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handling struggle

[success]One of the tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon – instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. ~ Dale Carnegie[/success]

If you’re struggling with anything right now, remember this you don’t get a harvest without plowing the land.

One of the beautiful things in life is that our most difficult challenges can be the most fulfilling. Some of the most amazing people in the world have known struggle and defeat and found their way to success and happiness and so can you.

You already have everything you need to do more than survive but you can never have too many power tools to support you to struggle less and succeed more.

It’s time you discovered you have wings and can fly. You can discover real joy and happiness and achieve wonderful things. Make up your mind that you can do it and you’ll be well on your way to less stress and more success.

1. Don’t cheat yourself out of today

Live today, it’s all you’ve got. Stop looking ahead for the next moment.

You don’t want to wake up one morning and look back on a life filled with things you forgot to enjoy and cherish all because you were busily focused on what might be on the horizon.

Life is short and filled with truly precious moments, some of which have incredible things in store for you, but you’ll never know if you let today fade away because your attention is on tomorrow.

2. Don’t make life harder than it needs to be

We make life complicated, we’re told success is hard, life is hard and our focus turns to getting the hard things done.

Life seems like one endless struggle.

Change the goal and begin with the easy things like calling people back when you say you will, being on time for your meetings, staying in integrity, eating healthily. You’ll discover it’s the easy things you haven’t done that have made life harder than it needs to be.

3. Let go when you should

There is an ideal person for you.  Don’t hang on when you can see that the person you’re with isn’t the one. If all you get out of the relationship is one big headache without much fulfillment, then you know it’s time to walk away.

Don’t hesitate. Your better future awaits. Value yourself and you will be valued. It is no small gift.

4. Don’t worry about getting more stuff

What really counts in life is how well it’s lived. As you fill each day with kindness and love and compassion, you’ll find you receive more of what you want and that every little thing really does add up to bigger things in your world.

Create a habit of saying ‘this is a great day’ and before too long you’ll look back at a string of good days and be thankful.

5. Make friends with your problems

Don’t expect to go through life without a problem. Everyone gets them.

Bring a positive mental attitude towards every problem and you’ll become a bigger, greater and more successful person. Face your struggles more successfully by acknowledging how much you really can do and then do something.

Remember how you spend your days is how you spend your life.

6. Don’t miss the point of helping others

Helping others helps you.  The beauty of it is that whenever you help others experience their dreams, you will experience yours.

These are the things that give life it’s magic.

Never underestimate the difference you can make in the world, don’t give back, just give.

Don’t be kind because you think someone is worthy. Be kind because it’s who you are, and because you understand the vital difference your kindness makes in smoothing over a rough patch on another’s path.

7. Resist getting caught in other people’s bad moments

If someone is having a bad moment, don’t allow them to drag you into it with them. Refuse to have bad days just because your friend is having one, you’ll be doing them a big favor.

Remind them they could choose to believe that in each day, in all things, no matter how black they seem, there are fragments of beauty if they look for them. 

8. Discover who you are

Choose to wake up every morning being the person you’d like to be.

If you’re not aware of becoming who you want to be, chances are high that you’re busily becoming the person you don’t want to be. Take the time to learn who you are and surround yourself with others who see the brightness that is you.

9. Your success blueprint to struggle less

Once you’ve decided what success means to you, make sure that the choices you make every day are leading you in it’s direction.

Like it or not we’re creatures of habit. And the choices and actions you take over and over become the blueprint for your future.

Concentrate on the things that matter the most to you each day and your lifetime success will be assured. And if you mess up remember every day brings a new beginning and a new ending.

Within you is a bright and shining, wonderful being. As bright as any that’s gone before.

10. Don’t lose hope

You can have what you want. The biggest dreams arrive when the timing is right, when your heart is in it, when the passion is there and when you’re willing to risk it all.

Don’t fall for the lie that there’s not enough to go around. The truth is that if you believe in your capabilities, if you accept in your heart the unlimited possibilities that await you, if you behave as if you’re a powerful, creative being, it becomes your truth.

Remember none of us are born brilliantly successful, we all struggle, we’re all chaotic, love and fear filled human beings and I’d love to hear in the comments below what you’re struggling with and how you navigate through.

As always thank you for reading and if you liked what you saw please share the love.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

Elle Sommer
Elle is the creator of Live Purposefully Now, a website with a wide variety of authors and topics whose focus is on helping you to change/re-direct and navigate your life. She is a self-confessed spiritual junkie, offering a deeper more holistic approach to life. This deeper approach sets you on a simple path towards your greatest future, helps you remove those limiting beliefs that hold us all back and supports you in achieving your dreams.


