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My life is similar to yours, sometimes up, sometimes down; filled with great things and discouragement. Everyone experiences heartache and setbacks. Who hasn’t felt the sting of rejection or the sorrow of loss?
Today, if you’re drooping from the latest down in your life or if you haven’t yet had a dream come true, remember tomorrow will be a new day, a new start.
A new start means letting some things go, being empty of what was full. Don’t be afraid to release old patterns and replace them with new ideas. Being full of past dramas, old beliefs and concepts, past betrayals and setbacks keeps you from creating the life of your dreams today.
Let today be the day you stop making excuses as to why things aren’t working well in your life.
Here’s 4 things to stop doing so you can start to flourish.
Stop asking the wrong questions
You and you alone have the power to make life different, to make the changes that bring you the results you want.
Not everything turns out as planned. And all the thoughts and questions of why it didn’t happen and why it went wrong threaten to overwhelm you.
Don’t view this as a bad thing, because now you get to see all the subconscious reasons that block your progress. Use it as an opportunity to ask the right questions, the questions that are more likely to keep you moving towards the fulfillment of your desire.
What was I thinking?
What beliefs do I know now I have that are holding me back?
What action did I take that created that result?
What action didn’t I take that I had thought about, but dismissed?
Did I ignore my intuition?
Did I invest the time in the inner work before taking any action?
Did I expect to get what I wanted?
Stop arguing for your limitations
Every time you see yourself as a victim, think limiting thoughts or engage in finger pointing you’re defending habits that are destructive to your wellbeing.
Life will always give you feedback. If you’re feeling unhappy, or frequently tired and struggling, it’s a message that something needs to change. Take care of yourself by not ignoring the useful feedback your reactions bring.
You are capable of designing the kind of life where the sparks of possibility become flames of accomplishment…don’t get in your own way.
You deserve to be happy and create the life of your dreams and this means letting go of your excuses, your reasons for why you can’t and haven’t, and all the stories you tell yourself that portray you as a victim.
Living the life you want can be simple, but not always easy. Notice when you’re complaining…it doesn’t make things better. Learn to take it easy on yourself, dream outrageous dreams and believe that you can make something in your life that wasn’t there before.
Always be kind to yourself and others and begin by making the decision to stop complaining and ignore the complainers in your life. You are here to do something unique. Don’t allow others to make you forget that, by getting caught up in their negativity.
Taking responsibility for your life means both your successes and failures. Complaining never changes anything but choosing to have a positive attitude does. Never underestimate the repelling power of negativity…you don’t want to miss out when opportunity knocks.
Acknowledge your responsibility for your life and you’ll be taking control of the future you want.
Don’t put your attention on every small fly that threatens to mar the beauty of the day, keep your eye on that beauty and before too long that’s all you’ll notice.
Stop waiting for the perfect time
If you’re waiting for the stars to align in your favour, you might be waiting a long time. Design your own stars. Acknowledge you’ve always done the best you can with what you knew at the time. And now you’re ready to do even better.
Every new day sets you free from the the past, celebrate them they’re about to release you from the lies of your limiting beliefs. No more waiting for a more benevolent horoscope, inspiration to strike, someone to help you, the right relationship to appear, permission to be granted, reassurance given.
Direct your thoughts and actions to your target right now. If you miss, adjust your aim and do it again. And then again, and soon you’ll be scoring a bullseye.
Then it’s time for a new target. It’s time to become the person you were always meant to be, even if you don’t yet know how to become them.
All you have to do is decide what it is you want and who you choose to be, life is much more a matter of choice than chance. Believe you deserve it, affirm you have it and take as much time as you need to practice the principles that will allow you to flourish.
You might not think you have the talents or gifts that you see in others, but if you choose to believe anything is possible, you can accomplish almost anything. Your beliefs will always help create your experiences.
You can’t flourish if you continue to act in the same old ways, from a heart that uses all it’s energy to maintain the very things that hold you back. Think about it…all the time wasted on focusing on what you don’t want could be invested in adding a new image to your visualizing technique, your ideal life, the things you wish to realize.
Don’t simply expect the best, get to work and make the best happen. You owe it to yourself.
In the comments below I’d love to hear your thoughts. What dream are you ready to experience and what are you going to stop doing that’s getting in your way?
Thank you for contributing to the conversation. Your wisdom and experience help us all to take action on the things that keep us stuck. If you think this post would encourage or motivate someone you know, please share it.
Encourage one another.