10 Feel Good Ways To Put Your Troubles Behind You

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Whatever troubles you have in your life right now, today you have enough strength and courage to tackle them.  Our challenge lies in thinking we need to deal with tomorrow’s troubles too.

Leave tomorrow’s troubles to tomorrow. And who knows by then, they could have resolved themselves.  It happens.

If you’re in the habit of dwelling on what’s wrong and not turning your mind onto something more helpful there are things you can do to put your troubles behind you.

You can start by creating a habit of being more in control of where your focus falls and when it falls on something other than your troubles it has a way of putting them into a better perspective.

It’s your journey, and you get to choose how you travel.  Here are 10 ideas to inspire and encourage you to focus your mind in ways that support you in putting your troubles behind you.  Put yourself into a state of mind where solutions come more easily.

1. Don’t Magnify

We imagine something more and by magnifying we multiply.  What started out as a little trouble begins to invite all it’s friends to the party and before too long we have a host of troubles.  By keeping your attention on your troubles and running them around in your mind over and over again, you turn them into giant monsters. Focus your attention somewhere else, even briefly.

2. Second chances

Move away from what bothers you by offering second chances to anyone who needs them and yes, that includes you.  We all need them.  Sometimes we need third and fourth chances.  We’re none of us perfect and since nature offers us second chances with every day, with every new second, why not be one with nature.

No matter how hurt or defeated we might be, no matter that we live in a disposable world where most things are easily jettisoned, let’s not add people to the list.

3. Be of service

Sadly our lives are often complex overcrowded and full. We think we’ve no time to be of service. We’ve got our own stuff to deal with.

Place value on having an open heart and helping and encouraging one another. Making more money, watching more teevee, having more nights out on the town won’t make us happier.  Focusing on what’s wrong in our life doesn’t make us happier or more contented. Helping others takes our focus away from our troubles and is valuable to our spiritual growth and expansion.

4. Give up excuses

Most things are possible for us if we want them enough. My mum used to tell me, if you want something badly enough you’ll find a way, otherwise you’ll find an excuse.

I used to think I had to wait for the right time or wait till I had more money, more confidence, more luck, more anything.  Just excuses.  I discovered the right time is actually now. Just jump. Focusing on new ideas, sets up new vibrations of energy and sometimes that leap into the unknown can be the jumpstart we need to get a new perspective on our life.

5. Stop taking things for granted

Take time in your day to appreciate something you have, or some place you are, or someone you’re with. Acknowledge good news, don’t simply hear it and forget about it; have a mini celebration. Keep notes of things you’re grateful for or glad about as you go through your day.

A few words left on your phone work just fine, or keep a gratitude journal and read it through once a week.  You’ll be amazed at how many lovely things happened in your days.

6. Be generous

Not with money, although that can do a lot of good.  Be generous of spirit, do something with no thought of return. Seek no reward. Live like Benjamin Franklin and ask yourself at the end of each day, what good did I do?

And let your generosity start with you. People who love themselves can be more loving to others, those with a generous heart can be more generous of spirit.  Do good, be kind, merely for the delight it brings. Using your imagination, see your friends, family or colleagues as happy and successful.  This is generosity of the inner, spiritual kind.

7. Be choosy

Be careful of the company you keep. Hang around people who talk about how they can, not around those who talk about how they can’t. Spending too much time with the naysayers can rub off on you and before you know it, you’ve become a naysayer too.  We want to be around people who leave us feeling good about ourselves and life. We want to have people in our life who show us what is possible, who believe in us, those who focus on solutions.

8. Be wrong

Being willing to be wrong and being able to say so is liberating. Having to be right all the time is wearying for your heart and soul.  It stems from fear and the need to feel safe and have control.  And it doesn’t work. Life is so much easier and kinder when we give up the need to be right.  Happiness follows, as do more friends.

Having to be right all the time means we’re closed off from new ideas, which means we’re pretty much stuck with our troubles, since if we knew how to solve them with the ideas we currently have we’d have done it already.  Be open, be willing to grow and expand.

9. Be an encourager

Of yourself and others. Every time we raise someone up, we are raised up ourselves. It feels good to be cared for and the closest thing to this is to care for another. Take every opportunity to acknowledge their efforts. Being the most enthusiastic person you can be, draws to you happy things and great people. Opening your heart to others, develops you as a spiritual being and you blossom into your true self, the special unique dazzling you. Added bonus: troubles get minimized or simply dissolve.

10. Drop regrets

What happened to you in the past, the things you did, the things you wished you’d done, the things you didn’t do don’t have to define you today.

Every day is a fresh beginning, don’t take the hurts and wounds of the day to bed with you at night. Release them, forgive, forget. Practice editing your day before sleep, imagining the day just as you would have chosen it to be. Why carry past regrets into your fresh new day, they’re just distractions that prevent you from focusing on the dreams of your heart.

