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Would you say that you’re so strong that nothing can get between you and your peace of mind?
Do you have tactics that help you manage that feeling of being battered by the storms of life, by overwhelm?
Do you tend to speak of health, happiness and success and how everything is easy? Or do you tend to speak mostly about how busy you are and how you don’t have enough hours in the day.
We’re all living busy lives and heaven knows we’ve probably got more demands placed on us than ever in our modern world, all of which are, of course, uber important.
Whatever is going on in your life right now, this minute, whatever facts you’re faced with, however overwhelming life seems to be right now, the first thing to do is to check your attitude. Because the way we think about those facts might just defeat us from day one.
We become overwhelmed by facts because we think we are.
1. Attitude check
We notice when we’re tired, we notice when we’re hungry and have a huge desire to scoff every doughnut in the store…oh wait…that’s me. We might even notice when our feet hurt. Especially when wearing those beautiful looking, but deadly painful, stilletto heels.
But do we notice the attitude we start our day with. Tell the truth now, do you pay much attention to your attitude…never…sometimes…always?
Our attitude is vital to our well being, it controls how we see the world and how the world sees us.
My mum used to tell me that it wasn’t so much what was happening in my world that mattered it was my response that either made things easier or more difficult.
2. Inner programming
I read an article recently where the author was saying that he had taken on far too much work and would wake up each morning in a state of dread because he knew he wasn’t going to get everything done.
This isn’t helpful. I’ve done it myself and created a much bigger drama than necessary.
When packing for a trip I used to say to myself, I must remember to pack…whatever it was…thinking that this was more positive than…I mustn’t forget. But I’d still end up being in a state of overwhelm and anxiety because of all the things I had to remember.
I changed it to I’m glad I remembered. This was programming an entirely different feeling into my mind…goodbye anxiety. I kid you not, it works.
How we think about a problem is truly more important than the problem itself. Our mind really is just like a computer that we can programme. We can choose helpful or unhelpful inner conversations. As long as we remember that what we put in is precisely what we get out.
The secret to living a happy, successful, joyful life boils down to a matter of thinking happy, successful, joyful thoughts.
3. Black and white thinking
It’s all too easy to see life as black and white, right or wrong. Another less than helpful way to think. There are few absolutes in life and much of it shows up as various shades of grey…that space between ecstasy and devastation.
Don’t over emphasize the negatives in life, turning situations that might have been less than perfect into worst case scenarios. You know the kind of thing.
I failed a test, okay that proves I’m pretty dumb and I’d better move on to something easier.
My relationship is over…no surprises there…nothing works out for me.
And don’t minimize the positive.
I accomplished a lot today. But there’s still a heck of a lot left to do and I’ve no idea how I’m going to get it done.
I’m doing really well financially right now, wonder when the other shoe will drop.
You don’t have to either be spontaneous, free spirited, and chaotic, OR steady, conformist and unimaginative. In truth you’re a mixture of all sorts of qualities. Choose which ones to bring to the fore, the ones that support you the most.
I’ve always found rituals to be helpful in all things. Especially evening rituals. If you fall asleep focused on all the stuff you have to do that can’t possible be done, you’re going to wake up in the morning in the same frantic state.
Sleep is a doorway to the subconscious, the inner computer that guides our waking actions and draws the experiences we have. So we need to fall asleep with a feeling of appreciation, of gratitude, of gladness for our day, for our life.
Think of the best part of your day, and if you honestly can’t find one, find a happy memory and take that with you into sleep.
You deserve to be happy, to feel a sense of inner peace, to live your best life. Make sure you don’t let black and white thinking be your excuse for not tweaking your current thinking. Don’t give up on yourself.
You have the potential to amaze the world. Within you is an incredible, powerful self and you deserve to fall asleep each evening in a state of contentment and fulfillment and wake up each morning filled with the awe of who you are and then fearlessly bring this amazing self to the world.
Don’t expect you can change the habit of your thoughts overnight, but do expect that you’ll keep on practicing.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below, which strategy resonated with you and why? And I’d love to hear your tips for managing overwhelm.
You are amazing and I thank you for reading and sharing on facebook, twitter, pinterest and google+. And if someone you know is overwhelmed do share this post with them, who knows it might help them out.
Encourage one another.