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Can you imagine a world where you live in gratitude with greater peace of mind? A world where you do what you love and find joy and success in living each day.

Someone, somewhere is living this life and if they can do it, why not you?

If you want to live in greater harmony with life and create a state of success, joy and gratitude start by taking these small steps and soon you’ll see big changes in your world.

[success]We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves. ~ Buddha[/success]

1. Take full responsibility

It takes only one idea, followed by inspired action to succeed where others have failed. Become responsible for your thoughts and actions and the results they produce and you’ll find yourself living in a state of ever increasing abundance and joy.

Don’t be afraid to make new choices. Remember  you are the shaper and maker of your life. It’s a never ending process. And each choice you make is your responsibility.

As you choose to become happier and more grateful you become an energetic match for all the good things the universe has on offer.

2. Don’t allow fear to run your life

Don’t make decisions based on fear. Every decision I ever made that was fear based didn’t turn out as well as it could have, if I’d made it from the place where I’d let go of fear.

Fear of failure will stop you from living the life you dreamed of. In fact fear defeats life…if you let it.

Be willing to admit you’re scared; speak when you’re quaking inside; smile in the face of trouble and you can be sure you have what it takes to rock big changes in your life.

3. Do what it takes to become the best you possible

You’re in command of one of the greatest forces on the planet, don’t sit back and let it run itself into a ditch, take command and direct this power towards a worthy aim.

If you’ve never been taught how to aim high and fill your life with abundance and contentment, begin today, right now. Begin by getting clear on what it is you want. You’ll be more likely to recognize it when you see it.

what-you-don't-wantSome people spend their entire life focused on what they don’t want and are incredibly surprised that these very same things appear over and over.  You don’t have to be one of them.

Co-opt Abraham Lincoln’s strategy. He chose to learn from the books he read and the people he came across and his daily life experiences.  He’d invest time contemplating the ideas he picked up and began to develop their use in his own life.

Successful people aren’t successful by accident, they have successful habits. Emulate them.

4. Learn to live authentically

Be yourself.  You are uniquely amazingly, fabulously you. Don’t allow anyone to tell you that you’re not enough, that you don’t measure up.  Cherish yourself as you are.

Are you perfect? Unlikely.

You’re an evolving, growing, developing human being. Every error of judgement, every mistake you might make or have made carries within it seeds of grace.

Take a stand. Continue to challenge yourself to honour your truth. Your future harmony and happiness depends on you living life as you are now whilst growing out of the past through divine discontent.

You are unique in your point of view, with a contribution to make to our world. Decide what your contribution will be and focus your energies on making it happen.

5. Set your ego aside to win the game of life

Don’t be an amateur in the game of life. Amateur’s rarely become champions because they operate more from ego, wanting to win alone in order to have all the credit. It’s an ego thing.

If you want to be a master of achievement take a leaf out of a professional champion’s book and recognize that whilst you might become incrementally better through competition, you’ll grow exponentially through cooperation.

Through alliances and friendly cooperation great power can be developed. Michael Jordan says it well: Talent wins games, but teamwork wins championships. 

Don’t let yourself be controlled by your ego. Recognize that the true value in achieving anything is that it’s a catalyst for growth.  Yours and others.

Be grateful for the people in your life who are willing to help support and sustain you. Don’t let your ego insist you go it alone, be open to receive all the help you can get.

6. Hot wire your brain for the good things in life

You always have one of two things going on in your mind. You’re either thinking about what’s right in the world or what’s wrong. Most of us want to live in a state of peace, but never develop the right mental attitude to achieve it. Watch your inner speech if you want to dwell in a peaceful state of mind.

Every day is a new start. Today begin your day by choosing a contented happy attitude and your day will tend to be pleasant and successful.

Be strong enough to keep your mind on what you want, live in faith and re-educate your subconscious mind by giving thanks for already possessing what you desire. You have to keep talking, keep thinking, keep your attention on what you want.

Take possession of your own mind, you’re either its master or its slave. As you do this your brain is being hot wired to notice all the good things you’re feeding it. Results will follow.

In the comments below, tell me the one small step that has made big changes in your life. Or the one you think could make big changes if only you’d take it!

Thank you so very much for reading and sharing and leaving your comments. Every week I’m amazed at your wisdom.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Big changes always requires small steps.

    Thankfully, the process of great changes happens slowly and it gives you chance to gradually change to a greater you.

    Thanks for the post!

    – Samuel

    • Elle

      Welcome Samuel, I like your thoughts about having a chance to gradually change to a greater you. Truth. 🙂

  2. Hi Elle – thank you so much for your wonderful post. I especially liked your point on living authentically. Everything it really takes to create a happy and tremendously fulfilled life is to be yourself and to fully express the unique and authentic You.

    If you fully live and express your unique energy and vibration, your life will be one marvelous symphony and this symphony will give you more joy, happiness and fulfillment that ANYTHING else could ever give you.

