see? Unless you want the next 5 to be the same, something has to change.

You know that.

If your friends and family make big changes, if your colleagues experience a new way of living, what do you suppose that’s going to do for you?

Not much.

You’re the only one who can make a difference. Take charge.

Learn from other people’s successes.

Garner new ideas and information from all the sources that resonate with you.

Read books.

Attend seminars.

Invest time getting the knowledge that success requires. You’ll find it’s an incredibly worthwhile experience. And before too long you’ll hardly recognize who you’ve become, your progress will have been so vast.

And then take time to give yourself a pat on the back.

Acknowledging your successes and giving thanks keeps the doors open for more success and more things to be grateful for.

5. In the end your choices make you

Discovering what you really want is like getting to the top of the mountain, where you can see the bigger and wider view of life. Every day brings with it a chance to climb even higher, if you decide to.

From the top of your mountain you’ll see that things look easy. An easy thing simply means it’s something you can do. Deciding to make changes is something you can do, so it’s easy. Deciding not to change is also something you can do and that’s easy too.

And that’s a big problem for a lot of us. We sometimes pick easy NOT to do, over easy to do, and it’s the major reason so many of us end up living a less than great life. And why so many of us don’t experience greater health, better financial situations, deeper love, and a better quality life.

Don’t be this person.

Keep choosing things that expand and grow you, bearing in mind if you can do it, and you can do most things, the thing that will get in your way is that you neglect to do what you can.

Stop making excuses and start taking action…even using your imagination, or meditating or contemplating your ideal is a form of inactive activity. It’s a great place to begin.

Lastly I want to thank you.

Together, as we change ourselves, we are changing our world. Encouraging and supporting one another is what I’m committed to, so thank you for sharing this journey toward creating the best world we can imagine. And thank you for sharing my life.

You have more power than you realize. And if my post doesn’t inspire you, I hope you find something that does in the brand new year ahead.

Of course, if you enjoyed what you read, I’d love to hear about it in the comments below and please spread the word via your favourite social networks.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Great reminder. When we get a little down it is sometimes hard to remember we are in control. Here is to more positive and thoughtful choices for 2015 & beyond. Thanks for all you do.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Mary, great to have you join in the conversation. I’m super glad to see you here and to know you enjoy the articles. 🙂

  2. I love the title of this post, Elle! So bold and powerful. I really want to focus on #2 in particular: finding joy in all I do. “Love” is my word for 2015, but I’m happy to let the joy come in too!

    Thanks for all the encouragement and goodness you bring to this world, Elle! Happy New Year!

    • ElleSommer

      Thanks Sandra – love and joy, doesn’t get much better than that for an epic 2015. Hope you keep us posted on all your wonderful experiences in this coming year, I know I shall be following them. Richest blessings for 2015. 🙂

  3. I love the idea of choosing one easy thing or another. I have always looked at it from the perspective that sacrifice & struggle are inevitable; why not choose those that take us on the path we actually want to be on? Today I will also look for the easy things that will keep me on the path. Great message!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Annie, yes to walking the path that leads in the direction you’ve decided to go. Isn’t it great that there’s never only one path and if the one we’re on begins to look really unfriendly, we can hop off and get on a different one. It’s good to remember that easy just means something we can do…keeps it simple for me in my life! 🙂

  4. Elle,
    Love this post especially find joy in everything you do. I once read about finding joy in the dishes and laundry (something I didn’t like to do) by a woman who had cancer. She said she’d miss the dailiness of life when she died. I’ll keep trying! Thanks for your inspiration with each post. I look forward to reading more of them in the coming year.

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Betsy, lovely to see you out and about so to speak! I understand about missing the dailyness of life, I know my husband felt the same way before he left our world. It’s all too easy to take those little things for granted and forget to appreciate how joyful they are. I’m planning on being more aware this year. 🙂

  5. I love all your suggestions, but especially, “In the end your choices make you”. It really drives home the point that for the most part, we control our destiny, not the other way around. It is always refreshing to start a new year and have it all before us. Thank you for all that you do, Elle. Your posts are always so inspiring and positive. All the best to you in 2015!!

    • ElleSommer

      Hi Cathy…I’m with you about feeling refreshed and ready for the wonderful experiences in this coming year…I have a feeling they’re going to be filled with many blessings for us all. 🙂

  6. Thanks Elle for you encouragement and inspiration during 2014 and your new post that really got me excited about the new year and what it has to offer. I am very excited about 2015 and is looking forward to the challenges and success that this year has in store for me.

    • ElleSommer

      I’m so happy Rose that you are raring to go this year…it’s a wonderful feeling. And I truly hope you share your experiences and dreams with the rest of us. We’d love to encourage you in any way possible. 🙂

  7. What successful I got in the past is a kind of reminder to me. I can achieve the same thing in this year with other opportunities. Really appreciate your article.

  8. We don’t have to struggle with change when we realize that ‘all we can do is change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove ourselves from the unacceptable.’

    Spot on! I am at a place in my life where waiting for life to begin instead of actively making it begin is no longer comfortable. For so long I believed being a good person and sharing my postivity with others would lead me to a career and relationship that I so desire. At age 38 with two children 17 and 13 becoming more independant each day I feel the pull for action more necessary than ever. Not only as an example to my girls but a validation that I have inside of me so many talents that I do not even know exist as I stay safe yet unfulfilled in my routined living. I am searching for answers and ideas which led me to your site and this article, gifts like this are always popping up at the right time, my whole life has been this way. Some lessons more painful than others but always with guidance and protection when I listen within. I have to broaden these moments from just thoughts in my head to actions in my life. Just writing this has given me a chance to express myself and it feels great. Thanks for your words and inspiration on this Monday night in the burbs of Cleveland.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Christy, nice to meet you and welcome to the conversation. I absolutely love what you have to say, especially about leading the way for your girls. It’s the same for us all isn’t it really? We have to decide to stop doing something, or start doing something in order for life to be different. Kudos to you for being brave enough to acknowledge that you have so much more to bring to our world. Believe me. We need you. 🙂

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