It’s easy to believe that successful people have the Midas touch. That everything they touch turns to gold. Not true.
What is true is that they have had their fair share of failures, of setbacks, of things going wrong, just as you have. Just as I have.
The only difference between us and them is that they rarely allow the missteps, mishaps and misadventures of life to keep them discouraged and down for long. They’ve learned how to keep their cool.
As Elvis Presley once said “When things go wrong, don’t go with them.”
Here’s how you can keep your cool when life seems like one long nightmare.
1. Have a melt down
I’m serious. It might not seem as though this will help you keep your cool, but believe me, in the long run it will.
You’re human. And life can be scary and unpredictable and as sure as eggs is eggs there are going to be times when you’ll lose your job, or your money, or get dumped.
Do whatever you need to release the anxiety and panic. Scream. Hit pillows. Talk things over with someone you trust. Whatever it takes to get that initial fearful energy out.
Just don’t get stuck in it.
Fear might be the first voice you hear, but doesn’t have to be the last and loudest one. Let it out.
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2. Find your good news
Once the initial shock/horror wears off it’s time to reframe what’s happening. Look for whatever good could come out of it and turn the darkness into light.
Find what you can use for greater personal development.
Perhaps you lost your job, so now it’s time to do that thing you’ve always wanted to do, but you were too afraid to try.
Maybe your partner left, so now you have the time to challenge what you know about yourself, to learn something new. To understand your needs and your value.
Take the time for a little introspection. There’s always a silver lining and if it isn’t obvious today keep looking. It will show up.
3. Don’t sink your ship
Ships sink because of the water that’s in them, don’t let whats happening on the outside get inside you and stay there until you sink.
Been knocked off your feet? Get back up. Remember, nothing has the power to shatter your dreams permanently unless you allow it.
Try again. Nothing lasts for ever not even ‘bad luck’. You know it’s true.
You know your yesterday doesn’t determine your tomorrow. Today does.
So use today as an opportunity to change your tomorrow not to torpedo it by dwelling on everything that’s gone wrong.
4. Get a reality check
Sometimes, to reach your greatest potential, means battling your greatest fears. Whatever they may be. And sometimes things going wrong are simply natures’ way of nudging you back on course.
Don’t get knocked off your path because of fear.
Search your past for times you’ve got through difficult situations.
Think of others who’ve dealt with similar experiences. The more you realize you’re not alone; you’re not the only one who’s been through this…and trust me, you’re not…the more confident you’ll feel that you can manage the situation and come safely through to the other side.
5. Hero to zero
I know it’s usually framed the other way around. But it’s always good to remember that no matter how badly things are going, no matter if you’ve really messed up, no matter what’s been taken away, you can only go back to zero. And you’ve been there before. And you’re still standing.
Review your successes in life and make them a part of your daily consciousness.
Your successes might not be huge, but looking at them and acknowledging them anchors your personal triumphs. A great reminder that even when you think your life is insignificant it’s not.
Everything has meaning on your heroic journey of growth, development and transformation. And when that’s your state of mind you’ll find it easier to keep your cool when things go wrong.
Over to you…what’s your best method for keeping your cool when everything that can go wrong does?
Encourage one another.