[success]Don’t wish it was easier wish you were better. Don’t wish for less problems wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenge wish for more wisdom. ~ Jim Rohn[/success]

Admit it.

There’s some things you’re hanging on to that once served you well but now…the truth is you don’t need them, or they’re no longer useful or relevant.

Those attachments might make perfect sense to you, but hanging on to them stops new experiences or opportunities dead in their tracks. After all, how can new things arrive for your present and future, when you’re filled to the brim with the past?

You can’t change what’s happened, but you can change how you handle it. There’s absolutely no need to keep hanging on to the old if it’s lacking in new possibilities and opportunities.

Truth be told our lives are filled with things most of us don’t need anymore, limiting our personal growth and ability to live the life we want.

It’s scary I know, but your life will improve only when you make the choice to let go of who you were, to become who you want to be.

1. Cause a disturbance

Shake ups are necessary. Distancing yourself from the usual way you operate in the world makes it easier to see all the jewels of opportunities and chances hidden away in the day to day events of life.

Free yourself from old routines. Deliberately disrupt your comfortable life with some tiny changes.

Take a different route to a usual destination. Eat differently. Go somewhere new for breakfast, lunch or dinner.  Start your day in a different way. If you’re a writer, head off to a local coffee shop to write. If you’re studying, take your books to the park.

You get the picture.

Clear the way to new experiences, the opportunity to meet new people who might be the very ones that are critical to you achieving greater success or joy.

Keep doing the same things, at the same time and you’re limiting your chances for those new possibilities. Give yourself the opportunity to grow beyond your past.

2. The riches of creativity

Get out your creative hat and wear it today. Successful living needs creative approaches; lose your fear of being wrong, of making mistakes. It’s never too late to create a brand new beginning. Everything is, and always will be in the process of changing and becoming something different. 

Don’t fight it. Embrace it.

Your family will change, your career and your relationships will change. You will change.

Make it deliberate. Decide who you want to be.

Don’t be satisfied with stories of great successes, go out and make your own.

There’s enough strength and creativity in you to take on the whole world if needs be.

3. Solving the puzzle

My sister loved jigsaws. Probably still does. But even she, with all her skill, couldn’t put the pieces together easily without knowing what the final picture was.

And if some of the pieces were missing or blurred and indistinct so she couldn’t make out what they were, the puzzle would never get finished.

She needed an image to work from, clear and distinct pieces, and no missing bits.

If you’re going to succeed at anything, especially creating an amazing rich life, you need an image to work from.

Your dream is the key to your future. Get clear, fill in the missing pieces, the colours, the heart of your story. Create an image with as much detail as possible. Focus on the happy image and soon the irrelevant things will become blurred and indistinct and hard to see.

4. Work on your greatest project

The key to your better future is YOU. There will never be a greater project for you to be working on than the purposeful and deliberate development of yourself.

If things aren’t working out in your career, develop yourself; read a book, attend a seminar, practice a new skill. If things are going badly in your relationships, don’t try to ‘fix’ them, develop yourself.  Your life will only change when you change. Your relationships will change when you change. You will only have more or better, when you become more and better.

Become passionate about you, the dreams and desires you hold in your heart, the amazing life you can imagine living.

Realize that what you think determines what you believe, and that influences your choices, which represent who you are.

Who you are attracts all you have.

Miserable events and experiences aren’t a punishment…their job is to reveal the inner you, so you can discover where you need to focus your development muscle.

Past decisions led you to where you are. If you’re not happy with your life, or if you believe you could be even happier, then develop a mindset that will set you free.

Decide right now that the mistakes of the past won’t predict your future. Learn to work harder on yourself than you do on anything else.

5. Spiritually Speaking

write-your-life-storyThe drama of life is an inner one, written and produced by your assumptions.

And everything depends upon your attitude towards yourself and the assumptions you make.

Ignore those who tell you that the events and people and experiences that show up in your life are the result of chance or coincidence. They’re simply unaware of the role the inner magic of assumptions and feelings play in creating reality.

How would you benefit by letting go of past failures, past relationships, past judgements that keep you from seeing new chances and possibilities and meeting the new people who could open up a door to your amazing and rich life?

Walk comfortably in the assumption that your ideal is possible. In the end it’s up to you to do what it takes to develop yourself to become the person who gives life to their dreams.

Make this day your defining moment.

Dare to change and grow.

You are a divine being and you matter.

Question for you: What steps have you taken lately to develop yourself?  Please share in the comments below. What you share may be exactly what someone else needs to hear to have the breakthrough they’ve been looking for!

We know that none of us can make it on our own, so if you got value from reading this, even if it were a simple reminder of something you already knew but weren’t putting into practice, please pass it along to your friends and colleagues. Implementing some of these tips can make a significant difference in the lives of those you care about.

Thank you as always for reading, and sharing. You make my world amazingly rich.

Encourage one another

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Shake ups are necessary! Yikes! Okay, I hear you. I’m going to take more down time this summer for deeper healing, deeper creativity, and deeper spiritual practice. Thanks for your sweet nudges, Elle.

