The outer conditions of a person’s life will always be found to be harmoniously related to his inner state…Men do not attract that which they want, but that which they are. ~ James Allen
We’re all feeling our way through this miraculous life of ours.
We’re not always as strong as we would like to be; we don’t always occupy a state where nothing can touch our peace of mind.
We don’t always see others as the beautiful, brilliant, magnificent beings they are.
We might not always see the sunny side of life and, for many, optimism is out of reach, whilst pessimism somehow always seems available to come along for the ride.
And, more often than not, we forget to think well of ourselves and, heaven help us, were probably taught some version of the idea that self-praise is no recommendation. I remember hearing that my own self.
We often find it hard to see how our beliefs influence our choices, or how our perceived deficiencies, or our hurts, cause us to fly off the handle or withdraw into feeling sorry for ourselves.
And it’s even more challenging to see that habits like procrastination or a lack of imagination have us continually stuck in situations that serve no one, especially not us.
We are where we are today because our old thoughts led us there, and tomorrow we’ll be where our new thoughts take us.
And yet many of us remain oblivious to this internal process.
In fact, we often can’t see ourselves at all because we are on a recurring loop, too busy thinking and doing, without noticing what we are thinking, or why we do what we do.
But for each of us there is a way to step out from the shadow of where we were, or who we currently are, and fly as high as we choose, where we can live a life that nourishes and fulfills us. The one that is perfect just for us.
Our minds are built to gain knowledge through repetition which is a blessing we can use and count on.
We are the makers of every habit of thought we have and we can choose to alter them.
Even thoughts that might be difficult to hold in mind, will eventually if repeatedly focused on, become a natural part of our being. And therein lies our power.
You can assume new habits that will rock your life.
Begin each day with a review…play out in your mind’s eye conversations you’d like to have and in your imagination listen to the response you want to hear.
Have the day unfold into your ideal.
Imagine how you felt today.
Did you have fun, did you enjoy the blossoming of previous seeds you’d planted.
Decide on the ideal outcome for each experience you’d like to have this day and have it play out like a movie in your mind, with you in the starring role of course.
Review your day mentally as though it were early evening and you were enjoying the memory of success and happiness, feeling relaxed and contented.
Don’t ask what’s possible, decide what was possible and then envision it.
Communication isn’t simply about speaking, it’s about listening. Listening with the heart. We don’t connect with one another through only our words, we connect through our hearts. We not only hear what’s being said, we feel it.
We need to practice being present.
I had to learn to switch my attention from what I was working on and practice turning away from my computer, or putting down that book or pen, in order to be present in the moment with my companion. And we can’t be formulating our response whilst someone is speaking to us.
As we truly pay attention to each other a wonderful thing happens, we are breathing greater life into our connection and it pays huge dividends in our world. It could mean the difference between a successful outcome or not.
You must be relentless in being the maker of your own blessings. The more you can claim and own the happiness that is yours for the asking in each brand new day, the less time you have to be critical of yourself or others. You’re too busy with happiness to look for worry or troubles.
You always have choices: seek happiness in the day or focus on the challenges. Okay, we might still have challenges to manage, but that doesn’t stop us from seeing happiness.
Every day is filled with hundreds of minutes, and just because one of them, or five of them, is hard doesn’t mean they all have to be.
4.Hang on to your power
If I do something, if I say something and you react to it, then I’m in charge of you. You’ve handed over your power to me…thank you very much.
The second we react to a situation or event, then it’s in charge of us.
Here we are with the most fabulous thing called life and we’re bouncing around reacting to this here and that there. No wonder we get sick, no wonder our bodies and hearts and spirits break down, we’re swirling around in a vibration of chaos. And we’re opening ourselves up to the whims and mercy of each experience that comes our way.
We have a choice with each and every experience that shows up; we can mindlessly react from our old conditioned habits or we can create what we want from a space of positivity.
The possibilities are endless once we decide to respond and not react. Hang on to your power.
We need uninhibited, unabashed, blunt honesty with ourselves about where we currently are. We can rationalize anything and often do.
It doesn’t matter where we are on the scale of being, growth isn’t a competition. Truth washes away old habits that get in the way of us radiating who we are now.
It doesn’t make any difference what you did, or where you’ve been or who you were, what matters is where you are right now and what you’re doing right now.
Be willing to shine today, or don’t shine. Shining isn’t mandatory. Forget your imperfections, in fact, embrace them. Get out there and play the music of your heart and don’t let anyone shut you up.
You can spend your life letting the world tell you who you are, or you can choose for yourself.
Choose to be awesome. Then prepare to be amazed.
Now for an action challenge: Look within and ask, what one habit could I adopt that would make the biggest difference in my life right now? It doesn’t have to be one of these, any habit that feels good to you will work.
And let us know in the comments below. What you have to say really matters because we learn and grow together.
Thank you for reading and sharing. You light up my life.
Encourage one another.