  1. Dear Elle,
    What a great metaphor: “…you don’t get a harvest without plowing the land.” I so appreciate how you see things as they are, and at the same time are willing to have the best possible attitude toward it all.

    I’ve struggled with fear all my life, but with all the perspective I’ve gained, it’s so much easier! Like you suggest, I’ve made friends with the challenge and that’s cut it down to size.

    • Thank you Sandra, your words mean a lot to me. And I know what you mean about fear and I love what you say that making friends with challenges cuts them down to size. It’s amazing how long it can take some of us to ‘get’ that if we just step back and get a slightly different perspective on things…everything can change. 🙂

  2. Hi Elle; You wrote an amazing piece here. For me I have to remind myself that progress and personal success doesn’t always translate to financial success. I am passionate about my business and the various activities I engage in to promote it. I know that I am learning and growing and in many cases helping others to do the same. And I know the sales and commissions are out there. They just haven’t arrived yet. And I know that there is also a special woman out there for me too. She just hasn’t heard about me yet. At least now I deserve her. Well, for now i have a loving supportive family and a great mut of a dog. thanks for sharing and take care, Max

    • Hi Max, so glad things are moving along so well for you. Life is most definitely a process and the more we grow, the more life opens up to us. So congrats to you on your growth. 🙂

  3. Elle what you said really hit home with me. Especially this, “If you’re struggling with anything right now, remember this you don’t get a harvest without plowing the land.” Man, that makes me think. To get to the good stuff, sometimes the surface gets a little unsettled. Many times it feels like an earthquake… Loving your articles as always girl! Thanks for giving me this today.

    • Hopefully Melissa your unsettled surface is now ready for planting your new seeds. 🙂

  4. So true that those difficult challenges are often the ones that help up step up and shine and bring us joy and more love and abundance
    namaste xx

    • I never cease to be amazed at how much people can do Suzie, once they think they can. 🙂

  5. Hi Elle,
    I believe in making today worth remembering by focussing of the best,and the victories behind me; however modest they maybe.You make an excellent point there about “not cheating ourselves out of today”.I read somewhere that the best way to pep yourself up is to focus on your successes,and keeping a count of them.Just as we don’t paly a baseball game by keeping score of misses, but by keeping count of the hits. We need to appy the same analogy to our lives as well.Keeping score of the successes!
    The best part about problems is …. being positive and calm about our problem.Because You are a marathon problem solver in this life.As long as you breathe you will invarably be doing only this.Solving problems.
    Problem solving is your default programme in life on this planet.There is absolutely no escaping this reality,nor is it sensible to “ostrich it out”.So face your “Goliaths” squarely.And you owe it to yourself to stay calm-happy-positive while you do that.

    • Good point about acknowledging Mona. Too many of us move on too quickly without any recognition for our accomplishments…I think of this as leaking our success energy when we could be harnessing it towards even greater successes. As always you have wise words to share for which I give grateful thanks. 🙂

  6. Hi thanks for a very encouraging post, I really love reading your articles, you never fail to make me feel so motivated. Don’t lose hope, true indeed, stay positive and all good things will come your way. Thanks

    • Glad you enjoy the articles Sherill…I think it’s important to encourage one another as we journey through life. We’re all pretty much in the same boat after all so we might as well make it a good one. 🙂

  7. Hi i really love your post, it is very inspiring, very sincere and real. I totally agree with all that’s been said, Let us all fill each day with kindness and love and compassion, Thanks for sharing a really great article.

    • ElleSommer Reply

      Hello Lynne, I’m so happy you enjoyed it, a grateful that you took the time to say so. Every little bit of encouragement makes for a lot of happiness in our world. 🙂 Thank you.

  8. hello Elle;you wrote amazing inspiration quotes that had touch my heart deeply makes me feel strong and courageous to worldly challenges…….#wise

  9. Hello, i really enjoy coming across GREAT things dealing with PURPOSE and it is very inspiring, very sincere, and real. I totally agree with all of it especially “Don’t lose hope”, i am a published author and just started a website with a blog and I would like to link this in one of my blogs if that’s okay with you because many people need to read this. Thank you , Thank you and Thank you again.

    You can have what you want. The biggest dreams arrive when the timing is right, I believe coming across you and was the right timing!

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