    As long as you are not you, the universe is not complete, the part that is supposed to be You will be missing and as long as you are missing as long as you are not You, you will always have the feeling that something within you is missing and as long as this is the case, you won’t be able to experience complete happiness and fulfillment – no matter what you may achieve, how famous you may become, how much money you may have… the essence, the really important thing will always be missing.

    • Elle

      That is just a beautiful comment Robert. Amazingly wonderful an impressive. Thank you. 🙂

  3. Elle,
    I appreciate the clarity you express in these steps. I find your first point is so important and the foundation to a happier life. If we don’t take responsibility for our thoughts, words, and actions we’re always be focused on the external and life will be a bumpy ride.

    I also really appreciate your emphasis on cooperation rather than competition. That could change the world!

    • Elle

      I do believe that too Sandra. Once we get that we’re all one it becomes a natural part of the process to cooperate. What do you think gets in the way of cooperation? 🙂

  4. Love the thought that the true value in achieving anything is that it can act as a catalyst for both our own growth and that of others too–takes the ego out of the equation when it comes to achievement. Thanks for a wonderfully supportive post!

    • Elle

      Hi Audrey and welcome to the conversation. I’m happy you enjoyed it and I’m grateful you took the time to say so. E-hugs. 🙂

  5. Hi Elle; thanks for this post on mindset and how our lives are at our own control should we choose to control our thoughts. and i like this line from the new shlock holmes show called elementary. the actor that plays sherlock says I have thrived here not because of who I have become but because of who I’ve come to know. This goes back to the idea of reading good books and surrounding yourself with positive people. by the way i used a different link because I am featured in the post there and wanted to help promote it. Hope that was okay. Take care, max

    • Elle

      Interesting Max how our awareness allows us to hear and see and pick up whats in harmony with our consciousness. I like that you notice these things in tv shows and I like that writers awareness too. And your link is just fine. 🙂

  6. Thank you so much for such an inspiring read! You’re a great source of quotable quotes, did you know that?

    “Every day is a new start. Today begin your day by choosing a contented happy attitude and your day will tend to be pleasant and successful.”

    I think the one thing I did that made big changes in my life was learning to control myself when it comes to making decisions. It’s obviously not a small step and it took me a while to pull it off but it was the one thing that enabled me to really “see” clearly. I’m someone who tends to overplan and then becomes impatient to do something right away because I think I’m ready.

    Regular self evaluation helps a lot!

    • Elle

      Wow Glori, that’s a biggie. I’d love to hear more about what steps you took to be more in control of your decision making process. And you are so right about regular self examination. A question I often ask myself is ‘who am I being in this moment – am I coming from love or fear’? It becomes clear really quickly what I’m up to…not always to my credit I will add…thank goodness we get to be perfectly imperfect. 🙂

  7. Wonderful suggestions, here Elle. Be yourself is the one that jumped out to me. That is where it all starts. When you embrace your strengths and accept your weaknesses, life can begin to change in a positive direction. Take care and thanks for another great post of encouragement!

    • Elle

      Hi Cathy, and thank you for the encouragement you bring to so many people who are dealing with the challenges of addictions, one way or another. 🙂

  8. Partnering with like minded people on a recent project has been life changing. You’re right, an alliance is so important.

    • Elle

      That sounds like an amazing experience Poppy. What a blessing, it will be interesting to take a peek at your growth as the alliance expands. 🙂

  9. I wish there was some magic we could use to get this message through to those we love who that are stuck in the muck of negativity and fault-finding. It’s very frustrating.

    • Elle

      Hi Debi, nice to see you again. Sadly we can only hear when we’re ready. All we can do is hold everyone in our mind in the best possible light and choose to see them happy. 🙂

  10. I have a situation I am faced with that is very hurtful, among other things. The things I have learned (and continue to learn) from you have helped me handle it with dignity and grace without selling myself short. Thank you, Elle!

    • Elle

      I’m so sorry to hear of your experience Cher…but I do hope you’re giving yourself the credit you deserve for your reaction to it. Our reactions to life are what either keep us imprisoned in the old habits of being, or open the door to new and greater experiences. I’m thrilled for you. If I can ever be of any help at all…you know where to find me. 🙂

  11. “I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.” This quote came to my mind upon reading the first point. We always have choices to make no matter the situation we are in. And those choices could either bring you closer to where you want to be, or away from it.

    “you might become incrementally better through competition, you’ll grow exponentially through cooperation.” ==> This is so true. We are biologically wired to naturally cooperate.

    I like this quote by Henry Ford: “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is a progress; working together is a success.”

    Elle, your articles are all so similar… yet different somehow. Heh.

    • Elle

      Hi Jeremy I’ve always been fond of the Henley poem and it sounds as though my posts are a little like our daily life, similar yet different. How cool. 🙂

  12. Don’t let your ego stop you from accepting help … and it’s that same ego that doesn’t allow people to cooperated with others. Ego, it is good in it’s place, but too much and it hurts everyone. Thanks again for the great post Elle.

    • Elle

      So right Linda. We need an ego to keep us from doing really stupid things that will hurt us…but letting it run the show…not so good. 🙂

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