Final thought:

At the end of the day try and remember that the universe is a balanced paradox of ups and downs and ins and outs, and ebbs and flows, so if there’s a problem there’s going to be a solution.  But chances are it won’t be found by the same consciousness that produced the problem in the first place.

By putting your attention as much as possible on things that elevate your spirit you’re shifting your consciousness, within which the solution to your troubles might lie.

If you get stuck, if you fall back, if all else fails take another look at the Steve Maraboli quote above and remember your greatest triumphs sometimes stem from your biggest troubles.

Now, I’d love to hear from you.

In the comments below share what feel good ways you use that help to put your troubles behind you, even if only temporarily.

Your wisdom and experience might make a huge difference to others.

Thank you, as always, for reading and sharing.

Encourage one another.

Love Elle

ElleSommer
Elle Sommer is the author and founder of Live Purposefully Now, a website focused on sharing the insights and ancient wisdom that have collectively changed her life, in the desire to make a meaningful impact on yours. Trained at Coach U and having completed a year long training with Bob Proctor, her mission is to encourage and inspire others to build the business, relationships and life they want. Get your free instant access to Success Simplified ebook and get the tips, techniques and secrets of successfully living the life you want.

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19 Comments

  • hi elle; a friend of mine is unemployed has a brother in the hospital and many reasons to feel down on herself. but yesterday she went and gave blood and came home feeling better for having done something good for someone else. And you are definitely right about not focusing on future problems. a long time ago i watched a tv show. it was a horrible show and got cancelled immediately but one of the main characters said something I have tried to remember. He said don’t book problems in advance. His point was like yours that there are enough problems in most people’s life already to be borrowing trouble from tomorrow next week or next moth and bringing it in to today. thanks for the great posts. take care, max

  • Hi Elle,

    Great Post, it is so important to let go of the past, forgive and move on focusing your attention in the now. We must always remember this too shall pass when we find ourselves in difficult times or situations, we are not our problems, they are passing through and will not remain in our life.
    Listening to music that makes you feel good is a great way to take your mind off whatever problem you are facing, it helps to raise your vibration and sometimes the solution to your problem will appear in your mind as you have taken your focus away from what was bothering you and simply focused on feeling good!!
    Helping others and being grateful for the good in your life also helps to turn your focus and make you feel good.
    Clare

    • Hi Clare, thanks for sharing your wisdom…and love the point about music. I suppose this is why music is such a big part of movies because of the emotions it evokes in us. Every point you make is one to take on board and contemplate how it operates in our life. So appreciate you. 🙂

  • Love this inspiring post, Elle. Love this line – “Take time in your day to appreciate something you have, or some place you are, or someone you’re with.” Gratitude has always helped me leave my troubles behind.

    • Hi Cathy, appreciation and gratitude, great mood lifters and isn’t it amazing how much easier it is for solutions to appear when our moods are higher. 🙂

  • My husband would say I need to work on admitting I’m wrong, but I love this list. I don’t think the victim mentality does any good. The idea of putting others first and volunteering really resonates with me.

  • So many ways to put your troubles behind.. its simply stunning. “You have been delayed but not denied”- that’s what my Dad always tells me whenever I feel down..Thanks for this Elle 🙂

  • Hi Elle, This post came at a perfect time. I’ve been reading or re-reading i should say the power of now by Eckhardt Tolle which has some remarkable wisdom and advice of living in the present moment. He essentially says we have the choice to live in the present and the choice to be present in the moment or not. Usually, we are not but his advice is to simply start living in the present. Why go back in time to something you can’t change or go forward in time to a place that has not happened yet.

    I think we could enough experience enough pain and then come to a point where we realize, that’s it. I’m going to chose to no longer repeat that pain and continue to be stuck in my life.

    Being of service to others, appreciating others and consciously making a choice to stay present are some of the ways I make the best of each moment. An insightful list of ways to stay present today and not cry about our past, Elle.

    • Hi Vishnu, thanks for sharing your techniques for feeling good. I especially like what you say about choice, I think we can easily forget we’re at choice as to where we put our focus and how we’re going think about things. 🙂

  • Hi Elle,
    You’ve listed some pretty workable ways of getting over our woes.
    I find encouragement works the best.And among our encouraging actions the best are the ones we direct at our own selves.
    Yes I’m talking about self encouragement.It is actually very important.
    talking to ourselves,remiding ourselves about our triumphs,or our talents are some of the few ways to do this.This is not an exhaustive list but it works wonders.
    Thanks
    Mona

    • Hi Mona, as always it’s good to see you and get your words of wisdom. We are in agreement on so much…and encouragement is exactly what we all could use a daily dose of. We’re often so harsh with ourselves when a little love would go such a long way for us to have happier days. 🙂

  • Thank you for all your advice. I personally believe that the more you read about the ways to feel good the more the thoughts are intergrated into our minds.

    • Hi Freya how nice of you to stop by and leave a comment. I agree with you 100%…I immerse myself in uplifting and expanding reading every single day – it helps keep me on track and focused. 🙂

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