One of the challenges of living in today’s fast paced, multi-tasking, don’t have time to smell the roses world, is that we miss the opportunity to see the miracles, the joy, the boundless good that surrounds us.
We rush from one thing to the next with hardly a chance to savour any of it. Our successes pass us by in a blur.
We’re flicking through life as remotely as we do our television and we’re missing the point of the whole shooting match.
Have you noticed that as a society, material success, the search for wealth, health and happiness and instant gratification fill our airwaves and are in our faces on every magazine cover? Life is full of winners and losers, based on someone else’s definition of what that is. And heaven knows we all want to be winners. Don’t we?
But what are we actually winning?
Each demand we respond to is really one we place upon ourselves and yes they might all seem to be vital to our life, after all that’s what we’re told on a daily basis. But this is how you and I reach saturation point. Lovingly called burnout.
Here’s a little secret if you have to convince yourself that this goal or that obligation is absolutely necessary when your inner self says otherwise, you should listen to your inner self. It knows best.
The simple secret
This is the one true secret, the one cause for making and maintaining your ideal life. You don’t need to be rushing around trying to be a winner based on someone else’s perspective.
Everyone simply wants to be happy. This underlies every desire we have, be it for greater wealth, health, relationships…anything.
Learning how to think is the key. No pressure, no rushing around, no missing out on the joys that exist every single day.
Learn to think of current experiences only in terms of happy outcomes.
Learn to concentrate on what you want.
Learn not to think from old events or conditions.
Learn not to complain, only to decide what you’d rather have.
Learn to choose your thoughts wisely.
Learn to remember there is no power outside of you at work in your life.
Learn to take care of the inner things and the outer will take care of itself.
Learn that persistent thinking in one direction will take you there.
Learn to more often see others experiencing the best and it will soon appear for you.
Learn that now is the time to feel happy and to be aware of joy.
Recently I was looking at someone who, in the old days I would have believed, needed to change and yes, sad to say, I would have worked on them thinking the world would be better if they would be different.
Well, at least my world would be. And yes, I know that’s pretty cringeworthy…just keeping it real my darlings.
Today I’m looking at my reactions and recognizing that I’m not totally awake since I have an old mechanical, automatic, reaction that needs to be changed. Me that has to change…not the other person.
I don’t want to experience the fruits of that state, I don’t think they’d be sweet enough for me, and I have a super deluxe sweet tooth!
So I’m choosing to control my thoughts, and allow only those that conform to my ideal to flow from me, knowing that my world will reshape itself in harmony with any new thought I have, provided it’s a thought connected to a feeling.
Each time an old thought enters, instead of dwelling on it, I say to myself it’s just a thought and instantly the power it had dissipates and I can get back to my new, more lovely way of thinking.
I can’t keep these old reactions and move into a new and higher state containing all the things I desire.
The person I desire to be, the ideal me that I have in mind, can’t be brought about without a change in my reactions to life. If I’m faithful to this ideal my reactions will fit in perfectly so I know I’m on the right track. If my reactions aren’t in harmony with this ideal then all I’m doing is thinking of it and it becomes a pointless exercise.
That’s not the kind of thinking that creates anything new. Thinking as though I already were the person I wanted to be, the one who had what I wanted to have, is the only way.
Our very expectations of something, be it something we desire or not, is an act of creation. So I need to expect the best and that means keeping my thinking focused on experiencing only the best. As defined by me, of course. Your best might be something entirely different.
As my old friend Neville says “I have assumed that I am the man I want to be. I am still assuming that I am he, and I will continue to assume that I am he until that which I have assumed is objectively realized.”
There’s no other way folks. We all need some stick-to-it-ness for it to work.
Meanwhile we need to simply…
If living a life that’s full of wonder and authenticity, of delirious happiness and joy, filled to the brim with meaning and purpose in a way that resonates with your heart and soul is what you desire then I challenge you to learn how to think.
Because living a passive life, without inner direction just won’t do the trick.
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below: talk to me.
I wanna know how’s your thinking going? Do you have any super tips or practices that keep you on track to thinking the best thoughts possible?
Being specific really helps, and remember, your shares and stories support us all.
As always, thank you for reading and sharing!
Encourage one another.