[success]The difficulty lies not so much in developing new ideas as in escaping from the old ones. ~ John Maynard Keynes[/success]
This could be the best time of your life. The best financial time, the best emotional time, the best spiritual time. But you need to take control of your state of mind if you want this to be true for you, because, in the end our life is judged by the things that we complete. And we need focus to help make that happen.
Maybe you want a better life, but find it difficult to do what’s necessary to make changes.
You might want to experience growth, but don’t find change very comfortable.
Perhaps you want to stop getting upset about things, but your mind insist on re-running every drama.
Or you want to be filled with self-confidence yet still find yourself feeling overly concerned with fitting in, worrying about what others might think.
Wherever life finds you today, by managing your thoughts, feelings and behaviours you can set yourself up for all the success you can imagine. Here’s a few steps to keep it simple:
Ask better questions for a more passionate productive life
When I was 5 I was incredibly shy which made me an ideal target for bullies. My aunt offered me money to go and hit someone who’d been hitting me, asking me if I thought it was ok for others to hit me. My mum told me if I asked lousy questions, I’d only get lousy answers. I needed a better question.
If you’ve been asking yourself ‘why does this always happen to me’, ‘how can I get through the day’…you’re asking the wrong question and the answers your mind will come up with won’t support you in making helpful changes. You’re focused on what’s wrong.
If you ask yourself ‘how can I make today great’, ‘what will I celebrate today’, ‘what’s the most important thing I can do for myself today’, ‘how can I be of service today’, you’ll be rewarded with more uplifting answers. The choice is simple, be a passenger or the captain of your life.
Create better rituals and patterns for a more passionate productive life
We’re all controlled by our patterns and rituals. Our first thing in the morning ritual, our heading out to exercise or not ritual, our managing our day ritual, our getting ready for bed ritual. Even the way we ask questions is a ritual we’ve created which becomes a pattern of being.
Everything affects everything else. Your life develops from your patterns and to create a better life you need to make better decisions. Which means creating better patterns.
Doing what it takes isn’t always easy, it requires determination and discipline. But I promise you, the rewards will be phenomenal.
You already have rituals in your relationships, in your finances, with your body, and everything in between. Challenge yourself and take control of the state of mind you live in. If you want something new you have to let go of something old.
Remember, we are what we repeatedly do.
Ask yourself if the rituals and patterns you have in place are truly serving you, if the answer is no, replace them. One at a time.
Don’t talk yourself out of your dreams
If you’re a natural worrier, and I remember when that used to be me, it isn’t helpful to sit and stew in all the things that bother you. There’s no greater way to talk yourself out of your dreams and desires.
No matter how hard it is, letting your “big” worry out into the light and talking about it with someone close to you, allows you to see it more clearly.
You don’t have to suffer, take a deep breath and remind yourself the only thing that’s creating worry right now are the thoughts you’re thinking. You are the cause of your worry or fear.
It’s easier to deal with worries if you track them.
Write them down.
Stay patient, stay positive…don’t let your worries get the best of you. Once you begin to see your common worry themes; the places you’re most vulnerable…you’ll be better able to stop those thoughts dead in their tracks.
Be a selective listener
Stop taking your thoughts so seriously. Remember that your memory can be faulty which makes your thoughts pretty inaccurate too.
Don’t believe yourself. This is a difficult one to grasp, but think about all the things you’ve been told.
Don’t believe the voice that says you’re not good enough.
Don’t believe you’re not smart enough.
Don’t believe you’ll never make anything of yourself.
Don’t believe you’re not important.
Don’t believe you’re not worthy of love, of success, of happiness.
Don’t believe any of it, because it’s not true. Even if something seemed true yesterday, today is another day.
Don’t be so filled to the brim with beliefs that aren’t true that nothing else can get in.
Be brave enough and bold enough to see yourself being the greatest version of you. Don’t let your thoughts rob you of your joy and greatness.
Begin the journey of today, by letting go of yesterday. You CAN do this.
Recharge your batteries find fun ways to have a more passionate productive life
If you knew, really knew that life was just a short segment in a bigger game what would you do? How would you live? Would you live a quiet life, filled with desperation and fear or would you live a gigantically, huge, gi-normous, bold and bright, dazzling and brilliant life?
Would you have some fun? Or would you use your time criticizing, judging and feeling miserable?
When your spirit hurts, when you need a little healing go somewhere and have fun. Restore your sense of balance. It doesn’t have to cost money, you can find fun everywhere, rolling around in the grass, running and jumping over ocean waves, playing with kids or with your dog.
Go and do something totally off the wall for you, something outrageous. You’ll find nothing seems quite so dire when you’ve laughed and lived in enjoyment, even for a short while. Reward yourself every day.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below. What’s keeping you from having the best time of your life? Do any of these steps ring a bell?
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Encourage one another.