brutal-mindset-truthsAre you willing to give up who you are to become who you might be?

The hard truth is that the reality we have created in our world is a direct result of who we are and how we think. Basically our mindset determines the quality of our life experiences.

And to have different, greater and more joyous experiences we have to relinquish who we were.  Because those experiences don’t live in our current mindset, otherwise we’d be experiencing them right now!

It’s hard to notice, but over the years we’ve thought the same thing repeatedly, and our mind has become totally identified with these ideas from the past.

Where does that leave us?  Making our future just like our past.  If that’s okay with you then read no further.

But if you’re ready to hear some brutal truths about your mindset so that nothing can stop your journey towards the highest good for you and those around you then read on dear ones.  Because this is your birthright.  A life of healing, of joy of unlimited potential.

Brutal Truth 1

You don’t ask for what you want because you don’t believe you’ll get it.

This is true from relationships to work place issues.  If what you want is in someone’s power to give it to you, then it’s up to you to ask for it.  If you’ve identified with the belief that you don’t get what you want, eventually it becomes your reality.

And it gives you a great excuse to complain about the unfairness of life.

This is a mindset of lack of belief, not in life, but in YOU and it has to go.

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Brutal truth 2

You persistently picture the worst result you can possibly imagine, thinking that this will help you cope should that worst case scenario happen.  It won’t.  It can’t.

The reason success comes more easily to some than others is because they have organized their mind to think the way they want.  Those of us who struggle are often the ones who think against our own best interests.

This is a mindset of wrong thinking.  Don’t do this to yourself.


Brutal truth 3

You bow before the dictates of your current experiences.

Life is a continuous process of imagining more and better solutions to problems that beset us and yet a mistake lots of us make is to run away, ignore or pretend our problems will disappear. Running away isn’t a race we will ever win. 

Why do this, when you have available to you the most powerful, creative device in the universe. Truth be told you don’t have to accept life the way that it is if you’re living a life you wouldn’t deliberately choose.

Assert your supremacy of your imagination over the facts that life would have you believe are set in stone. Circumstances can never change unless and until we change the mindset that produced them. 

So stop trying to change circumstances before you change your mindset…you’re struggling against nature.

This is a mindset of accepting that facts can’t change and it’s simply not true.  They’re changing all the time.

Brutal truth 4

Self-pity/victim mentality.


This is a mindset that kills any chance of joyful living. It helps no-one least of all you. Ask yourself, what patterns can I see in my life and you’ll discover a thread that always leads back to you.

We’ve learned enough to know that all that happens to us is caused from within. 

So what keeps repeating itself in your life? It may be recurring illnesses, patterns of failing in careers or struggling financially or abusive partners?

Instead of complaining about how unlucky you are…look within and see what beliefs, what states of mind are being revealed. Awareness is the only way.

By looking at the events that persistently appear in your life you can take the steps necessary to change the mindset that created them.  That is how you gain control over your life.

And that’s the point. 

Understanding the mindset that keeps you stuck where you are is about making the very best of yourself and fulfilling your unlimited potential. All while you are having fun with the process of life.

Remember a new life is but a new mindset.

Go for it and let the true beauty of who you are shine through.

Final thoughts

Find ways to ask for what you want. People aren’t mind readers and you might be surprised at how easy it was to get your needs met. But you’ll have one less thing to complain about!

Stop imagining worst case scenarios.  Why would you fill your heart and mind with negativity and still expect to live a positive life.

Accept that facts are always changing. Even the facts that we like will morph into something else.  Nature never stands still so learn to live with the outer facts of life, whilst focusing on the mindset that draws the lifestyle you want to have and keep.

Stop playing the victim card. It’s unbecoming for a being that is powerful beyond measure and designed to live in a state of blissful happiness.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle



Elle Sommer is the author of 4 books and a workbook. Her latest publications are a series called The Power of Consciousness, and you will find all three books in this trilogy now available on Kindle. She shares quotes, inspiration and positive vibes on Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest. And her greatest desire is to encourage and inspire others to create not just a good life, but a phenomenal life.


  1. Very powerful, Elle. Just a few days ago, I got in touch with a deeper more subtle level of the stories I carry. I can get into fearing what might happen or slip into a victim mentality. My goal is to notice when I’m going in this direction and direct my mind back to the present moment.

    • That’s so interesting Sandra. The concept that we carry stories at deeper, more subtle levels. And having an awareness of being carried into those places is huge. Awareness is so key to changing the thoughts and ideas that bind us to our old levels of consciousness, that old mindset. Lots of applause for you dear one. That is amazing. 🙂

  2. Well that was 4 brilliantly brutal truths that i recognise only too well , thanks Elle great reminderxx

    • I think we’ve all been there, done that too Suzie. And it takes a while to create new pathways for our minds to follow to a better, greater state of mind. Sometimes I wish we could simply grow every level of our being at the same time. But life, magical as it is, has it’s mysteries too! 🙂

  3. Love this post, Elle, and especially this sentiment:

    “The hard truth is that the reality we have created in our world is a direct result of who we are and how we think. Basically our mindset determines the quality of our life experiences.”

    It is so true! We create our experience of this world by how we think about and react to what happens. The limits are in our minds. We are totally in control of that. Thanks for this helpful reminder.

    • Hi Debbie…I’m always in need of reminders myself…so I’m glad I can return the favour! 🙂

  4. Thanks Elle for an amazing post. I love your line about organizing your mind. That certainly makes sense and helps us to stay focused on what is important. The fourth brutal truth spoke to me as well, regarding the value on not falling into victim mode, as it can keep you stuck.

    Well done, my friend!

    • Glad you liked the post Cathy…seems like these truths are universal…which is no surprise really. 🙂

  5. You know, Elle, this is the gist of what I delivered in the sales training programs in the attitude module. People don’t want to stretch for fear of failing, never realizing that not trying guarantees failure anyway. I think half the things I’ve been successful with stems purely from being proactive and always asking “what if”.

    Excellent post, and one that would benefit everyone who reads it.

    • Hi Vidya…interesting to hear that you’ve used something similar in your sales training module. Wise words about failure dear one. 🙂 . Thank you for sharing. 🙂

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