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[success]If you’re carrying strong feelings about something that happened in your past, they may hinder your ability to live in the present. ~ Les Brown[/success]
The most incredible discovery I made about life is that it can be altered by a change in attitude.
What you know is important, but what you feel about what you know is even more important because those feelings make up your attitude. So if it’s a change in life you desire, then it’s to feelings that you must turn.
Our Encourager for the month of February, shares noteworthy steps to manage the feelings that prevent you from designing a better quality of life.
A big warm welcome to the positive and insightful Zeenat Merchant Syal.
A warm loving heart is a gift beyond all else.
I lived my formative years, right till my twenties, in a desert (Muscat). I was never a fan of the warm temperatures there, they could literally burn your skin and make you dehydrated in a matter of seconds.
Sun block and sun glasses weren’t optional, they were a necessity!
But now, after some traveling and being around the cold wintry places of the world, I have come to appreciate the warm temperatures and the sun. Though this past winter was really chilly in this part of the world, more than I was ever used to before.
As the sun took its rightful place of spreading its warmth, so did I shed my icy cold feelings. Focusing on warmth came naturally, and also as a surprise. I noticed more colors around me, more beauty around me and most of all, I love how this new warmth brought about a thawing within my heart.
There were feelings so frozen cold inside my heart, that refused to surface over the years….this new sun’s warmth brought them to surface. The release of which have made me feel lighter and happier.
We all have pent up feelings we don’t acknowledge
And these feelings end up scarring our life, our thoughts, our actions…everything. Having gone through this recently and coming out on the warmer, sunnier, more positive side, I can simply say, please dissolve those stuck, pent up feelings. They might not come out in the most desirable way, but believe me the release is like breaking free from negative anchors that were holding you down.
So, how do we break free?
Two positive steps to warm those cold feelings
Step 1 – Identify the feeling
That uncertain discomfort that you feel while in a conversation with a loved one, those feelings you have wanted to convey over the years but haven’t been able to, those moments when after a certain conversation or meeting you are sad or cry inconsolably…these are the signs and feelings that need to be identified.
Once you have identified them….think “Why have I been holding on to this for so long?”…the answer your heart gives you will astonish you.
Step 2 – Release and Forgive
Releasing those cold feelings can be a daunting task. We each have been conditioned to be ‘perfect’. And without even knowing it, we try to be just that. In doing so we don’t say so many things we should and we shove so many feelings within us we shouldn’t.
If the pent up feelings are towards a person you have been afraid to face, then send them a gentle email or text stating the feeling and tell them you forgive them (and mean it).
If the cold feeling is towards yourself, look at yourself in the mirror and say I forgive me for……. (fill in the blank with whatever its that you are holding yourself responsible for)
Releasing the cold, negative feelings, WILL free you. Give it a go.
These cold pent up feelings left in the cold too long can create toxic effects on our complete being. Once you have showed these feelings the warmth by identifying and releasing them….you will realize what amazing parts of your personality come to light with it too.
Look within, open your heart and let your old, cold feelings bask in the warmth of your amazing light.
As always thank you for reading and sharing and welcoming Zeenat. Hope to see you in the comments with your insights and wisdom.
Encourage one another
Zeenat Merchant Syal – is the founder and writer of Positive Provocations – Healing with Positivity, Love & Happiness! She’s a practicing Counseling Psychologist, Spiritual Counselor, Motivational Speaker, Naturopath, Holistic Healer and Writer by passion and by profession. Her aim in life is “To ease human suffering through positivity, love & happiness”. She wants to be remembered as a person who shed light & made a positive impact on the lives of others.