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No matter how many times you’ve felt crushed by the difficulties life has thrown your way, or the number of times things didn’t work out quite as you planned, love yourself. Steep your every thought in gentleness, kindness and tenderness.
You are a manifestation of incredible power, you are designed to rise above it all. Own it. We can all create something wonderful out of any mess we made.
No matter your age or where you are in your life, these simple practices always apply.
1. Stop fretting
You might not always win, some days the taste of defeat will linger, but with a burning desire to experience a different outcome and a choice to keep controlling your world, in your imagination, your dreams can become realities.
Struggling for the right path, the right way, the right action and worrying about the present will only hinder the delivery of your dream.
For imagination sets the goal ‘picture’ which our automatic mechanism works on. We act, or fail to act, not because of ‘will,’ as is so commonly believed, but because of imagination. ~ Maxwell Maltz
2. Seek silver linings
Looking back over your life you’ll probably see that what seemed like the most awful, horrible, unhappy experience was actually a blessing in disguise. But we begin to add up all those ‘little’ molehill unhappy experiences until they become huge ‘mountains’ in our mind and before too long the silver linings are no longer visible.
They’re still there. You just can’t see them because you’re too busy watching and keeping your attention on the experience and not outcome that you want. Stop this. Let today be the day you seek silver linings.
If clouds are blocking the sun, there will always be a silver lining that reminds me to keep on trying. ~ Matthew Quick. The Silver Linings Playbook
3. Notice joy filled moments
Today I was reminded of how every day, if we’re awake, we’ll experience a moment, or a feeling, or a word that holds us briefly away from the ho-hum mechanical day to day world.
Keep a note of your small moments and as you read over your collection you’ll see a trend emerge. A simple thread of joy running, usually unnoticed, throughout your life. Precious moments filled with tiny blessings, awaiting acknowledgement.
Build a treasury of joy filled moments; notice them, write them down, they’ll nourish your soul during dark days. A gentle reminder that nothing lasts for ever. Not precious moments, not pain and sorrow. But mostly, giving those moments attention means you’ll be attracting more of them.
I would argue that nothing gives life more purpose than the realization that every moment of consciousness is a precious and fragile gift. ~ Steven Pinker
4. The “Mother Teresa Effect.”
Enjoy life. Live it well. Eat, drink, be merry. Travel, seek fame and fortune, lose fortunes only to make them again. Skinny dip, be a pioneer, fall in love, write a great novel, teach, become a captain of industry, encourage, motivate and as you do, as much as possible let kindness be your guiding light.
Don’t come to regret the moments you were less than kind.
Clear away thoughts and deeds that diminish your inner light. Be the one who’s remembered with fondness for some little kindness you bestowed.
You not only enlarge yourself in the process, the very act of kindness results in an incredible boost to your immune system. And amazingly enough, boosts the health of the person to whom you extended kindness.
Harvard University, called this phenomena The Mother Theresa effect based on studies in Calcutta.
You don’t need scientific evidence to feel the benefits that acts of kindness bring; more joy, greater emotional and physical well being, and a huge spike in optimism. Within you is the same luminosity of spirit that lived in Mother Theresa, nurture and cherish it and you’ll discover that the choices you make begin to make you.
You’ll turn your life around. You’ll be connected to the same power that moves the world.
Guard well within yourself that treasure, kindness. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness. ~ George Sand
In the comments below, let me know me know the biggest aha you gained from today. If you have additional thoughts I’d love to hear them too!
As always I appreciate you and the fact that you stop by to read and share my ‘stuff’. You clearly rock!
Encourage one another.