    • ElleSommer

      Love your form of ‘shake up’ Sandra – could definitely use some of that myself. 🙂

  2. Great post, Elle! I particularly love the first one, Create a Disturbance. It’s surprising, and true. Thanks for the great read.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Cate, how lovely to ‘see’ you. I think creating a disturbance on a regular basis is pretty necessary, glad you enjoyed it and thanks for taking the time to let me know. 🙂

  3. Joseph Appaloosa

    Well done, Elle !
    The Riches of Creativity” – just recently I found myself totally frustrated with an acquaintaince of mine. For the past twenty years, he has talked in great detail of his imagined “realized desire”. I have seen God/The Universe/Whathaveyou present him with platform after platform that would have delivered his imagined “realized desire” to him. Yet, each time he fails to accept it, he fails to to reach out and embrace those “Riches of Creativity” that have been presented to him.
    And as I pondered on why I was seeing this being expressed – it hit me like a ton of bricks – well, not really bricks but more like a huge wave of Love – not only did I exhibit smaller yet similar tendencies at times to not appreciate/accept my “Riches” but that I MUST set this man free – I have to see him/feel him/expect him to soar ! ! ! Added bonus being that I can also be free to soar by no longer accepting any such limitations to be present in my consciousness.
    Thank you and Write On, Elle !

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Joseph…wow what an amazing insight you had my friend and how incredible that you were able to apply this revelation to your own life, to your own development and set you both free. I totally applaud you. You are my new hero. 🙂

  4. Some great tips here for an amazing life, Elle. Visualizing the future or solving the puzzle has definitely worked for me in the past and continues to do so today. What we can can materialize if we put the work into it. We have to know where we’re going so we know how to get there. Most people don’t want to even start with that final picture – this would be like getting into a car and not typing anything into the GPS and wondering why you’re not getting there. Start with an image, see where you’re going and believe you’ll get there – everything else will fall into places!

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Vishnu – love the way you perceive life and I’m grateful that you shared here. We all want to find things that work and there’s nothing better than knowing something someone is practicing that works in their life. Appreciate your wisdom. 🙂

  5. Marjorie

    Hello and thank you, Elle! This was refreshing and so motivating, actually adding to what I’ve been doing lately…I’ve started reading books again, just finished one and starting another…and I’ve started getting inspired and it’s so much fun! I’m excited and slowly moving towards my goals. Thanks again for lovingly nudging us in the right direction!!


    • ElleSommer

      Hello Marjorie…reading new ideas, different perspectives on life is my most favourite thing of all time. And you’re so right, it’s totally inspiring and encouraging. And you my friend, I thank you for your encouragement and appreciation. 🙂

  6. Hi Elle

    Love this post and you are right. I need more shake ups to delve onto new opportunities, take on more challenges and be a better me.

    Thanks for the reminder. As usual, your posts are so thought provoking. Kudos to you Elle.

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Ikechi, as always, it’s good to hear from you. Shakes ups are good for our heart and soul and thus our life. Isn’t it great that you get to become a better you. The world needs you! I just ask that I handle one shake up before I get another one! 🙂

  7. Hi elle; its been a while. still not getting your emails in my inbox. will have to try a new address that doesn’t have a spam folder. well i did two things recently. one i attended a conference for the national federation of the blind last fall. i didn’t own a pair of dress shoes or shoes suitable for a dress occasion so thinking no one would notice then i wore my slacks with my tennis shoes. no one noticed or they didn’t comment if they did. but it seems to me that if i am going to be professional i need to have at least one set of clothes for an important meeting or other occasion. so i went with my family to a shoe store for the first time in years and we finally found a pair that would look good and fit my big feet. 🙂 second i recently had a conversation with the jehovah’s witnesses. i found them to be friendly engaging and nice people. i gave one of them my email and we are now exchanging messages. so in an unusual place i decided to make a new friend. I hope i am always this open to what the lord and ht euniverse want to bring me. thanks for the post and take care my friend. xoxo max

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Max – it is lovely to hear from you again and yes it has been ages. What a great story you shared. It’s so wonderful isn’t it that as we are open to life, so it’s open to us and all manner of events and people will turn up just to make our day:-) Sorry my e-mails are going into spam! I’m curious, are you using google mail?

  8. Elle, thanks so much for this reminder!

    In line with number 1, causing a disturbance, I gave up coffee for 100 days this year.

    A great little app to help with improving ourselves named coach.me helped me with a great community.

    I learned a lot of things, about the ritual of coffee, the effect of caffeine on my body and sleep.

    My view of coffee has changed.

    Now I really need to dig in to 4, working on my greatest project 🙂

    What’s the most recent experiment you ran, Elle?

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Niklas…how great that you took such care of yourself. I think for the most part, self-care is a missing component in a life of well-being. Love to know what your greatest project is? My latest experiment was seeking for the wonderful in every day during a very sad and difficult time in my life. You won’t be surprised to know that there was always something wonderful occurring amidst the heartaches and challenges. 🙂 Even though, I didn’t always find it an easy task!

      • Elle, what a good experiment to run! I’m glad you never fail to focus on the positive!

        My greatest project is bringing my blog about better habits, productivity and more happiness to life and really make it my life’s work.

        I’m working hard on it every day, if I succeed, it will truly be my greatest project and I won’t have to work a day in my life, as Confucius says 🙂

        Wishing you all the best and stay strong!

  9. Small changes are definitely the best way to go! I like the paragraph about what you think and believe creates what you have

    • ElleSommer

      Hello Kathy…that paragraph has certainly been my experience in life…good or not so good! 🙂

  10. Cheryl hand

    I love the reminders of all the things that we can do to create our lives in visioning it is the first and most critical.

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