[success]A life spent making mistakes is not only more honourable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing. ~ George Bernard Shaw[/success]

The cruelest words you can say to yourself are ‘if only’.

As an author of your own life story don’t wait before you find yourself saying ‘if only’ – begin to take chances now. Change your perspective, create new experiences. Don’t just sit there allowing life to happen, determine how it happens. You don’t want to be one of the many who look back in later life and realize there was nothing in your way, no one held you back…only you.

Here’s 5 ways to get you started on living a life you won’t regret.

1. Become an irresistible force of nature

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

There is nothing in the world that would stop you from being a great success in life if you were absolutely convinced that this was meant to be. Throw yourself wholeheartedly into one desire you want to accomplish and don’t stop until you succeed. Remind yourself every day you are destined for greatness and pay no attention to where you are today. That isn’t nearly as important as knowing you are heading in the right direction.

Believe, believe, believe you can, and the power and strength behind this conviction will turn you into an irresistible force of nature.

If you really believed in your ability to succeed greatly, you would become unstoppable.

2. Double your rate of failure

Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do. ~ Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

One of the worst things you can do to yourself is not try. Being aware of what you want and never knowing if you could have had it because you never tried is a sad waste of a life. Don’t be afraid to fail. Accept and realize that before every success is a failure, sometimes many failures.


But remember that you are extraordinary. You are unique in the world, with a combination of talents and abilities that no one else has. And you’ll never know the incredible things you can do unless you try.

Delight in the new day, in the new opportunity in the next thing you’re going to try, who knows a little magic might be hidden in this new morning. The more willing you are to try the more likely it is that you’ll lead an exciting life of riches, rewards and satisfaction.

3. Free yourself from outside influences

We are called to be architects of the future, not it’s victims. ~ R. Buckminster Fuller

Don’t accept that you’re the victim of circumstance. Nothing could be further from the truth. You have the power to design the life you desire.

You don’t have to keep reacting to the influence of tv, the internet, other people’s opinions and feedback. Take back control of what and how you think, and stop drifting on the ocean of outside influences. You’ll be less likely to run aground on a pile of rocks.

Decide to keep out outside influences that aren’t in alignment with the person you want to be and the things you want and you’ll create amazing changes in your life. Take back your power.

4. Love your body

By choosing healthy over skinny you are choosing self-love over self-judgment. You are beautiful! ~ Steve Mariboli

If you’re tired of looking in the mirror only to see that you’re too fat, too thin, with a nose that’s too big or hips that are too wide, then it’s time to stop allowing your culture to have you feeling physically inadequate.

Pledge to be kinder, gentler, more generous with yourself and do the same for others.

Every day choose to do something good for your body, something kind for your body, because you love it. Dance a little, walk a little, swim a little, eat a healthy meal, think grateful thoughts for your health just as it is right now.  One little thing, any little thing that you do every day to indicate you love yourself is the first step toward transforming your experience of you in the world.

And do these things with intention. Feel love for your wonderful body.

5. You are the one

When you blame others, you give up your power to change ~ Robert Anthony

You have to give up blaming others for the things that happen in your life, it’s a waste of time. No matter how much fault you see in another it’s never going to change things.

Recognize you were the one who thought the thoughts, felt the feeling, made the choices, took the action that got you where you are. You are the one who didn’t say no, or yes. You are the one who decided you didn’t need help. You are the one.

As you take control and release others from blame you are choosing to be free. Give yourself the gift of freedom. You deserve to have success, to know pleasure, create fulfilling relationships to recognize your value in life and to have what you want.

Are you ready to step away from living a life of regret and step forward to the life of your dreams? I’d love to hear one thing you’re willing to do differently in the comments below.

I always appreciate hearing from you and am truly grateful that you share my articles with friends and colleagues. E-hugs to you.

Encourage one another

Love Elle


Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Elle, It’s unusual advice to “double the rate of your failures. I really had to smile at that one. But, I fully get the point and it especially resonates for me today. We need to do more, try more toward our aim in life instead of doing nothing for the fear of failure.

    I don’t think success depends entirely on our actions. Many different causes and conditions come together that affect whether we will be successful or not. But clear, our actions are primary.

    • Elle

      Hi Sandra, I will confess I thought twice about that title but decided that’s exactly what I meant…as Michael Jordan says, he failed his way to success! 🙂

  2. My husband says that I am a irresistible force of nature, but I’m not sure he means that is a good way…

  3. Hello,

    Two parts of this article attracted me to read full article. Double your rate of failure and you are the one. All the points are damn true.


    • Elle

      Hi Dr.Diana thanks for stopping by – I’m so glad you enjoyed the article. 🙂

  4. Elle,
    I loved reading your tips and the quotes that went with each one. I especially loved #1 and #3. Free yourself from outside influences… I once read Wayne Dyer’s quote that you must free yourself of the good opinion of others. I always gone back to that when I feel the culture pressing in.
    Thanks for the advice!!’

    • Elle

      Hi Betsy, thanks for stopping by, it’s always appreciated. I like what Wayne Dyer has to say about the opinions of others I do believe that we often mistake someone’s opinion for a fact of life. Funny that. 🙂

  5. “Free yourself from outside influences”… that is so true! Nothing holds one back more than listening to others who think you should be on a different path rather than the one you’ve chosen for yourself! Thank you, Elle!

    • Elle

      Funny, how we all do, or have done that Cher! It’s easy to fall back into old habits. 🙂

  6. Hi Elle, I really love reading your articles, you never fail to make me realize all the good things i can do to make life happier. Thanks for sharing. I’m always looking forward to reading and sharing your post. 🙂

    • Elle

      Hi Sherill, I’m happy to hear that my articles remind you of how great you truly are. And thank you for sharing…you never know the difference you might make in someone’s life. 🙂

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